i was just perusing her hotmail account and i found an old email and it contained an email to her bfs boyfriend saying some pretty hot stuff
and how she wanted to fck him
i have been told by her the furthest she has gone is 2 BJ's and that she is a virgin but from what she wrote i am beginning to doubt t hat and i don't know how i should feel . right now I'm on the phone with her and quite apathetic to her cries of inquiry as to why i am so silent. should i be angry or should i try to forget it as it happened b4 we got together? (trust and truth is a major thing 4 me)
2006-11-26 16:15:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Look....you have to decide, were you with her because you thought she was a virgin? I am pretty positive that there was much more to her than that. So, her not being a virgin should not make a difference. Women are funny when it comes to relationships....they almost sort of WIPE THE SLATE CLEAN after each relationship. Not just with the words they say, but they actually do it mentally. Men like the notches on their belts to show off and brag about, but women literally like to FORGET it ever happened, especially if it was not a good relationship. So, maybe in her mind she had a bad experience, and did not want it to count. That does not make her a bad person, because if you look at it, that could be a plus for you. At least you know it is her past, it is over, and she does not even want to think of it. Maybe if after you were together longer, she would have come out and told you, you never gave her that chance, you went snooping in places you should not have been. Maybe it was just internet talk also, you do not know that she did not say all of that online, and then chicken out when it came down to it. Talk to her. You want honesty and trust, then trust her an talk to her, and own up to the fact that you snooped through her private stuff. You BOTH need to be honest to each other.
2006-11-26 17:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by PROUD wife of a soldier in Iraq 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You obviously questioned her trust by going through her hotmail account, and therefore you didn't trust her. However, if it is an old mail, prior to you being wih her, i'd say let it go. It was before you. If not, then i'd say she her sincerity about trust and truth has no weight, and has broken the trust within you toward her. The consequences of her actions is how you handle it. You have to accept being with someone who has proven is not trustworthy, or move on and learn the lesson, as painful as it may be and end it. Perhaps she will learn from the reality of it. Perhaps you will find someone who knows the meaning of respect in a trustful relationship you value highly. Good luck!
2006-11-26 16:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be angry about it. Simply tuck it away as important information for the type of relationship with her that is appropriate. If a woman engages in depraved behavior, she isn't appropriate for a long term relationship because she is unstable. But that doesn't mean you should have nothing to do with her. Just that you shouldn't marry her and probably should say no to a monogamous relationship.
2006-11-26 16:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sadly you went snooping and found something you didnt want to find having said that what she said only emplies that she wanted to f the guy that doesnt make her a liar about being a virgin it still gets me how girls think bj's are so less offensive than sex if she isnt a virgin i dont see why she wanted to lie like it matters she should just be honest it doesnt make her a slut it just says you probably cant trust 50% of what she says certainly is something to think about
2006-11-26 16:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you say trust and truth are important to you, yet you were perusing your girlfriends e-mail? She should be having the trust issues, not you. You are dumb.
2006-11-26 16:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we all have a past. If she wants to be with you then be happy. Don't be insecure about her past. My girlfriend was a total slut before I met her, and I don't hold it against her. I was with a lot of women before her and she was with a lot of guys before me. Deal with it. Don't be a beeyotch about it. Just be happy she wants to be with you, and quit going thru her email. Dude, you need to grow a pair.
2006-11-26 16:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by NightTrainWooWoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with her if she is telling the truth about her past then she has no reason to get upset and will be able to talk about it with you and ease any concerns you may have but remember its always better to talk things over no matter what.
2006-11-26 16:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by mabarbao 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can't be too angry if this was all before you two were together, but it couldnt hurt to sit down and talk to her about what has gone on with other guys, without being too nosey or pushy about it.
2006-11-26 16:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lauraness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honethty ith the betht polithy.
2006-11-26 16:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by The Anthwer Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her past is her past..not her future..you obviously love her for who she is and her past made her who she is today..let it go..being pure these days is being with under 10 people..good luck on finding the virgin of your dreams..she may never exist
2006-11-26 16:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by mojogirl127 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋