Why do I hate Christmas?

Question

What is it I can do for people when they ask me what I want for christmas, it really bothers me to tell them anything I want. It's not that I hate christmas it's just I always feel so horrible during the season because everyone seems to give gifts and recieve gifts and people give me gifts too but I just feel like I have nothing to give back and as if I don't deserve their gift. Now I'm not sure exactly what I'm asking for from you guys may just a kind word but I just know I'm being bothered by the holidays once more and can't figure out why. I want to get people things but I never feel like I could get what they want and when people get me things I enjoy it that they thought of me and I get mad because I hate having to accept a gift that I just dont deserve. Please just somebody give me something to work with, for the people in my life to make them happy.

Answer 1

Christmas is just about showing appriciation for people and giving back to them. You certainly do not have to get anyone a monetary gift but you should be able to do something for someone. Can you do someone a favor, maybe drive them somewhere or help out with something that needs to get done? Or you could make something even if it is a simple as a poem or a batch of cookies, whatever it is that you do best! You should not feel like you have to spend money that you can't afford on anyone, Christmas isn't about money. And don't be so hard on yourself, accept a gift graciously becuase that person picked it out for you and felt good by giving it, you do deserve it!

Answer 2

I am curious as to why you feel that you aren't worthy of gifts. Obviously the people who are giving you gifts must not agree with you. I think people enjoy giving gifts, they take pleasure in giving you gifts, and so just saying thank you and saying it with sincerity makes them feel good. Some people have a hard time accepting gifts graciously. Perhaps they don't want to feel beholden to the person who gave the gift. But what they don't realize is that they can give pleasure to the gift giver by appreciating the gift and saying thank you. The next time someone gives you a gift, remember that you give them pleasure by accepting the gift graciously and thanking them sincerely. If you truly don't want any gifts, perhaps you could find a charity that you like and you could tell people to donate to it in your name, if they would like to. Or perhaps you could tell them to surprise you, or that you would like a gift certificate to Borders or wherever. And, by the way, that is always a nice gift to give others, gift certificates to favorite stores. If you don't have the funds for that, you can always buy everyone a poinsettia, or movie tickets -- or if you have no funds to work with, give everyone a coupon from you for 5 hours of work helping them paint or whatever they need done. That gift is better than any small material thing you might buy them. Just remember, the Christmas season can be stressful or it can be a lot of fun. It is all in your attitude.

Answer 3

Well, first of all, you will NEVER be responsible for someone elses happiness. NEVER.

You are able to influence it, but you won't be responsible for it.

Second, you need to separate your thoughts of reciprocation. You actually don't DESERVE anything, none of us do. And you shouldn't look at a gift as something that is measured up against another that you had received.

Now, look in the mirror. Are you comfortable with what you see? Who you are? Where you live and what you do?

If not, start changing it. If so, then relax. You are doing well, and your cup could be half full.

Now, look at your friends and acquaintances. Are you happy with your circle of influence?

If not, change it. If so, then relax.

What you have now is a person (you) who should be confident and content with himself. And if you are, your friends should feel this from you also.

If this is true, then you are putting WAY TOO MUCH emphasis on visual and material perceptions.

Relax, be yourself. Your friends will see this, then your gift will truly be from the heart, and can be received as such.

And when you get a gift, let your heart sing with the realization that you have friends who care about you, and want to show you in a small but real way.

Answer 4

Honey maybe you a just over whelmed by the expense of Christmas. A lot of people try to out do others when giving gifts. I would just give what you can afford. it is the thought that counts. Maybe you are like me , when people ask me what I want for Christmas. I don't really need anything. I just say what ever you want will be fine. Iexplain that i really don't need anything, so whynot just bring your self. Christmas is out rated anyway. People most of them don't stop to thing of the real meaning of Christmas. It is the birth of Christ.Not just giving and recieving of gifts. Some are still paying for gift in the middle of the summer because they get so carried away, God Bless you This Christmas. Hope it will be a very merry one.Just remember the Lord Jesus.

Answer 5

Welcome to the holidays, most people feel this way, just do the best you can and accept what you get with gratitude. People give you things because they think of the person you are and appreciate you, IF you are not able to get the things that you think they like do gift cards at different stores. Or get them visa gift cards or something of that nature... Good Luck the holidays only come once a year and it will be over soon THANK GOD

Answer 6

Im wondering if you have self esteem issues.

if someone gives you a gift, unless its poison, they do it because they care.

christmas is way to comercialized, spend time to sit back and reflect. You need a purpose aparently.

maybe it would help if you hand made your gifts. That way you know the work you put into it and who its for. there are soo many books out there on that. All you would have to do is go to a hardware store.

better yet, VOLUNTEER! whenever I feel down , giving to someone who could really use my help is the best thing I could have done. You are the gift to someone,and you know what you do matters. A real purpose.

Answer 7

Well you seem like a very nice and thoughtful person, who is constantly pondering others feelings and happiness. Seems to me the best gift you could be is just taking people out to dinner and spending your time with them because after all the best thing about the holidays is sharing your time with those that matter to you. :] Don't worry! I'm sure you will know best... Merry Christmas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Christmas is not a true Christian Holiday. It never was.
When The Romans Under Constantine around 800 AD + or – 100 made Christianity the National religion because of his mother they adopted or absorbed the winter right festivals of the northern countries. The people would not give it up but also had accepted Christianity as a religion because of the Romans and for what they heard of the story of Jesus. The Christmas tree is not from that area but from Lebanon of the Lebanese Pine Tree. A Queen of that time’s husband, the king died and in order for her to maintained power over the Army and it’s generals decorated the tree with gold and silver and told the generals that it was her late husband reincarnated and she was the only one that could hear his orders for the kingdom. Thus the Pagan Tree was born and later Constantine adopted the festivals into the Roman Christian Religion. This was the Roman Catholic Church. Tradition has become enclitic and many different religions have added to what we have today.
A PAGAN, Not Christian Festival

We have supposed CHRISTMAS to be the chief of the Christian holidays. Without asking questions, we have blindly assumed its observance must be one of the principal teachings and commands of the New Testament. We have supposed Jesus was born December 25th, and that the New Testament set this day aside as the chief Christian festival. We have supposed we exchange gifts because the wise men presented gifts to the Christ-child.

But, let's quit supposing, and look into history and the Bible for the FACTS!

The word "Christmas" means "Mass of Christ" or, as it later became shortened, "Christ-Mass." It came to us as a Roman Catholic mass. And where did they get it? From the HEATHEN celebration of December 25th, as the birthday of Sol the SUN GOD! It is, actually, an ancient rite of BAALISM, which the Bible condemns as the most abominable of all idolatrous worship!

It is not so much as MENTIONED anywhere in the New Testament. It was never observed by Paul, the apostles, the early true Christian Church!

The idea that Jesus was born December 25th, is one of the FABLES the Apostle Paul prophesied (II Tim. 4:4) would deceive the world in these latter days.

The plain truth is, Christmas is NOT Christ's birthday at all! And this festival, important as it seems to so many, is not of Christian, but of pagan — Babylonish — origin! But does that make any difference? Isn't it all right to go ahead and observe it anyway? Isn't the "Christmas SPIRIT" a good and splendid thing, regardless of how it got started? WE SHALL SEE!



Jesus NOT Born December 25th

Now let's look to the interesting PROOF! When was Jesus born?

Jesus was not even born in the winter season! When the Christ-child was born "there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night" (Luke 2:8). This never could have occurred in Palestine in the month of December. The shepherds always brought their flocks from the mountainsides and fields and corralled them not later than October 15, to protect them from the cold, rainy season that followed that date. Notice that the Bible itself proves in Song of Solomon 2:11, and Ezra 10:9, and 13, that winter was a rainy season not permitting shepherds to abide in open fields at night.

It was an ancient custom among Jews of those days to send out their sheep to the fields and deserts about the Passover (early spring), and bring them home at commencement of the first rain, says the Adam Clarke Commentary, Vol. 5, page 386 (and 370).

Continuing, this authority states: "during the time they were out, the shepherds watched them night and day. As . . . the first rain began early in the month of Marchesvan, which answers to part of our October and November [begins mid-October], we find that the sheep were kept out in the open country during the whole summer. And, as these shepherds had not yet brought home their flocks, it is a presumptive argument that October had not yet commenced, and that, consequently, our Lord was not born on the 25th of December, when no flocks were out in the fields; nor could He have been born later than September, as the flocks were still in the fields by night. On this very ground, the nativity in December should be given up. The feeding of the flocks by night in the fields is a chronological fact . . . See the quotations from the Talmudists in Lightfoot."

Any encyclopedia, or any other authority, will tell you that Christ was not born on December 25. The Catholic Encyclopedia frankly states this fact.

The exact date of Jesus' birth is entirely UNKNOWN, as all authorities acknowledge — tho if I had space in this booklet I could show you Scriptures which at least strongly indicate that it was in the early fall — probably September — approximately six months after Passover.

If God had wished us to observe and celebrate Christ's birthday, He would not have so completely hidden the exact date.



What Encyclopedias Say

There is not one word in the New Testament, or anywhere in the Bible, telling us to observe Christmas. The Christians of the first century, under the inspired teachings of Peter and Paul and the other apostles, never observed it. There is NO BIBLE AUTHORITY for its observance, strange as it may seem.

Then where did we get "Christmas"? Since it has come to us thru the Roman Catholic Church, and has no authority but that of the Roman Catholic Church, let us examine the Catholic Encyclopedia, published by that Church. Under the caption "Christmas," you will find:

"Christmas was not among the earliest festivals of the Church . . . The first evidence of the feast is from Egypt. . . . Pagan customs centering around the January calends gravitated to Christmas." And, further, we find this truth acknowledged: " . . . in the Scripture, sinners alone, not saints, celebrate their birthday.

Encyclopaedia Britannica has this: "Christmas (i.e., the Mass of Christ). Christmas was not among the earliest festivals of the church . . . ." It was not instituted by Christ or the apostles, or by Bible authority — it was picked up afterward from paganism.

The Encyclopedia Americana says: "CHRISTMAS. It was, according to many authorities, not celebrated in the first centuries of the Christian church, as the Christian usage in general was to celebrate the death of remarkable persons rather than their birth . . ." (The "Communion" which is instituted by New Testament Bible authority, is a memorial of the DEATH of Christ.) ". . . a feast was established in memory of this event [Christ's birth] in the fourth century. In the fifth century the Western Church ordered it to be celebrated forever on the day of the old Roman feast of the birth of Sol, as no certain knowledge of the day of Christ's birth existed."



HOW This Pagan Custom Got Into The Church

Now notice! These recognized historic authorities show Christmas was NOT observed by Christians for the first two or three hundred years — a period longer than the entire history of the United States as a nation! It got into the Western, or Roman Church, by the FOURTH century A.D. It was not until the FIFTH century that the Roman Church ordered it to be celebrated as an official "Christian" festival!

Then HOW did this heathen custom CREEP INTO a so-called Christianity?

The Schaff-Herzog Encyclopedia explains it clearly, in its article on "CHRISTMAS": "How much the date of the festival depended upon the Pagan Brumalia (Dec. 25) following the Saturnalia (Dec. 17-24), and celebrating the shortest day of the year and the 'new sun' . . . cannot be accurately determined. The pagan Saturnalia and Brumalia were too deeply entrenched in popular custom to be set aside by Christian influence . . . . The pagan festival with its riot and merrymaking was so popular, that Christians were glad of an excuse to continue its celebration with little change in spirit and in manner. Christian preachers of the West and the Near East protested against the unseemly frivolity with which Christ's birthday was celebrated, while Christians of Mesopotamia accused their Western brethren of idolatry and sun-worship for adopting as Christian this pagan festival."

Remember, the Roman world had been PAGAN. Prior to the fourth century, Christians were few in number, tho increasing, and were persecuted by the government and by pagans. But, with the advent of Constantine as emperor, who made his profession of Christianity, in the fourth century, placing Christianity on an equal footing with paganism, people of the Roman world began to accept this now popular Christianity by the hundreds of thousands.

But remember, these people had grown up in PAGAN customs, chief of which was this idolatrous festival of December 25th. It was a festival of merrymaking, with its special SPIRIT. They ENJOYED it! They didn't want to give it up! Now this same article in Schaff-Herzog Encyclopedia explains how the recognition by Constantine, of Sunday, which had been the day of pagan SUN-worship, and how the influence of the pagan Manichaeism, which identified the SON of God with the physical SUN, gave these pagans of the fourth century, now turning over wholesale to "Christianity," their EXCUSE for calling their pagan-festival date of December 25th (birthday of the SUN god), the birthday of the SON of God.

And that is how "Christmas" got into our so-called Christianity! We may call it by another NAME, but it's the same old pagan sun-worshipping festival still! The only CHANGE is in what we CALL IT! You can call a rabbit a "LION," but it's a RABBIT, just the same.

Again from the Britannica: "Certain Latins, as early as 354, may have transferred the birthday from January 6th to December 25th, which was then a Mithraic feast . . . or birthday of the unconquered SUN . . . The Syrians and Armenians, who clung to January 6th, accused the Romans of SUN-WORSHIP and IDOLATRY, contending that the feast of December 25th, had been invented by disciples of Cerinthus . . . ."



The Real ORIGIN of Christmas

But if we got Christmas from the Roman Catholics, and they got it from paganism, where did the pagans get it? Where, when, and what was its real origin?

It is a chief custom of the corrupt system denounced all thru Bible prophecies and teachings under the name of BABYLON. And it started and originated in the original Babylon of ancient Nimrod! Yes, it stems from roots whose beginning was shortly this side of the Flood!

Nimrod, grandson of Ham, son of Noah, was the real founder of the Babylonish system that has gripped the world ever since — the system of organized competition — of man-ruled governments and empires, based upon the competitive and profit-making economic system. Nimrod built the tower of Babel, the original Babylon, ancient Nineveh, and many other cities. He organized this world's first kingdom. The name Nimrod, in Hebrew, is derived from "Marad," meaning "he rebelled." (Gen. 10:6, 8-12)

From many ancient writings, considerable is learned of this man, who started the great organized worldly apostasy from God that has dominated this world until now. Nimrod was so evil, it is said he married his own mother, whose name was Semiramis. After Nimrod's untimely death, his so-called mother-wife, Semiramis, propagated the evil doctrine of the survival of Nimrod as a spirit being. She claimed a full-grown evergreen tree sprang overnight from a dead tree stump, which symbolized the springing forth unto new life of the dead Nimrod. On each anniversary of his birth, she claimed, Nimrod would visit the evergreen tree and leave gifts upon it. December 25th, was the birthday of Nimrod. This is the real origin of the Christmas tree.

Thru her scheming and designing, Semiramis became the Babylonian "Queen of Heaven," and Nimrod, under various names, became the "divine son of heaven." Thru the generations, in this idolatrous worship, Nimrod also became the false Messiah, son of Baal the Sun-god. In this false Babylonish system, the "Mother and Child," (Semiramis and Nimrod reborn); became chief objects of worship. This worship of "Mother and Child" spread over the world. The names varied in different countries and languages. In Egypt it was Iris and Osiris. In Asia, Cybele and Deoius. In pagan Rome, Fortuna and Jupiterpuer. Even in Greece, China, Japan, and Tibet, the counterpart of the Madonna is to be found, long before the birth of Christ!

Thus, during the fourth and fifth centuries, when the pagans of the Roman world were "accepting" the new popular "Christianity" by the hundreds of thousands, carrying their old pagan customs and beliefs along with them, merely cloaking them with Christian-sounding NAMES, the Madonna and "Mother and Child" idea also became popularized, especially at Christmas time. Every Christmas season you'll hear sung and chanted dozens of times the hymn "Silent Night, Holy Night," with its familiar "Mother and Child" theme. We, who have been born in such a Babylonish world, reared and steeped in these things all our lives, have been taught to revere these things as holy, and sacred. WE NEVER QUESTIONED TO SEE WHERE THEY CAME FROM — WHETHER THEY CAME FROM THE BIBLE, OR FROM PAGAN IDOLATRY!

We are SHOCKED to learn the TRUTH — some, unfortunately, take offense at the PLAIN TRUTH! But God commands His faithful ministers, "CRY ALOUD, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and SHOW MY PEOPLE THEIR TRANSGRESSIONS!" Isaiah 58:1. Shocking as these facts are, they are the plain facts of history and the Bible!

The real origin of Christmas goes back to the ancient Babylon. It is bound up in the organized apostasy with which Satan has gripped a deceived world these many centuries! In Egypt, it was always believed that the son of Iris (Egyptian name for "Queen of Heaven") was born December 25th. Paganism celebrated this famous birthday over most of the known world for centuries before the birth of Christ.

December 25th, is NOT the birthday of Jesus the true Christ! The apostles and early true Church never celebrated Christ's birthday at any time. There is no command or instruction to celebrate it in the Bible — rather, the celebrating of birthdays is a HEATHEN, not a Christian custom, believe it or not!

Nowhere does the Bible tell us to worship "Mother and Child." The apostles and early true Christians never did it! The Scriptures show an angel saying to Mary, "Hail, thou art highly favored, the Lord is with thee" — the addition "blessed art thou among women," is omitted in the best original manuscripts (in Greek). Elizabeth said to Mary, "Blessed art thou among women." And Mary herself said, "From henceforth all generations shall call me blessed" (Luke 1:28, 42, 48).

She was highly blessed by God, and this has been acknowledged by all generations from that time — but this does not mean she is to be deified, worshiped, made a divine being, when she was merely human. The widespread worship of Mary, as "the Mother of God," the doctrine of the immaculate conception, which refers to her as a counterfeit mediatrix between man and God, is a continuation of this ancient Babylonian idolatry, begun by the clever deceptions of Semiramis, wife of Nimrod! It is inextricably bound up with the "Christmas" idea!

Thus the ancient idolatrous "Chaldean Mysteries," founded by this wife of Nimrod, have been handed down thru the pagan religions into the Catholic Church under new Christian-sounding names, and from there into the Protestant denominations and on to all of us today!

Spread the word because it is the truth. You will get allot of resistance.