I find that the reason my son is in such a predicament is because too many people that made sense never talked to him. Is this the way we should be raising our kids, just each of us thinking that it is the parents job to do it all? How did we get that way?
2006-11-26 15:33:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Unfortunately, in this country, we only get the notion that it takes a village to raise a child from Hillary Rodham Clinton, and since so many people despise her for being a strong, intelligent woman who happened to forgive her husband for a marital indiscretion that is no one else's business anyway, the people turn away from the truth of the matter!!!! I can give you a personal example... my parents were children when they had me, and if it wasn't for the efforts of my maternal and fraternal grandparents, I would probably be a crackhead, prostitute, living on welfare, with 16 babies...
So, in answer to your question, if I saw a child doing something foolish, especially dangerous, I would not hesitate to speak to the parents about it. If I knew the child, I would speak directly to them, and encourage them to go a different route.
I hope this answers your question, and in the future, I hope we can mind our own business when it's frivolous, and NOT when it's NOT!!!
2006-11-26 15:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by purplepartygirrl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This depends on your role in that child's life and if you're in agreement with the parents on how to handle situations. If you are a teacher, babysitter, or person with authority in that child's life - then you have some responsibilty for discipline within that child's life. In laws, friends, acquaintances and neighbors should not intervene unless they are close enough to be babysitting, left in charge or there is a serious matter to call social services about and report the parents over such as sexual acting out and behaviors that indicate possible abuse. I mean, it's like I have friends where we discipline each others' kids and it's totally comfortable in doing so even when we're together because we are on the same page. If you don't see the kids often and you haven't talked about what the parents are doing then it's generally not appropriate for you to say anything or do anything. For instance, this Thanksgiving my 7 year old nephew started blasting AC/DC while playing with my 3 year old - well the parents were right there - so it's not appropriate for me to stop him and tell the parents hey - this isn't right. So I promptly removed my 3 year old and didn't say a word about it - they could hear what was going on and it's their job to manage their kids and if that's how they are going to do that - they will pay the consequences - like it's not my job to butt in on them and tell them how to raise their kids. They think they know it all anyway - most parents would be offended unless you have the right kind of relationship with them and that's to be expected. For instance, my in laws don't have the right relationshipo with my husband and I to intervene on our kids, because they don't respect us - but others in our lives have earned that right because they know and understand who we are and how we are disciplining since it's similar to them.
2006-11-26 23:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by doing something foolish ?
Shooting a gun foolish ? or riding his bike on the neighbor's front lawn foolish ?
And yes - the parents are 100% responsible for the raising the child. And are responsible for the good and the bad the kid does.
2006-11-27 01:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by caciansf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on the situation i would but at the same time i have run into people that have a problem with others saying something to their child. but the parent should be the person who is keeping an eye on their own child and helping them see ahead and know the reaction for their actions
2006-11-26 23:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by butter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would and have speak to the child. It doesn't mean they will listen, but I would hope they would have some respect. I also find they typically stop doing whatever stupid thing it is because they are so surprised I took action and dared to say something that they think I am crazy and are too afraid to continue.
2006-11-27 00:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by searious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone could get hurt, I would say something. However, if a child was just doing something foolish, I'd let the parent(s) take care of it.
2006-11-26 23:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by Nuttie Nettie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I saw a young person doing something that would hurt them or get them in trouble with the law I would definitely speak up, even if it put me in danger.
2006-11-26 23:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by dakota29575 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are a young child and it is a safety issue, then you should say something, but as an older child I think their own parent should be the one/s that keep them in line.
2006-11-26 23:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Sheila 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, it is the parents responsibility to raise their children. if you dont want to instill good judgement in your own child it is no ones fault but your own. quit trying to blame others for your downfall. you failed as a parent all you can do is try to correct what damage you have already done by not being a good parent.
2006-11-26 23:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by pain_made_me_beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Id give advice but not disipline.If its a serious matter,,Id tell the parent.
2006-11-26 23:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋