We have been married for 5 years now together 12.. 2 kids standard package. We got together when she was young and had yet to experience sex so I was her first. For the longest time she was never really open with sex. Recently I talked her into going to a local sex shop to get some toys. She asked if I would like to get a porn? She says sure so we pick something off the sale shelf.. mullets, old guys... she hated it but liked the idea of watching porn. None the less she was hot. Up comes a scene of this girl taking on two guys I asked if she liked that.. she said "Yes!".. I asked if she wanted to try it.. Got another yes. I am the type of a guy who likes to please.. Sooo....
She was a virgin when we met.. do i let her experience this? Just playing around I told her I changed my mind and she seemed truly disappointed so I know she is for real.
2006-11-26 15:29:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No divorce postings please. We have kids. No chance in hell. She would never cheat on me. She would have also never brought this up if I hadn't asked. Now that I have I am ok with her answer I am just looking for some other people who have done this and how it worked out.
2006-11-26 15:38:37 · update #1
That's the thing. I have experienced other people. I don't remember anyone as being steller.. Yeh it was fun at the time but I don't yearn for other chics.
2006-11-26 15:47:36 · update #2
Get a divorce lawyer.
2006-11-26 15:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Think once, think twice, and think some more before you agree to do something like this. Sometimes fantasies are best kept as a fantasy rather than making it reality. Pleasing your wife in this way might and might not work. So be sure to weigh all of the possible outcomes on this new experiment.
a) What if she like having sex with other men more than she does with you
b) What if she becomes emotionally involved with the person in this new experiment
c)What are the rules going to be once this experiment takes place
d) What if she begins to compare you to other men
e) Does this mean you will want to have your chance at being with another woman? And what if your wife does not approve of it?
I have seen a lot of women who never been with another man sexually accept with her husband. Without any other sexual experiences these women were convinced that their sex life was just fine until years later they had a taste of outside love.
All I'm saying, is once you begin this journey, you better be ready to deal with the new monster you have created by bringing others into your marriage.
2006-11-26 15:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a private investigator. Care to take a guess at how many divorce/adultry cases of good marriages I've worked in which the first thing out of the client's mouth is....'everything was great, until we started playing around with other people', more cases than I want to admit. I could write a book on this subject.
Communicate with her! Let her know why this isn't a good idea, because it will jeopardize your marriage if it happens.......it always does, only time tells to what degree.
2006-11-26 16:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by IndecisiveProcrastinator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have been in that "position." snicker.. snicker.. I have been with another woman to make my husband happy and then he brought in another man to fulfill my fantasy. I have to admit it was a lot of fun, and boy oh boy i didnt think the night would end. One after another, i thoroughly enjoyed myself. I wouldnt leave my husband for this man, would never think of doing it with him without my husband there. This experience brought us closer, i think it would probably also depend on ur relationship in a whole. Also we were married at a young age, although we both had a couple of partners before we met each other. Him 3 and me 4.. so we had experienced others, but this was a completely different thing. You know her the best man.. u would know what to do.. good luck to u both!!!
2006-11-26 16:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by snowbunny67ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to thik really carefully about this decision. I know some people who are married and frequently have sex with other people and it works for them, but on the other hand, you don't know exactly how you are going to feel in that situation. The jealousy might drive you mad. I wouldn't want it to be something that one or btoh of you regret. My advice to you would be to try some role plays while in bed first. The both of you can pretend to be other people...different names, different jobs, different locations. You can spice it up by trying the role play at a hotel, or some other place that you don't normally have sex. I would see how that works for her first.
2006-11-26 15:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife wants the same thing. I am not ready to do it yet but she says that she will break me down. I really think that adding anyone else to the bedroom will jeopardize ones marriage. I really would love to be able to give my wife what she wants because i really get off on pleasing her. I just do not want to ruin such a wonderful relationship over one nights worth of sex. I really think that threesome should be let for the single people or as a fantasy that the two of you talk out during s e x.
2006-11-26 15:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by The Tramp Collector 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is such a bad idea...
if it happens, you will probably start harping on "did she like him better" " is he better than me" "is she gonna do this without me next time"?
YOu are setting the scene for disaster... she doesn't need to be with another man.. you just need to be more exciting and try new things..
Tell her that another man is not what she needs... You dont sound like you are doing anything wrong right now, so dont set your marriage up to be destroyed...
Hopefully, ppl that have tried what you are thinking about will give you some feedback on what happened to them when they did it.
2006-11-26 15:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by yo mama 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!! I've never experienced this!!!! You just have to be careful of what you want to open your marriage up to. Do you really want to share your wife with someone else. How would you feel afterwords? Would you be jealous. These are just a few things that you have to ask your-self!!!! Good luck!!!!
2006-11-26 16:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are both excited with the idea of adding a little spice to your marriage. Talk about it some more, in detail, and see if it still sounds good to you both. Then you can take it slow if you like. When you go out to a club, let her dance with other guys to test the waters. If it is right for you, then nature will run it's course.
2006-11-26 15:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you need to try a different approach.......
ask her to see your point of view.
How would she feel if you were to 'play' with another woman?
Get her to understand the implications.......
What if the other woman is insanely sexy?
What if she is magnificent in the 'sack'?
Could you wife cope with such comparisons??
(and maybe you should answer these questions yourself?)
2006-11-26 15:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by ElleMcPherson 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
unless you are bi or bi-curious, I can't see why you would want to bring aother guy into your marriage bed, especially since she has no one to compare with you due her being a virgin when you married. you uncork that bottle and the genie is out forever. I say forego this idea and concentrate on the two of you, try varying things or role playing or even different sexual fantasies. I consider you very lucky to have married a virgin... that is special... don't spoil that gift.
2006-11-26 15:38:13 · answer #11 · answered by azcuriousm4u 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋