we're lesbians, using an anon donor from a sperm bank. i wondered, would it be a good idea to write a letter to it now, or should we wait til we know she's pregnant(she's the one having the baby bc i can't bc of health problems). i just want it to have a keepsake from us, so that when it grows up, it'll know how much we love it, and each other.
2006-11-26 15:10:36 · 13 answers · asked by kelleygaither2000 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Yes. My husband and I started a journal when we found out I was pregnant--we weren't exactly "trying" or we would have started earlier. I think it's a great idea. It's also fun to go back and read it yourself after everything is said and done. I'm sure you, your wife, and your child will love it for years and years. Best of Luck!
2006-11-26 15:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 20:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write it afterwards. If you are wanting to show how much you love it, I would celebrate it's conception instead of just the idea.
I think the best way though would be to start a journal of letters to your future child - if you go that route, then include a letter describing your excitement to become a parent, what you hope to do as a parent and how much you are in love with the idea of having the child as a part of your loving family. You may or may not want to include a list of morals or values you hope to instill - my parents worked hard on openness and breaking the chain of prejudice and it worked beautifully on all of their children.
It's a beautiful idea and I wish the two of you the best of luck!!!
2006-11-26 15:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by -L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely write the letter after you are certain she is pregnant and past the first term successfully then add it to thew baby's book after he/she is born. That is a cool idea. Though I am certainly aware of how much my Mom loves me, she is no longer here and a letter like that would really be cherished.
2006-11-26 15:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Step into the Freezer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say do what you want. Write a letter to your wife now, write one to your future self, write one to the baby you hope to love.
Why wait? The sentiment clearly is within you now.
Also, this is a pretty cool website. It's called futureme.org I think it's .org. Anyway, it's a site where you can go and send yourself or any other email a message to be sent sometime in the future. You pick the date. Try it.
2006-11-26 15:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you know she is pregnant so that you will not put any type of stigma on the baby.You know how some people say not to buy your baby clothes until you are after a certain amount of months.I think a letter is the same way.
2006-11-26 15:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a great idea! I would wait until you know she is pregnant though because the letter will mean more to you both then. Good luck to you and your hopefully upcoming pregnancy!
2006-11-26 15:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetpea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you and your wife have conceived. Maybe write a journal to the baby about how you were feeling, what it was like to hear the heartbeat for the first time, first ultrasound, etc... Good Luck!
2006-11-26 15:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Becky R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you write a letter to someone who doesnt exist? see where im going with this....I wouldnt write a letter until your wife is pregnant and expecting a bundle of joy. I wrote one to each of my kids while I was pregnant and stuck it in their baby books.
2006-11-26 15:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by clubsandra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, good idea..........Just don't refer to IT as IT in your letter.
you can say, sweet child, b/4 you were born, we etc....When we found out your first Mom was pregnant, the weather was sunny, but cool........
I had to work but we celebrated with pizza! or ?
Now we can't wait to go shopping for everything!
Your grandparents are so proud..etc..good luck!
2006-11-26 15:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋