My b/f kinda cheated on me and I don't know what to do.?

Question

I'm 14 and have been dating my b/f for almost a year (he's 15). I just found out that he's been having a secret thing with one of my best friends. It wasn't anything physical more of a big flirtation where they were sending each other sexy e-mails and IM's and even notes and talking about what would happen if him and I ever broke up (he went out with her before he went out with me, but they were like 13 and 14 and it only lasted four months). I feel SO betrayed and now I find out it's not the first time he's done something like this. I don't know what to do. I love him and he swears he still loves me and doesn't want to lose me, but now I can't trust him. Worst thing I gave him part of me that I won't get back and I don't understand how he could do this to me.

Answer 1

LOOK NOTHING HAPPEN....WHATS THERE TO FORGIVE..

BUT IF HE HAS DONE THIS BEFORE..MORE THEN LIKELY HE WILL GO ALL THE WAY SOONER OR LATER..THE BEST THING TO DO IS DUMP HIM NOW
BEFORE IT GET'S TO HARD FOR YOU LATER.IF HE LOVES YOU THEN WHY IS HE PLAYING AROUND WITH OTHER GIRLS? ASK YOURSELF THAT QUESTION........WHATS MORE IMPORTAND TO YOU.....WHAT ABOUT YOUR SELF RESPECT...WHAT ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS........WHAT ABOUT YOURSELF SET GOALS IN LIVE ...THE QUESTION IS REALLY ----WHAT ABOUT YOU.....THATS WHATS IMPORTAND..IS YOU NOT HIM .....NOT IF HE'S GOING TO BE AN *** .YOU DESIRVE BETTER FOR YOUSELF.WHEN EVER YOU GET WITH SOMEONE...TELL THEM STRAIGHT UP FRONT---
YOU WANT THEM BUT YOU DONT NEED THEM. AND STAND BY YOUR WORDS.YOU WILL BEABLE TO OVER COME ANYTHING.

Answer 2

Just from reading your message, you sound like a very intelligent young girl. I think you truly know what the right decision for you is. You are young, and if he is already betraying you like this, he isn't worth it. It will happen again and you'll wonder why you stuck around. There is a saying "hurt me once, shame on you, hurt me twice, shame on me."

I'm 23 and was in a similar situation almost a year ago. He hurt me deeply and I could never quite trust him again. He still wants me back and I am so proud of myself for telling him I could never trust him again and therefore, we would never be a couple again. It's the best move I've made. Now I am with someone who loves me to death and treats me the way I have always wanted to be treated.

You are young. There will be many many more men in your life, and many many more women in his. So if he's already philandering..... it's just a sign of what's to come if you stay with him. Good luck miss.... only you can make the final decision.

Answer 3

He either cheated or he didn't. There is no such thing as "kinda cheated".

At the age of 14, you really don't understand the full concept of love. A boy at the age of 15, not only doesn't understand that, they also don't understand the real concept of committment to one person. Guys that age do things like that to girls your age all the time - always have, always will.

If you don't trust him now, you won't trust him later. Best to move on now before it only gets worse and more painful.

Answer 4

If he loved you, he wouldn't have cheated. End of story. People who are in love will not do anything to hurt their beloved.

Guys will cheat as long as they think they can get away with it. Even if it's a happy home and he has the best wife in the world or the most loving girlfriend on the planet, he'll do it if he thinks he won't get caught or thinks his wife/girlfriend is stupid enough to forgive him if he's caught.

If a man is smart, he will weigh the risk and not gamble with a happy relationship but many men are too immature to do that and will blame their wife or girlfriend saying "If you'd treated me better then I wouldn't have had to get it elsewhere" but that's a cop-out. They rationalize, inventing these excuses to cover the fact that they're just selfish, horny scumbags!

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Where there's no trust, there's no relationship. Drop him and find someone new. Not all men are liars. Not all men cheat. You need to find a good man and not settle for this bad boy. You can't trust him. He's only going to hurt you worse in the future if you let him.

Answer 5

dump him, the key to holding a relationship together is trust and he's already broken that, he has a history of doing this and most likely will do it again, it may seem hard now but you will eventually move on to find another boyfriend there are plenty of other fish in the sea and guys out there who will not cheat on you so stay positive....

Answer 6

You are young and this kind of thing will happen alot ... you just learn from it and become a better person....She is not a friend and has only one thing on her mind and that is to get him back or make him see what he left........ He does not really know what love is and if he really wanted to be with you he would tell her to leave him alone and tell you what she has been doing behind your back

Answer 7

You are young and you have a lot of exciting years ahead of you!! You are going to experience so many things in life after you graduate HS!! Don't put up with guys like this. There are a lot of them out there, and they are not worth it. There are also guys out there that know how to treat a lady.

I wish I would have been told this very same thing in HS. I fell in love with every jerk that I dated, and I thought that the way to get them to love me back was to "give myself to them." It's not!

There are wonderful men out there, so don't let this stupid one treat you like this. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Move on.

Answer 9

Dump him.