my bestfriend and i have been friends for over 6 years and now we are 18 and its time to move out only thing is when we were 17 she had a baby!! i love my god son to death but i dont wanna move in with my bestfriend now that she has a baby becuz its to much responsiblity!! am i wrong?? i just wanna enjoy life and live on the edge and with a baby we can hang out or kick it if a baby is involved!!!
2006-11-26 15:01:31 · 6 answers · asked by prece88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your not a mother you are a friend , you dont need that responsibility, and thats what you need to explain to her in a mature manner, if she cant accept that in a mature way then there you go....look, learn, your young and obv..dont want the responsibilty of a child so keep that in mind also.....good luck with everything
2006-11-26 15:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by stepbysteprichlou 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are right in a way where, this baby is not yours. but help her out alittle, i mean if she had a baby when she was 17 then give her a break. a baby has to be cared for constantly, everyone was a baby at a point. And atleast you are learning a little about how to take care of a baby becuz if anything happened to your friend you would have to care of the baby.
and now youknow how much responsibility there is in rising one. But atleast help her out. You have a right not to move in with her but come on, dont just tell her you dont want to be her roomate for something that she couldnt control AKA her baby. Give her a chance. If you want to do something without worrying about the baby, well i dont know if i can help you there but if you still decide to tell her that you dont want to move in with her then i will tell you one thing, either way you tell her, it wont help her at all and she will mostly get affended alittle about what you say. So good luck to you and your best friend!!
2006-11-26 23:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is still best. Sit down and explain your concerns and what you want out of life. You can begin by saying "We need to talk" and then ask her "Where do you see yourself in five years?" Then tell her where you see yourself in five years. Explain that you are proud of her for being a good mom, but your not ready for anything that requires that much responsibility. Tell her you want to stay friends but you just don't feel it would work out best for her and her child. What is important to her will probably not be important to you. She is a parent and has totally different responsibilities (and hopefully she will fullfill those). You don't have to be mean and cruel...just sincere. If you move in and hate it, then it will only be fights and end a good friendship anyway.
2006-11-26 23:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by foxfire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep it real wit hyour friend but be nice. Just let her know that shes still your girl and you will be there for her but you dont want youir god child to be in an environment that may consist of wild parties and late nights and all that good stuff. maybe u guys can get apts in the same building so guys can still be close but live seperately. she can get a sitter and yall can still live on the edge but tell her to try not to get knocked up again.
2006-11-26 23:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by juss_qurious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha! It happened to me.... My best friend has a baby now n she cant do nething. so its no fun hanging with her nemore let alone live with her... you will have to do this. do that.. ya know... but just tell her an exuse... or jus tell her straight up... that u don;t wanna be tied down, i wanna be able to go out have fun... I am still here for you n your son just i cant move in right away or somthing...
2006-11-26 23:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to move in her her childs father.
2006-11-27 02:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋