My husband recently went on a internet search for one of his old girlfriends. He told me about it but when I asked why he was doing that he seemed to get quite defensive. She lives in another state and is married, but I find it kind of odd for him to all of a sudden have this desire to reconnect with someone that has been out of his life for over 30 years. Am I just being jealous?
2006-11-26 14:59:24 · 18 answers · asked by Jade Dragon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he was looking up several others and she happened to be in the mix, then I would think that there's not too much to worry about. If he is suddenly ONLY interested in finding her, and he got defensive, then I would say there's a potential problem, and if you're jealous, there's good reason to be.
2006-11-26 15:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by Connie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't say how your relationship is w/ hubby, so we have to go on the assumption all is well between you.
If this is the case, then I wouldn't worry too much, but it is a bit unusual for him to make this attempt after 30 years.
I can see why you would feel a little jealousy rearing its heels, but it is kind of funny how come he became defensive when you asked why.
Still, he did tell you about it, so probably doesn't mean anything.
2006-11-26 23:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Gnome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you been jealous for 30 yrs? It's really a waste of time, and its sapping the joy from your marriage. On the spur of the moment haven't you thought of someone, anyone, from the past and wondered how they are, how there life is going? If not, shame on you. I'm sure without even knowing your husband that you finding his search ODD would make him defensive.
Relax unless he's handing you divorce papers and scheduling flights out of state.
2006-11-26 23:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by zorahudson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
,I do not know your husband but deep down you should know him since you have been married for so long. I think he is just trying to find out what happened to everyone back when.
Just curious, I am not married but I did the same thing, mostly wanted to know what happened to them and what they did since high school.
I lived in a small town so we all knew each other very well.
I would not worry about it unless you have proof he is up to no good. Don't destroy a marriage based on fear and suspicion
2006-11-26 23:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may just being jealous, but I would be the same way! I would watch and make sure that it is nothing more than looking her up. My mom and dad were together for 36 years, my dad looked up an old friend, they hooked up, she left her hubby and my dad left my mom.....they are married now and my mom is single.
With that being said...I trust my husband, but I know that he is still human!
2006-11-26 23:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just curious about what happened to her, where she is in her life...whatever.....I got the email of an old boyfreind from 30 yrs ago this past summer....I contacted him....we exchanged 3 or 4 emails.....Traded info on each others lives & old pals that we both knew.....Nothing since....he is married, I am divorced....He wanted me to call him....but i would not,,,We were caught up....I didn't think it was appropriate....The moral of this is....it may be innocent.....But I think that your feelings (jealousy) are totally normal......
2006-11-26 23:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will look up all kind of things on the Internet just to be doing it to people to porn,I wouldn't get in an up roar unless he moves ahead on more info on her and emails,but again him getting in a defensive with you about it, sounds like more to it or he wouldn't have done that, just keep a sharp eye on him be for it gets out of hand.
2006-11-26 23:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just curious about her although if this upsets you, he should be more considerate of your feelings. Obviously she's already married and it's been 30 yrs since so you probably have nothing to worry about, unless this becomes an obsession of his.
2006-11-26 23:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by jdhs 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He told you about it .. that is good. Dont worry, He probably is just getting up in his years and starting thinking of his life and wondered what happened to her because they were once together. Thats all, dont read to much into it.
2006-11-26 23:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by Majettza 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope you are not jealous. After 30 yrs he should care less about what old girlfriends are up to or how they are doing.
2006-11-26 23:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋