Like usually people try and look like they have everything together on the outside, but on the inside they're a total wreck. For some reason I want people to feel sorry for me. I dont know why. I dont want to be that kind of person. How do I not be that kind of person who desires to be pitied and who pities themself?
2006-11-26 14:43:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Don't be afraid to show the wreck on the inside. Most people use a lot of energy trying to supress all those feeling they have. They should be finding an outlet for them instead. Music, reading, nature, hobbies, people the outlets are endless really. Sounds like you want people to feel sorry for you because you feel like you have to hide your feelings and if people feel sorry for you then you feel understood or validated. I mean I feel sorry for myself and then I realize that it's up to me to do something about it. So try and realize that it's your life and you can't expect others to make you feel any better. You have to work it all out and make your own decisions.
You need to ask yourself why you feel this way. Find the pattern by writing down all the reasons you feel sorry for yourself and what you want other people to feel sorry for.
Then ask yourself what you can do to solve these problems. Where there is a will there is a way. Are you willign to find the way no matter what? I hope so and if you are nothing will stop you. No one is normal and everyone has problems. Don't freak out if life goes wrong if your a failure. Just keep on trying because that's really all anyone can do. And if you need help with this send me an email and I'll do what I can.
Jamie
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2006-11-26 14:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by jbirdj623 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally have found that self pity is more an attention seeker than a cry for help. The best way to solve such a problem is to seek attention in a different way, such as through showing great dedication to the things you do best. That way, others will recognize your greatest strengths and you will build confidence and perhaps become a little more independent. Just my opinion
2006-11-26 14:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by elcidiv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think about how much more annoying you are if you are self-pitying. Try to channel that pity into a different kind of energy: anger, dedication to a task, or the will to exercise work well.
2006-11-26 14:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by jwy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an appointment with a therapist. If you abuse drugs or alcohol look in telephone book for your local Case Management Services for Alcohol and Drugs for intake evaluation. They will help you get into treatment or out patient counseling. Attend 12 Step Support Groups.
Same goes if you have a Mental Health Diagnosis.
If neither apply to you, call a doctor and talk to him, he or she will assist by providing information. Sounds as though you need someone to talk too, feeling sorry for yourself is un healthy, get involved in some social activities. Recreation, yoga, walking will no doubt help you.
2006-11-26 14:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Nan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a solid question ask your self. some days i would be unable to think of of something great or wonderful to assert. Like right this moment, i would be unable to think of of something. somebody particularly called one among my solutions lame the different day. *Cries* a minimum of I spoke back. *Cries returned * Now, i'm unhappy. Why do no longer we party and pass to McDonald's and wallow in our self pity at the same time? i could take care of feeling sorry for myself greater appropriate with a strawberry milkshake.
2016-12-13 14:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eventually u will have to realize that u r grown hopefully before someone puts u in ur place.put ur self in someone else's place would u want to put up with that kind of stuff all day having to take care of a baby acting grown person.i dont think u will like it very much.
2006-11-26 14:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by sweetoceana204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self-pity make me sick cause we all could go there.i feel we all do but then we get out there cause we all can go to pity land and just stay why me ......
2006-11-26 14:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
till you see the harm you are doing to yourself and really look atthe peope laughting at you . you remain like that try getting out andlive life one day at a time it works. in my opion?
2006-11-26 14:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get over it.......if I was you I'd feel pity for myself too--
2006-11-26 14:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by rsdudm 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋