my best friend and I decided to take her husband a meal at work, when we got there the place were he works was closed for the holidays. He had been off for 3 days while only telling her that he was going to be off for thanksgiving only. Needless to say he would not answer her phone calls or text messages (even when she said there was an emergency). He did come home at 2am. when she confronted him he said he was hanging with the boys and she would have gotten mad at him if he had told the truth. Morning rolls around...She decides to look at his cell phone. Message from "Amy" I love you baby,,,call me when you can. He claims to not know why she would send him that. My friend decides to believe him for the time being. Until tonight I looked him up on myspace (of all places) and found a page of his telling about his girlfriend of a year...And guess who it is AMY...I guess what I am trying to ask is should I continue to tell her these things when it is apparent she is going to stay?
2006-11-26 14:35:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would stay out of it unless she asks.
2006-11-26 14:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I believe if you tell your friend the truth, she may not believe it. You should realised it from the moment tt she saw the mushy message in her hubby telephone and chose to believe her husband and not the evidence that she saw.
I believe she is worried that if she chose to believe the evidence, she may lost her direction and the confidence she may have in herself.
You can give her some hints to alert her and let her explore all these facts herself. As her friend, I think you have to respect her final decision on this matter
2006-11-26 21:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it, because she has decided to stay no matter what, and nothing u say is going to make a difference. just be there for her if she needs u, she is going to have some rough times with him, cause she is in denial. u would think after finding that on his cell phone she would be able to discern the truth here. but you know what they say, love is blind.
2006-11-26 14:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a true friend then you owe her your honesty, show her the myspace page, then it is up to her to decide what she wants to do. Also if you are truly her friend you will support her regardless of her decision.
2006-11-26 14:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can lead a horse to water, but you cant make him drink.......
Your freind is choosing at the moment to grab onto false hopes that the truth is not what it is......He's a cheater......Keep telling her....she will be mad at first...but soon she will see that its for real....and she is going to need a freind then for sure.......Help her if you can.....Tough times are coming for her.....
2006-11-26 14:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her and let her process the new information. After that, I would just be a friend and support her.
2006-11-26 14:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep letting her know what you find out.
Because when she does wake up and finally leave him, she will be pissed off that you didn't tell her about everything you knew.
2006-11-26 14:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a friend you should tell her so that she will know more of what her husband is doing.
2006-11-26 15:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by unfortunate gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to reorganize your question.
2006-11-27 11:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if shes not going to do anything about it, you must let her be.
2006-11-26 14:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋