If you have ever done swinging/swapping before, a question for you..?

Question

Over the past 5 months we have gotten together with a couple who are our friends and ended up doing a swap. Each time they were never really "planned" per se, but every time we've gotten together we've been prepared mentally and it has always happened. We've all talked openly like the adults we are all ok doing these things.

So if you have done this before did you find that the partner who you swapped with performed better than your partner? Maybe I'm alone here but my friends husband does it SOOO much better than my husband. I'm not sexually attracted to the guy or anything, there are no emotional feelings for him at all, but my husband can't compare to him. And the guy is by far the BEST I've ever had. I can't discuss this with the other 3 parties involved, it's something I have to keep for myself, but I'm curious if anyone else has experienced this. I feel sort of guilty for enjoying it so much, but I've never had it this good before.

Answer 1

My wife and I have been swinging for several years. We've both had good sex with others and sex between us is great, too.

Anyone who thinks they are the best they're partner has ever been with is fooling themselves. Anyone who has been with more than two partners has had great sex with other people, too. Some people mesh well and others don't. Someone who rocks your world may do nothing for someone else. The other wife may think your hubby is pretty dang good, too. ;-)

I know that there have been guys that have done certain things better than I, and I know that I do certain things better than them. Also, there have been women that do certain things better than my wife. The key here is that we can talk openly between us (my wife and I) that when this happens we can say something like "I really liked this thing thing so-and-so did and here is how he/she did it." By doing this I have all the tools in my tool box PLUS his, now. :-D

You don't have to tell your hubby or the other folks that this guys is that good for you. All you have to do is tell your hubby "Hey, Bill did this thing I really liked, try doing it like this." Let him know he is getting it right.

You don't even have to tell him Bill did it better (if you think this would upset your hubby), but maybe take what Bill did and teach your hubby how to do it. Kind of "A little over here." "Move your tongue like this", etc.

Good lovers are made, not born.

Don't feel guilty for enjoying it. That's the idea of swinging. To enjoy it. Besides, someone may come along that will rock your husband's world and he can return you the favor by teaching you what the other woman did that he liked so much.

Answer 2

I have never done this but 2 close friends of mine started to swap... and they ended up breaking up after a great relationship. My husband and I agree that in the long run, something will happen, or someone will make a comment about the other partner and you will end up breaking up anyways.

If you decide to keep the adventure going... I wouldn't say anything because he may feel the same as you with the other woman... that's where the breaking up starts to happen...

good luck

Answer 3

Of course he's gonna be better but I bet he's not that good to his wifey! It's a competition thing when you swap out. Maybe you will talk and he wants to be good! But I wouldn't ever say anything.
I myself have never done this but a very close friend of mine said the SAME thing you did....I told her what I told you! Enjoy.

Answer 4

if you're so into this game, why are you feeling guilty, perhaps your husband is enjoying the other woman more that you..

maybe I missed something here, but isn't that what this game is all about ? enjoying the company or rather the different sex partners..?

Answer 5

I had a similar experience. Only problem was I fell in love with the other guy. His wife fell in love with my husband. My husband didn't return her feelings and still loved me. Her husband didn't fall in love with me....
Both us women got very hurt after awhile.
Swapping is not a good thing.

Answer 6

I have found myself in that situation too in the past. Just smile to yourself and never say a word! Maybe you need to find a better man for yourself, I did! LMAO :)

Answer 7

Yes, with 2 different couples. Great relationship with the first couple...we all got along great! 2nd. couple turned out to be a huge hassle. We all got cozy and playful. My buddy was really hot for my wife and my buddy's wife was really getting touchy feely with me. When she felt my erect penis, she got excited. She pulled it out and started going on and on loudly about how huge it was. I looked over at my wife and my buddy and he was visibly upset with his wife. My wife was trying to get him hard, but he was having a problem getting erect. Well...while my buddy and wife were not getting anywhere, my buddy's wife was riding me hard and squealing Oh my God, oh my God over and over at the top of her lungs. She had at least 3 orgasms before she got off of me and started giving me oral sex. I had not had an orgasm yet because I was more focused and the troubles my buddy and wife were having. Finally, my wife and buddy stop even trying and while he's apologizing, his wife is stroking and sucking my penis and going on and on how huge it is. Finally, I couldn't hold back any longer...she was just too good at it. She let it erupt all over her face. When she got up to get a towel from the bathroom, my buddy up and called her a slut. They got into an arguement and shouting match. It was ugly. We haven't spoke with each other ever since that evening.

Answer 8

Nothing wrong with getting your freak on! Sounds like you are a girl who likes her sex and knows how to enjoy it!

Answer 9

i would agree i think it is an achievement. personally i have never done it but this must be a huge milestone in biological history lol

Answer 10

no, i am not one to share. sorry but its not my thing. good luck.