2006-11-26 14:29:43 · 27 answers · asked by Amy L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it usually ends up backfiring. I mean, it's usually better for the children in the long run if they split rather than stay together and be at each others throats all the time.
2006-11-26 14:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by but_ya_are_blanche 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In an ideal situation it would it would be great, however, if the situation were ideal divorce would probably not be a question. I initially intended to stay with my ex for the sake of my son, my finances and the fact that a divorce would just be to complicated. Marriage is not easy and it takes continual effort to make it work. The point that you remain in a marriage for the sake of children and not for the sake of love for your spouse means that you are no longer working on the marriage. Children are very good at picking up vibes negative and positive from their parents.
The main reasons I finally decided to leave were.
1. I didn't want to wait for my children to grow up in order to feel happiness or joy.
2. I didn't want my child to grow up in a dysfunctional (fake) environment and think that was the way it was suppose to be.
3. I deserve to be a happy mother and a happy women.
4. Children bounce back a whole lot better than we do.
I am not an advocate of divorce and feel that it is best for parents to make every effort to raise their children together, but, parents need to also be honest and realize when they are really doing their children more harm than good by being miserable together when they could continue to raise their children and be happy apart.
2006-11-26 14:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by today 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..I mean it's great for the kids...to have both parents with them always...but, for the parents to not love each other and not get along, well, that just gives the children a bad example of what marriage is.
I believe that the parents should be happy. If they are happy with someone else and love someone else, they should pursue. Staying together gives the kids a false sense of happiness. I know that this is hard on the parents because they won't get to see their children as often as they like...and it's also tough on the kids, but life is short.
We should love while we have the chance. What is life without love????
2006-11-26 14:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by lkjgfyfukh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If both parents constantly fights, it's the children that gets hurt the most. It would be best in the long run if the parents go seperate ways for the stake of the children. However; if both parents CAN make it work, then work on the relationship for the stake of the children.
2006-11-26 14:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by rupmsn2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No children are very perceptive and often pick up on the friction between their parents. It is much healthier to make a clean break and remain friends. Assure the children that the divorce/seperation is not their fault. The better you and the ex get along the more well adjusted your kids will be.
2006-11-26 14:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, my parents are staying together for children sake, but I would be happier to see them apart and happy. I live in a dorm right now and haye going home to feel the bitterness of their relationship.
2006-11-26 14:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally say no. The reason I say this is cause my parents stayed together just for me and my brother and it hurt worse. I was 21 and he was 17 and it really devastated us. My parents had been married for 21 years. I say if you're gonna do it, do it now instead of making the children endure the pain for all the years you do stay together just for them.Cause the fights and all are gonna make the memories long and painful also.
2006-11-26 14:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by mariostephanie05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. My parents did and then ended up staying together. They are miserable. It turned me off relationships and marriage for the longest time. There are studies out there that suggest that the effects of divorce on children are sometimes less traumatising than the effects of parents with a disfunctional marriage. Don't stay together for anyone, but yourselves.
2006-11-26 14:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Phil says children are better off coming from a broekn home than living in one.
Read Dr. Phils article on "when staying together for the kid's isn't best".
2006-11-26 16:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are the kids? I have thought of leaving my husband (kids stepdad for 8yrs) but my son will be a high school senior next year and my daughter will graduate in two years .. I just dont want to ruin things for them.... After all, love is sometimes about sacrifice. I love them so much, I will wait. But if the kids are young, then you should leave and they will adjust .....I left the kids dad when they were toddlers. .. hope this helps some, good luck!
2006-11-26 14:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Majettza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋