Lives with her dad and step mom.
Workes at fast food restaraunt.
Wants to move in with a friend; married; child, illegal imigrant. This summer
2 bedroom apartment, very limited income.
Will have to change high schools in final year, making poor grades.
The point of the move? Get away from the home situation as fast as possible.
(PS she is throwing away a college education, her dad has saved for her)
Any suggestions to help her understand that while she will get away she will be jepordizing her future.
Thanks
2006-11-26 14:04:51 · 7 answers · asked by redford 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to her and tell her that running away from her problems is not the way to fix things
2006-11-26 14:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is making poor grades and these poor choices right now, a college education is something she is definitely not ready or smart enough for. Let it go.
If the situation that she will be moving into is not any better than her dads, then you have to explain to her why you believe it. If her father and step mom are truly providing her with an unhealthy living enviroment, it may be best to get away from it. Living like that certainly won't help her become a person that can handle college life.
Many adults return to colleges later on after growing up a little and realising what they want out of life. A seventeen year old is almost an adult and should be able to make these sorts of choices on her own. Just be there to support her if her choices happen to be the wrong ones. An impossible living enviroment is much more damaging than going to college at the age of 26 instead of 18.
I'm 22 years old and I've made plenty of choices my parents did not want to me to make. I've shown them time and time again that these choices that I'm making are what I want in my life. I don't believe them to be mistakes. You've got to let your daughter be her own person. She already is.
2006-11-26 22:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are her mother, why can't you talk to her and explain it all to her? Why can't she come live with you? As for the college education. She isn't throwing anything away if she moves. She can always apply for student loans and grants or get a scholarship if she is a good student. But, I'm not sure moving in with this friend is a good idea. Changing schools won't be good, either. I don't know the whole situation ,but you do. Talk to your daughter and help her figure these things out. Frankly, unless she is being abused somehow (sexually, physically), I'd encourage her to stick it out one more year. You are only hearing HER side of this story, right? Sometimes teens put on "spin" on that story to gain sympathy for the mistakes they are about to make.
2006-11-26 22:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant she live with you?......If her situation is by your own words "unlivable".....can u help her??? Sounds like she may be moving out of the frying pan into the fire....But really we dont have enough info to give much help.....??? sorry
2006-11-26 22:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't she live with you? I am assuming you are her mother, right? Shouldn't you be there for your child and have a place for her to stay?
2006-11-26 22:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you being her mother, and obviously concerned about her welfare, why doesn't she move in with you? That's what moms are for.
2006-11-26 22:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are her mom its best for her to ove with you figure out whats she wants out of life be their for her thats what moms are for
2006-11-26 22:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋