What causes men to lose interest in their wives? PLEASE BE SERIOUS!?

Question

This is a basic question: What causes them to lose interest in us? And please no cruel answers like maybe you got too fat or you don't do oral enough! Let's hear it from both sides too because I'm sure women have opinions on this!

Answer 1

Same reason we lose interest in our husbands. They don't show interest in us, don't pay attention to us, no longer romantic, etc. Or sometimes we are just selfish and/or fall in love with someone else.

I'm sorry if you are hurting. If you feel you were doing as much as you could to show your husband that you loved him, and it was not enough to keep him, then maybe this was not meant to be. This is terrible and sad and I hope its not the case.

Answer 2

Because they want a change. They seek excitement outside marriage. However beautiful and attractive the wife may be life becomes a boring routine at home. Women also lose interest in husband over a period of time. It is worse in the case of a housewife. It is natural and unavoidable. I am yet to come across some one who is happy with the spouse after a long married life.

Answer 3

I think it was her affair that did it in for me.

You don't want the cruel answers, but frankly, in some cases, those are very real reasons husbands loose interest. The last oral the guy got from his wife was before they married, or she gained 100# and didn't think he would care.

(She didn't bother to ask if he would be upset if she packed on 50#+, but she gets upset if he brings home a new tool because he didn't bother to ask.)

Those aren't the only reasons, usually it's because he doesn't feel she is on his team anymore, or she is always nagging him for things he does and she might do them too, but holds him to a higher standard than herself.

Stuff like that.

Answer 4

I think it is the same reason that we lose interest in almost everything: societal conditioning. We need to listen to the latest songs, watch the latest shows, see the latest movies, wear the latest clothes, etc. We get bored doing the same thing.
Dating conditions us to go out with a girl for a couple of weeks or months and when we get bored, to find someone new. And we do this over and over, getting conditioned to the behavior that when we get bored, we get something new. Eventually, we find someone but the behavior is still there.
Or attention spans are getting shorter and shorter. I think some "tricks" to spice things up can actually just make it worse, since it reinforces the dynamic of change or die. Find a man who has held the same job for years, has had the same hobbies, musical tastes, etc for years and he probably will stay interested. Avoid guys who bounce from interest to interest and hobby to hobby and from woman to woman.

Answer 5

Well the first reason why they loose interest it is Stress ...when they are stress they do not want to hear about nothing .....sometimes can be because it is the same rutine as ussual they know exactly what they expect at home so it is like even frustrating.... you never surprise them ...maybe it is time to ask yourself what changes you can bring to the marriage and maybe you are not doing the things you used to before when you guys met and that is why he is loosing interest so ...if this is not woirking sit down and talk to him let him know how you are feeling and maybe he tells you right away ....not neccesary it is to think that they are cheating you know

Answer 6

I think sometimes it is mid life crisis...it can be because of society....it is not ALL men though...just some men that make the others look like they all are.
I have been married going on 30 years...I have gotten fat and old...lol...he still loves me...yeah we probably have lost interest over the years but sex isn't everything that keeps the relationship. We talk, we trust, we have different interest, and we make it work. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

i believe men loose interest in their wives, when a third party comes into the relationship, maybe their are some unresolved problems in the marriage, maybe both parties are under alot of stress, and the grass looks greener over on the other side of the fence. none of us are the same man or woman we were when we first got married, some of us have gained weight, maybe we aren't as young looking as we use to be. the other woman sees what she doesn't have, so she goes after him, and shows him alot of attention, and has lots of sex, and this is when they loose interest in us. it is more about this other woman than it is about us, he is going through a mid life crisis, and needs what she is offering him to feel special. the other woman strokes his low self worth, and if he is immature, and easily persuaded he looses all interest in us, acts as if he is still a teenager.

Answer 8

Could be that you become like a comfortable shoe. Knows that you will be there regardless. I know you are suppose to support your husband but when he doesn't support you, then all bets are off.

If you think about it, you become like their Mothers. Waiting on them hand and foot, making decisions for them, cleaning up after them.

Now if you come out in a sexy outfit, which I know is hard to do, with the kids and just feeling insecure about yourself, it might perk him up. At least for an instant or two.

Answer 9

Boredom is a biggie. One thing that can help you keep him, is to make him feel good about himself and keep the sexual flames burning. Maybe that is one sided, but sometimes it takes some effort on one partner's part to get you both over the hump and keep things exciting and less "boredom" in the relationship.

Answer 10

Most of the time, it's not about you. It's about them. Too many men think that things are better on the other side of the door.