I recently seperated from my ex after 7 years. He is my childhood sweetheart and have have two kids together. We seperated on bad terms and we never talked about what was going on between us and I just uped and left without ever really saying good bye, but once I left he already had another woman i didnt know about and it hurts me to know that he would do that to me. Even though he has moved on and still tries to interfere with my life, I still cant let go. I know I left but now I wonder if this was the worst mistake I ever made because you can always forgive but can never forget.
2006-11-26 13:55:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DAY at a TIME. If you still love him then try reverse psychology. Be nice to him, agree with what he says, and he will not know what to do or say. Be mature and tell him, ....OH, I am so tired of us not getting along...it is so old. Interfere in your life? He is still part of your life because of the kids, and he will always be a part. Try it, what could it hurt? I went through the same things, my kids would say....she wants us to call her mom... Then I said ...how lucky...you have two moms. ... And honey, if something were to happen to me, then she would take care of you. IT works !! I used psychology to get control of any situation.. Oh and if you want to get him back , just tell him.. I had a dream of us, when we first met, do you remember or say positive things, like...the kids did something today and it reminded me of you, they sure are just like their father. If you are still married, there is still hope if that is what you really want. Good Luck !
2006-11-26 14:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Majettza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say -- have you talked to him about how you feel? You have children together, that must mean something. If it doesn't then you need to move on because you cannot pine over someone that does not love you. I know this is much easier said than done. Make sure you don't listen to sad songs or watch romantic movies, that will get you every time. Focus on improving your life and that of your children.
Good luck
2006-11-26 22:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't move on because u are still very much in love with him, and it does hurt to see him with someone else, yes it does hurt, and it takes time to get over it, doesn't just happen overnight. u are having problems now because u think maybe u should have communicated more. we do have alot of regrets, and we wish maybe we had handled it differently. u feel the way u do now because he was part of your life for 7 years, and we just don't stop loving someone, we just don't forget them. we miss what we thought our marriage was, and we grieve what it could have become had we only communicated.
2006-11-26 22:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My situation is just the opposite, he up & left, after almost 25 yrs..
he's a mental case , so at least has an excuse...
still extremely hard & once you are around some good people & realize that you did what you had to do ?
you'll be ok..just keep your head up & think of all the reasons you left..
you were happy...?
2006-11-26 22:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the time to heal and work on yourself. He jumped int a rebound relationship which hardly ever works out. Once he finds this out he will come crawling back. By that time you may not want to have anything to do with him.
2006-11-26 22:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy a know how that feels. when you can't let go someone. well i really don't know wwhat to say im in the same. i really sucks, but you know, its ok, just do what your counsious tell you, however you feel. i wont do that anymore cuz i allready gave her my word that i will not talk to her, eventhouh im dying to, but i want ot keep my word.
2006-11-26 22:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by Adrian P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to go find a new guy move on and forget about him/her
2006-11-26 21:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋