baby at 18?

Question

ok my boyfriend and I were just given a house from his mother we only pay for half the electric and we have been together 4 years now i got prenant at 16 but had a miscarrage and now more than anything I want a baby i really need advice before i make a mistake someone please help me

Answer 1

I want a million dollars.

I need some advice on how to get it.

Answer 2

I would suggest that, before you decide to try to get pregnant, you and your boyfriend should try spending time - LOTS of time - with children of all ages. Do you know anyone with a newborn? If they won't let you take care of the baby overnight, then try this - set your alarm clock to wake you up every four hours, and then stay up for an hour. Do this for at least a week. Go "shopping" to see exactly how expensive diapers and formula (if you're not going to breastfeed), and clothes, etc, are for a baby - and remember, you're not going to need just one diaper or bottle per day! Also remember, many children are not potty trained until they're three years old or so, so you'll be buying diapers for a while. While you're at it, see how much it will cost to add a baby to your insurance policy - and don't forget copays and deductibles. Babies go to the doctor a lot!

Then, spend as much time as you can with a two or three year old. Try to figure out how you'd deal with it when the child throws a tantrum (which seems like it happens several times a day sometimes).

THEN, if you and your boyfriend BOTH want to have a child, you can think about trying to get pregnant!

Answer 3

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO...

NO.

does that help? God already saved your a** once. you don't need to have a baby. if you can't pay for an apartment on your own, how the hell can you afford a baby? so what if you've been together for 4 years? doesn't change anything. what if you had a baby, then got into a huge fight with the boyfriend, he kicks you out of the house HIS mother bought you (not very smart), then you have no one to go to, and you have a baby. wait another 5-10 years, then think again.
i know how you feel, but i am 28, married, and financially on my own with my husband. we are waiting to have a baby, in order to save some money and make sure i have insurance.
i suggest you do the same.
think it over. there is no going back if you do get pregnant.

Answer 4

I thought I wanted one too, but my fiance and I were at a friends house this weekend (they have twin 6 month old boys) and we were getting ready to leave at 3:30 am, and both babies woke up screaming and needed to eat and stuff...You have your whole life ahead of you. Obviously I'm not you, but I know that I want to be able to sleep in, stay out late without having to find and pay for a sitter and basically live my life before I devote it to a baby. I'm 24 and want a baby so bad sometimes, and as much as I'll love it and stuff, I'm not ready! If I got pregnant, I would NOT have an abortion, but I'm not going to do it on purpose. Just know that you have plenty of time...wait till you're 22 or so, and if you still feel the same, go for it. Just remember that it's a life changing decision that you can't take back. You wouldn't only be ruining your early adult years, you would have a baby that you can't provide for properly, etc. You may not even be with your bf in a few years...you never know! Good luck in your decision though.

Answer 5

Girl, I am kinda in the same boat. We do not have our own house, yet..but in february we will. The thing stopping us is college, and money. My advice to u and even to my desperate self, is we still have time. Make sure he commits to you, or atleast know you and him will be together forever. A baby is a big responsibility. I am not a mother, I literally just turned 19 yesterday and really love children, but remember you have to put ur self first. I worked at a daycare, and right now I am a nanny/babysitter, and they are big responsibilities, even though they are huge miracles. My advice is not to rush into things. If your financially stable and capable, and you and your partner have everything figured out then it's better than nothing, but remember the most important thing is that'll be your child, and your child depends on you two, so make sure your making the right decision.

Answer 6

The first thing to discuss is marrage, if he is willing to commit to a marrage then he might be mature enough for a baby, This is really important because you might not see it right now but if things get hard boyfriends can leave, husbands are less likley to walk out. You need to talk to him and make sure that you both can commit to everything that comes along with having a baby, it's not all fun and games. It means no more late nights with friends, and stuff like that. If he will get married thats the first step.

Answer 7

Ultimately that decision is up to you and no one else can tell you what to do. What are your reasons and intentions for having one? Do you truly feel ready? If you have doubts, then don't do it yet- you're still young and you have all the time in the world to raise a family. Just keep in mind that you and your boyfriend must have the commitment and the maturity in order to have a child, because once you have one you can never go back- and having one doesn't necessarily improve relationships at all so having that established stability in your family is really vital.

Answer 8

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage!!!! Have you thought about getting married? That's the true test to know if he is willing to commit to you or not. In this day and age it is not uncommon for the women to propose, Christmas is coming up (hint hint). I was pregnant at 18 and had my son at 19. He is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. My husband works to cover the bills and I currently attend nursing school part-time. If you both are ready, and are financially able, go for it.

Answer 9

Well I had my son at 18. It was a suprise but I dealt with it. It's hard esp if you're going to school and working but it can be done. I went to school full time, worked and took care of my son. My son's father and I had seperate schedules so we could have one of us around to care for him so we could less dependent on child care of baby sitters. We both finished our four year degrees and got we got married and well, needless to say everything worked out. For a while it was rough though...but I believe it was totally worth it. My son is my world!

Answer 10

Ok the best advice I can give is to make sure that he truely wants to commit to you...and I mean marriage. Ask yourself tht question too....baby's do one thing...they either bring joy into a family or they can do the opposite...make sure you guys talk this over and really think things through. good luck!