I've been reading a little bit about suicide and it seems that the group at highest risk is men who have never had girlfriends or sex(but want to). These men are the ones who are at highest risk to go through and complete suicide. These are usually men who are unsightly and were bullied heavily in school. Suicide usually occurs in the mid-late 20's. Why is it these poor folks?
This, I guess, puts me at risk because I myself am a 23 year old Stanford Undergrad who has never dated or had sex. I also always thought it was normal to think about suicide (which I do think about quite a lot). Is there some type of SSRI Antidepressent I should take to completely diminish my sex drive? Which diminishes the sex drive the most?
Are there many men out there (%) who women find so physically repulsive that they (women) would never date/sleep with them?
Really, what happens to the psychological development of these peoples personality. Do they become bitter? How do they act? - Eccentric?
2006-11-26 13:50:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Seek self preservation. By finding worth in the self...the like of self develops; thus the opposite sex would be attracted. Confidence is very appealing. Way before suicide I'd try a dating service, you might be surprised. You aren't alone.
2006-11-26 13:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by nirekelly27 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
The funny thing is that no matter how repulsive or how much a loser someone is, someone who is even less attractive is getting laid right now. The question is, are the people committing suicide because they can't get laid, or are they not getting laid because they are depressed to the point of committing suicide?
Getting a girlfriend takes skills and takes some understanding, but it's skills anyone can in theory can pick up and use regardless of how they look. If you can make a girl feel good, you can have any relationship with that girl. At anyrate, anyone with the ability to plan and study enough to get into Stanford can use gain the skills necessary to get a girlfriend. The problem is when you don't hang around the right people or have no role models to guide you, or the courage to know you'll screw up and keep going , not caring if you succeed or fail.
Regardless, if the two subjects of sexual relationship may be connected, but they don't have to be. Both can successfully dealt with individually and fixing one won't necessarily fix the other.
2006-11-26 14:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do not know what happens to these men but I do not believe there are any out there who women would find so repulsive as to never date/sleep with them. For many women, they will be attracted to a personality when dating rather than physical appearance. Those who do not do this are shallow and should be disregarded. Antidepressants are bad news and often make you more depressed. This may sound terrible (please dont be offended) but perhaps you could try a hooker or an escort just to satisfy your curiosity? Its not always a bad thing, I had a cousin who tried it that way once. Many people don't lose their virginity until later in life. Don't consider suicide, that should not be an option.
2006-11-26 14:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Akasha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of these men don't have girlfriends not because they are physically repulsive (honestly, as long as a person maintains good hygeine, I would argue that no one is even close to repulsive) but because they are too insecure to risk opening up to other people.
I hope you're seeing a qualfied counsellor about your depression, and I am sure you won't need some drug to suppress your sex drive. Just work with a professional to find out why you're having trouble relating to people or whatever it is that's keeping you from meeting women, and eventually you will find someone. You are not destined to be lonely.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-26 14:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is a point of mechanics, tab A going into slot B. What matters is WHY both parts are joined. I also happen to know the reason of suicide is NOT a lack of sex or love; someone died even though they were loved so suicide is a personal matter.
A lack of sex goes into personal choice. You can have any and all the sex you want in many ways within many perversions but that won't make you a complete human being. What matters is the feeling in your heart, and if it functions, you can find love and sex in the same matter.
Does that mean marriage? In this day and age - saldy - no, it does not, but it does mean you can find fulfillment with someone including love and intimacy.
Find someone completing you. Find someone like or unlike you. I can't tell you which works as there are many schools of thought in the matter of the heart, but inside yourself, you will know who you love and what you feel for them.
Good luck & God Bless!
Jaime
2006-11-26 14:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by El Santo Gordo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First and foremost, you can have all the sex you want...if you never love the ones you sleep with, at the end of the trail you travel upon, you will feel empty, misguided, and abused. And if you are only after sex in a relationship, then you are not getting the picture either. It's natural to have a sex drive. There is someone for everyone. Lonliness is a high risk factor involved with suicidal tendencies. As far as psychological development, it seems as if you are trying to ask a question incognito in regards to your own dilemma. Finish college kid. You will be fine. BELIEVE me...
2006-11-26 14:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Some guys who are sexually frustrated and never had a girlfriend/wife end up being spree killers or massacre instigators. Look at George Sodini, Timothy McVeigh, James Holmes, Anders Breivik etc. The list goes on and on. A woman gives a guy validation and confidence.
2013-12-09 12:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by Datu81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax... I made it, so can you. I eventually found the right one and married her. We have three kids (can't say they're always wonderful). If you're thinking about suicide, even just moving about the thought, you should seek help. I can tell you that I for one, hated the anti depressents. REALLY messed with my head. Never again my friend, never again. Not always enjoying my life, but I'm gonna stick around to see how the party ends. So should you.
2006-11-26 14:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Doc 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You need to realize that you have worth and purpose. You don't need to kill yourself, you could be useful for something or useful to other people.
2006-11-26 14:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nietzsche Is this about you!??
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2006-11-26 14:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by mqe p 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋