We moved east to be by our grandson but my husband is getting worse now - drinking more and more. We used to live in Texas and my family is there. Should I go back to my family and leave my grandson and my husband here. I really don't know what to do. Any advice about this situation?
2006-11-26 13:48:49 · 18 answers · asked by jworks79604 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He won't go to AA or get help.
2006-11-26 14:32:15 · update #1
Also the grandson is 2-1/2 - we came to live by my daughter and be in our grandons's life.
2006-11-26 14:34:18 · update #2
Put your faith and hope in God. I did, out of the mouths of babes come wisdom and pray. If you really love him and you put your faith in God it will wrok out mine did.
2006-11-26 13:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by debpo_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sympathy for a difficult situation. You don't say how old or self-reliant the grandson is, but I assume he's a working adult. Better consult with grandson on the course of action -- can grandson handle husband on his own? Will husband react with rage? Also see what family can offer you in terms of help. Very good luck to you.
2006-11-26 21:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your strength and will. How much do you really Love your hubby? And what would you want him to do if it were you in his shoes?
The next step is there's only so much you can take. See if he will voluntarily admit himself to somewhere for help. But there's still a long road ahead. But if you have had it you have had it...go get away but make sure your not leaving a burden on your grandson because he will resent you for that. or at least make sure that you chat with him on your intent so he doesn't feel like you left him to. Good Luck I know this isn't easy.
2006-11-26 22:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I not being rude and not being mean Ok I am going to try to help here. To me the worst thing for u to do is to run away from the problem. The first step is to talk to him and see if you and him can come to agreement that he has a problem and that he wants help. The second thing is to get help for each of you in marrige counseling. Then AA meetings will come for BOTH of you. You have to be there with him every step of the way to help him get through this
2006-11-26 21:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't go to AA or counseling because he likes it the way it is. Addicts of any sort -- alcoholics, computer porn, gamblers, etc.-- just aren't available, hon.... they already have a relationship!!!!!: you just aren't it. If you are receiving no support where you are, and you would prefer to be somewhere else, then go.... the guy will hardly miss you.
2006-11-26 22:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there is abuse any type, the choice is your's, but if you chose to stay then, seek help, not only for him but yourself too. You may be needing it, there are those that can tell you what to expect, and suggest the best way to deal with it.
2006-11-26 21:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AA meetings
counseling for marriage
just get help!!
2006-11-26 21:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to AA and both of you to marriage counseling. If he won't go leave him.
2006-11-26 21:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by evilbarrister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is the only one who can stop his drinking. Leave and this could turn him around.
2006-11-26 22:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs AA
and you need alanon. They saved my life!
If your husband doens't think he has a problem then that is when you need to sonsider leaving
2006-11-26 22:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband is an alcoholic, instead of leaving him try helping him with rehab and group therapy. plus, not to be rude, but it might cost less
2006-11-26 21:51:21 · answer #11 · answered by rubygirl0714 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋