seperated after 24 yrs of marriage.......there is no legal visitation in place .........he gets to see them whenever he wants i did that for my kids not him.........anyway he comes and gets them almost every weekend which is fine but never tells me when he is going to drop them off....today i went out and apparently he came by to drop them off and when i wasnt here he was pissed.he called and left 2 messages .anyway when i got home he called and asked where was i didnt i know he was going to drop the kids off.....i simply said i went out he didnt bring the kids back sayin he had tried once already is this man insane or is it me?
2006-11-26 13:47:03 · 10 answers · asked by kelly h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, you really should have some legal framework here, because you never know. Go joint legal, joint physical. Next, it is ridiculous for him not to call ahead and let you know they're coming back at a certain time, or to have a set time when he will have them there, say between 5 and 6, that's reasonable. Either way, you need to set something up... for the kids. Neither of you is insane, you're just not communicating.
2006-11-26 13:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to control you and ruin your whole weekend.
Tell him he can pick them up between 7-9 and must drop them off from 5-8 or something that works for both of you. If he does not do this than to gforget about getting the kids for 2 weeks or so.
Get it in writing
2006-11-26 21:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by G L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would go to the authorities if he refuses to bring your kids back and then I would take his big butt to court and set up his visitation pick up and drop off times because it doesn't sound like he's going to cooperate this way, to me it sounds like he just wants to play games, get your kiddo's back....You're not insane he is.....Oh and save the messages he left you can use them in court if necessary.....sorry you have to go through this but it'll all turn out OK for you in the end.....and don't be shy about calling the Cops because if he refuses to give the kids back it's called kidnapping and the law should be on your side
2006-11-26 21:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by *CiTsJuStMe* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If its a habit for him to drop off the kids whenever, you are aware of that. You should have for seen him stoping by to drop the kids off. You could have let him know that you were going to be gone from --- to ---. Taking advantage of his inconsistent drop off times says more about you, than him.
2006-11-26 21:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to set some boundaries with each other. Yes, he should not take your time for granted and expect you to be at home whenever it's convenient for him. However, you need to let him know up front when he picks up the kids, "This is what my schedule is like this week-end. If you need me to be at home for the kids, I need you to tell me now". It is not good for the children to have this up-in-the-air schedule; they're going to get confused messages
2006-11-26 21:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by danaluana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you are trying to make things best for your children, but you need to get a visitation policy in writing....stating what time he returns the children, how long he has them, etc. My sister went through the same type of situation about 4 years ago...initially not putting any "policy" in effect because she thought it would be best for her sons, but it turned into a nightmare. Good luck to you!
2006-11-26 21:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Doogie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two need to work on your communication skills. Neither of you sound insane, just not well informed of what the other's intent or plan is. Again, communication is the key. you're never REALLY divorced, just pleasantly separated...
2006-11-26 21:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by Doc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes crazy i guess but just get a cell phone so he can tell u he is going to drop em off
2006-11-26 21:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by MIRAGE_KID2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your not insane. He sounds inconsiderate of your time.
2006-11-26 22:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by mary t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's him. The problem will ALWAYS be him!! Mismatched chromosomes....they can't help it.
2006-11-26 21:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by OK yeah well whatever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋