I'm afraid of my 13th years old niece.?

Question

My sister in law and brother are divorced, and because her mother went away for three months, I took her into my home. She goes to bed at 5 AM, chatting with her friends in the Internet. She does not sits next to me in the car, but in the back sit. Last week she went with a girl next door to the library at 5PM and didn't show at my home until 11 PM I had to call the police. When the police got here she told them she wants to go to a children's shelter, because her mother beats her up. She ran my brother's cell phone to 2000 minutes, he disconnected her phone and when was told the reason why she said; I did not asked to have a phone. 'She doesn't clean after herself, leaving everything for me to clean up. Here are my question, does she sounds like in drugs? She comes to the living room and changes the TV without askign if anyone else is watching, etc. She will be at my home for another 2 weeks, any ideas as to what to do, or why she behaves like this? I am afraid of my niece

Answer 1

You sound very young and inexperienced, and your niece will run right over the top of you, until you set some rules and boundary's for her.If your brother is around I don't know why he isn't helping you. You've got to call her bluff. You have got to let her know that you are in charge as long as she is living underneath your roof. I know you love her. So love her enough to set your foot down and let her know what you expect from her.
Have a talk with her, and in a loving, caring way, tell her how things are going to be, and then you MUST stick to it.
Give yourself some time to think about what you are going to say to her. You might seek some guidance from your minister, her school councilor, I don't know who is available to you, but there is someone out there that would be willing to advise you.
You are doing a wonderful thing, trying to help them out. It just seems that you are getting the raw end of the deal.
For your own sake! DON'T give her a clue that you are afraid of her!

Answer 2

Ah. What we have here is a case of an undiciplined child. That is why she probably acts that way. I had a cousin stay at my house and she was terrible! She would do the same things and my parents were about to just go and kick her out but we had to just live through all of it. But I didn't take any of it. If she took the remote away from me when I was watching the t.v. I would just go over there and take it back or find a way to shut off the t.v. And when she wouldn't pick up after herself, I would just dump all of her dishes and trash in her room. I know it's kinda mean but I can not stand people like that. I think that you should just stick it out to tell you the truth. Some people cannot be helped. Wait for a parent or some other adult to deal with it because what she needs is some hardcore dicipline.

Answer 3

Man, I've got my niece. My wife and I took her in when she was 15 now 16 and 1/2. She was the same way. Acting like she didn't care about anything or have any feelings for anything. We got her after she had gone through a lot of placements. So, she is long term. But a few things to remember is that she is only going to be there for 2 weeks and if you try to help her attitude she won't change anything in the two weeks. Considering she knows she's leaving nothing you say or do will help. Although you can give her some positive memories with you like going to the movies, arcade, shopping, just something she might like. It will make her feel like you were trying to help and care. At this age all teens want is to be with their friends and they act like their family doesn't matter. Try to be her friend for 2 weeks maybe things will get a little better. Don't expect much.....Most teens that choose to be disrespectful, ungrateful, sneaky, and an all around bad attitude are good at heart. Well good luck.......

Answer 4

Why are you afraid of her. Has she assulted you or given you reason to be afraid. You are the grown up and you need to set the Law. Ground her, take away her things, TV etc, and let her know while she is in your house she live by your rules. You should never let a child get the better of you.

Answer 5

some childrens are certain to do issues there own way out of stubborness and thinking they are an person even however they are nonetheless a baby. some childrens are a lost reason(no offense) and that i don't understand if there is something which could be completed. I desire you the superb of luck.

Answer 6

She sounds like a horrible child.She may want some attention but not all children want that.I'll be 13 next week and I'd suggest limiting her privileges.Lay down some rules that she needs to follow at your house or she could have a punishment.

Answer 7

This kid is just out of control. No one has forced her to do anything. She needs definite rules. She needs to be held accountable for her actions. You need to set curfew times, definite what she is allowed to do and what she is not allowed to do. She needs to clean up after herself and if she doesn't shut the door to her room, do NOT do her laundry. She should also be required to follow the rules of the house. If she doesn't start taking things away, i.e. telephone, computer, television, the freedom to go ANYWHERE with her friends until she straightens up. If she is not held accountable what you see now is only the beginnings of MAJOR, MAJOR trouble.

Answer 8

She has no respect for her parents, likely because they both coddled and babied her so they would be the favorite parent. So she thinks the world owes her now, and you are there to do for her and give her what she wants. She's a spoiled brat who needs limits set on her behavior.

My two cents.

Answer 9

Just gotta get strict and lay down the law. Most likely she is drinking, or smoking weed. No smoking weed aint gunna kill her, but if she cant drink or smoke responsible she shouldn't be doing it.

CRACK DOWN ON HER!

Answer 10

Beat her a$$..! Shes your neice and is disrespecting you in your own home..thats your home, not hers to run..You gotta man up and show her whos boss...! If that doesnt work, then file unruley charges against her...that'll show her to mess with you..!