he is 13 yrs younger and wants this to happen. i am just terribly lonely.
2006-11-26 13:24:18 · 44 answers · asked by E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all love has no bounderies, but somethings we don't have to get ourselves into. when you found out he was married you should have stepped then, because most married men never leave the wife at home they make you think that there going to leave just to keep you hanging on and keep the goodies that you have coming, most married men want the wife and the mistress too. He may even complain about his wife, its only just to keep you hanging on. Trust me he's never leaving her.
You are better than that. I know that there is someone out there for you. You need someone that can truly love you unconditionally unless you are just looking for a roll in the hay. If you get involved with him you will lose in the long run, he'll want someone younger, you have to think about this he is younger by 13 years. But as a older women you may be able to offer a more quality level loving or intimacy for him how long will that last.
Think about that as well as this, you may be breaking up a happy home, he may be faithful to his wife, please don't do it becauce you are lonely that is a poor excuse, cuddle up with a good book, if you wait patiently the right man for you will come along.
If you are that lonely as you say you are I would rather for you to just find a man that is single who is younger why do you feel like you have to go after the married man. I've seen it too many times family break ups behind another women, and I always don't blame the woman. I blame the man because no one puts a gun to his head and say do it. When a women come on to a man sometimes we come so strong it's tempting, and most men don't mean to cheat it just happens because of the temptations trust me I know what I am talking about.
I've seen a situation where the other women got pregnant and the wife found out after the fact. she kicked her husband out and filing for divorce right now. But the other woman wanted him to leave his wife which he wouldn't do he just spent a lot of time with her. After it was all said and done the wife didn't want him and neither did the mistress. Why? Because after the thrill of him being with his family was gone he couldn't no longer leave his wife because the wife kicked him out first. The mistress found out that he wasn't worth having, she didn't know the money he was spending on her was because the wife helped support his businesss which he ended up losing soon after she kicked him out. Now he's just like Olivia lost and turned out, no place to go and no place to hide he defiled the marriage.
I just ask you to rethink this situation. You don't know who look up to you. Don't send out the wrong signal. And like they say the world is round. What goes around comes around. The same way you put it out it will come back to you the same way. I found that to be very true. I know a young man right now he really put it out, but it came back to him he had love in his relationship unconditionally love he didn't want it and the women he's with now only love him for what he could do for her not form the soul and spirit. It's a terriable thing to not feel love and be loved by your mate. He's in a marriage without love, even today he beggs for the women love whom he left.
In conclusion this is my motto: if I can't be number #1 I will not be number #2. I will not settle for second best and I ask you not too because you deserve the best.
2006-11-26 14:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by PATSY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look this is a no win situation, you go from being lonely to being someones mistress and are still second. That is not fair to you, and it sure is not fair to the married man's wife.
I would also think a bit about his character, as he is working for you. Maybe more involved, wants more than sex perhaps something to do with the business. If his character is that poor and he is willing to cheat on his wife because of overactive hormones I would not want him on the payroll. There are a lot of lonely men out there just as well who given the chance would treat you as number one, and not take you for granted, or a chance at happiness for granted.
Give yourself some self respect and in time it will work out, and by the way this guy should be looking for employment elsewhere.
Just this hint of possible sexual harassment could be a problem.
2006-11-26 13:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by John E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be hormonal, she could communicate together with her medical expert. additionally, you do understand that it needs to be greater romantic for a women than for a guy. A rubdown, draw her a bubble bathtub, flowers, romantic movie. She is probable exhausted from the toddlers, have self belief me, been there and completed that! One thinks a stay at domicile spouse raising young ones is easy, it is no longer! I went returned to artwork to get a injury!! :) Take her away for the weekend, or have the toddlers stay at her mum and dad or your mum and dad to grant her a injury one night. according to hazard another weekend for one night if available. If no longer, according to hazard a depended on buddy or sitter. i'm having a wager that's regularly organic exhaustion from the toddlers, they placed on you out bodily and mentally. She probable needs it gradual to preserve herself, she could be in a greater effective temper if she have been given it gradual for herself countless situations each and every week, in spite of if for a pair hours. tell her to circulate get her nails completed, or basically walk around surfing on the shop at the same time as you maintain the toddlers a million or 2 situations each and every week. it may artwork wonders! EDIT: analyzing a number of the different solutions, have confidence me, while a women is so exhausted or maybe depressed and not into intercourse, the final element she is doing is finding someplace else. those are statements from people who needless to say don't understand a women. additionally, do no longer look someplace else, you have a sturdy marriage, why injury it by doing for yet another what you may do for her? you will possibly could extremely court yet another besides, why no longer placed money into your spouse! Like I mentioned, she is basically exhausted (which could depress her slightly and make her no longer experience beautiful the two). Lighten the load. Make her experience like the terrific! Do it in love and sincerity!
2016-12-10 16:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't do it. Not only because he is married but he is your subordinate. What if he decided to take you to court claiming sexual harassment. What if he said he had sex with you because he was afraid he would lose his job if he did not. You would be better off finding some young guy at a bar that does not work for you.
If you have trouble finding a young guy give me a call, I have some young partners that would love to help you out.
2006-11-26 13:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If you are the employer and if you have sex with an employee it leaves you wide open to all sorts of sexual harassment lawsuits. This is because of the inequality of the employer/employee relationship. To have sex with an employee puts you in a VERY unfavorable position and you could lose everything. This is about as bad as having sex with a minor.
2006-11-26 13:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say this! Please, read your OWN question!!!
You say this guy WORKS FOR YOU?? As in reports to you??
Sexual harassment lawsuit, baby, just waiting to happen!
RUN, STOP FLIRTING, RUN LIKE HELL! If you are lonely, get Yahoo IM and start chatting. Join Myspace, and put n a profile.
Or... Consider that when his wife catches on, and he has to quit having sex with you, and the two of you cannot be in a room together, and it gets out, and he quits his job, and his wife files for divorce because he told her the truth, expect to lose YOUR job because of the sexual harassment lawsuit!
2006-11-26 13:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by SatinGun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be lonely, however, getting involved with a married man is not a good idea. If you do, you are only going to get hurt yourself. Try speed dating, or get involved with a singles club to meet single people.
2006-11-26 13:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's married, have you no morals or respect for yourself or his wife and marriage vows? Don't be selfish, think of the others that can be hurt. If he wants to mess up his marriage don't let him drag you in to it. There are plenty of single men out there and if all you want is a fling (which is what it sounds like) you shouldn't have a problem finding one. Age has nothing to do with it.
2006-11-26 13:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It hurts to be lonely, but you know you are not only thinking about doing something that is just plain wrong, but you are opening yourself up to soooooooo much trouble. What if that man decides to file a suit against you later for sexual harrassment? That is only one of the bad case scenarios I can see happening.
Don't let your lonliness turn you into someone you don't want to be. There are other avenues to investigate to find someone you can be PROUD to be with...and proud of yourself, as well.
Good luck......
2006-11-26 13:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he works for you then you could get into a sexual harrassment situation. On top of that, do you really want to be a part of the problems in someone elses relationship? Just keep looking for someone and I'm sure you will find someone that is deserving of your love.
2006-11-26 13:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by questioningly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋