i feel like i have no friends. how do i get them to care? or atleast show that they care?

Question

i have depression, so i feel bad..ALOT. and my friends kind of get mad at me if im not in a good mood. and so it makes me feel even worse about myself. and then my boyfriend doesnt understand that i have a really low esteem(idk how to spell that). and so i dont get any encouraging words. a lot of my friends try to make me feel better. i have even started crying in class. and i had to go out in the hall to feel better. please help:(

Answer 1

You obviously have friends because you say so in your question. They care aobut you because they try to make you feel better, you say so yourself in your question. The issue is not with your friends not caring but with you - and the good news is that you are the only one who can do something about it!

If you are truly depressed then getting on meds might help reset your chemicals, but don't stay on them any longer than you need to. And you don't necessarily need chemicals. I've beaten depressed periods in my life with no chemicals using in part the things described below.

Make the concious choice to see good things over bad...over and over every day. Feeling immediately follows thought, so think about good things and when you catch yourself thinking about bad things change your train of thought. Eat healthy foods, take vitamins, drink plenty of water and get adequate exersize.
And this sounds weird but it works. Smile. Even if it's not real, smile. Even if it feels fake smile. At people, at walls, at no one at all. When you're with people, when you're alone. Try this for a week, you'll be surprised. Best wishes and good luck.

Answer 2

A school counselor is a good start.........You say that a lot of your friends don't care, yet you then say that they try to make you feel better........Here's what I think.........I think it is so hard to be a teenager these days! You guys have a lot on your plate...and God knows you can handle it.....
Everytime we as humans have something right go on in our lives, well then Yeah! Yeah! Yeah! We want the world to know! But when something goes wrong then we want the world to know at that instant and to help fix it! 9 times out of 10, we create our own fate.....Think about it for one minute...
You either made a good day happen, or you made a bad day happen because of your attitude, or whatever.....Don't expect someone to come to your aide everytime something wrong goes on..We all have bad days where we are depressed, or just down right in the dumps.....Pull yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again!! Good luck Hon. Hang in there..Tomorrow will be another day with your help......make it a good one
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Answer 3

yah depression sucks.
you should just be yourself, and treat your friends with respect.
if you treat your friends right then they will treat you right.
if they don't...
get new friends.
as far as crying in class it sounds like you have severe depression right now. you may need to seek help from a counselor or a psychiatrist.
Depression is sometimes caused by external factors, but sometimes it is just because your brain is not producing enough "happy chemicals" like serotonin and endorphines.
there is medicine to help that.
but also you should spend more time outside in the sun, exercise, eat right, and be productive.
also doing things for other people, giving people things for no reason, etc. is a good way to keep from being depressed.
good luck
spoonman

Answer 4

People are drawn to people who are happy and content with themselves - neediness is a strong repellent. People with high self-esteem have the ability to turn themselves outward and feel and show interest in others, which in turn attracts them friends who are interested in them and genuinely care. I think a good way to begin building self-esteem and fight off depression is volunteer work. Go to a hospital, a nursing home, an animal shelter. Find resources that can hook you with helping people (or animals), and see what appeals to you and works with your schedule. There are countless ways to volunteer. Give it a try and see what happens. God bless.

Answer 5

i have depression. i learned that life is all about choices. when you wake up in the morning you can choose to have a good day or a bad day. you can choose to be in a good mood or a bad mood. you can choose to write a paper neatly or write it messy. you choose to dress nicely or not. no one can make you feel bad about yourself without your permission, you have to allow them to make you feel that way. if you arent in a good mood, choose to change that mood. it takes a while to learn how to do it but life is much better when you start making the choice to be happy. give it a try. people like to be around happy people not someone who is going to take them out of their good mood. i dont take meds for mine, i work hard to control it. i do quite well now. i only have about 2 depressed days a month and they arent that bad anymore. good luck!

Answer 6

Tell them how u feel. tell them, u r depressed and tell them the reason. Tell also to ur boyfriend to be more supportive to u. I had boyfriend, which had very low self esteem too, and i told him every day how much i loved him, every day i told him how beautiful he looked and how amazing he was.Tell ur boyfriend u need to hear this kind of things more often than he says it. why arent u confident? is it about the way u look, or u act, or what? try to trust urself more.and if u feel like u cant do it urself, than try to visit therapist, they might help u.

Answer 7

I had a similar problem when I was in school. I realized that friends come and go...education lasts a lifetime. dont worry about friends. they are just a pasttime on the way to a promising future. Concentrate on your studies and less on the others around you. Later in life you might be glad you did.

Answer 8

well i fell the same way i mean i have freinds but none are really there for me and i consider myself a good freind but i dont consider any of them good freinds to me...am there when they need me so how come they cant be there when i need them...so i wouldnt know how to answer your ? cuz i fell the same way...and maybe the only solution is to find other freinds but then again how do you do that???

Answer 9

My question is: What do YOU do to encourage yourself? What do YOU do to help yourself get out the depression? YOU cannot expect other to encourage you or lift you out of your depression unless you are willing to do something to help yourself.

Answer 10

If it is so bad your crying in class you need to talk to a counselor. Start with your counselor at school. She will keep it confidential. Please do that for yourself, dont put it off.