a guy i've known for a couple of years has smacked my butt a couple of times. when i asked him why he did that he said out of "horniness". He claims he won't do anything with me since i'm married. Whenever he sees me for the first time in a night, I can always hear that his voice is nervous until he warms up around me and yet when I've told him that certain pics of his don't look as good as his other ones he makes an embarassed face and i feel so bad, but anyways, what do you think? also he tells me i'm funny and talks with me on messenger when he gets drunk, but it's all very basic conversation. how are you etc.
2006-11-26 13:15:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes, while i'm married I DO NOT flirt with him. I wanted other people's opinion on why he is acting this way. he hasn't hit my butt in well over a year.
2006-11-26 13:22:12 · update #1
He likes you but hold back because you are married.So,you shouldn't lead him on because that will cause him to have hope to build a relationship with you.You should realize that you don't want it,right?
2006-11-26 13:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's having a fantasy about you ,and your about to get swept up in it, how would you feel if your husband was doing the same thing to you, and you didn't know about it. It sure wouldn't feel good would it, We all have fantasy's, and we all have past lives, sounds like to me this guy doesn't want to commit to anyone else and is choosing you because he thinks you safe, being married, If you were my wife and I knew what he was doing ( smacking you on the butt, I'd smack him on the nose (more than once) Do you really want to jeopardize your marriage playing school girl games with this man . Be a woman and tell this man to back off and find someone else to harrass ( I think you like it)
2006-11-26 21:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by JntheRev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just from what you wrote, it seems fairly obvious even to yourself that he is interested in you, so I have to wonder what your question really is.
In any case, I think little of the type of guy who would do this sort of thing to a woman he well knows is married. He obviously is self-centered and has no true respect for you, only desire.
If your current husband is no good, then perhaps you should leave him -- but in that case don't hook up with this one. A man who does this type of thing is essentially the selfish type and everything will always be about him.
2006-11-26 21:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely dont allow him to smack you in the butt! He seems very immature.. If I were you I would have a talk with him that you don't appreciate his immaturity around you, and that he is not being the kind of friend you would want to surround yourself with. Especially if you are married.. that shows that he doesnt respect your husband! So have a talk with him or if he bothers you, try not to keep in contact with him too much.
2006-11-26 21:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Naomi F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is being disrespectful because you are letting him! You are married you say? A married woman doesn't need to know why a guy smacks her on the butt- she simply needs him to stop! Tell him! It is not being friendly, it is being very rude. Do not speak to him when he is drunk! How old are you? Your husband should have something to say about this don't you think? Lose this guy or lose your marriage.
2006-11-26 21:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by bpember744@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are flirting with disaster. If you are married stop messing around with this guy. You are just asking for trouble and if you keep on this way you are gonna get a truck load of it. You are a married woman act like it.
2006-11-26 21:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
weeeellllllll, if ur married then tell him to F OFF unless he wants to be friends, but no slaps. if he does then u might want a restraining order or go prank his house everytime he does. but i got nothin else
also think if one of these ppl is that guy i just thought of that while reading the answers
2006-11-26 21:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by MIRAGE_KID2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married & he smacks you on the butt run away from him ASAP
2006-11-26 21:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think he'd smack your fanny if he wasn't interested in something a little more intimate. BTW, letting him smack your fanny with no penalty IS flirting with him--big time. It's very likely if you show interest in intimacy, he'll be raring to go.
2006-11-26 21:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that u like the attention this guy gives u ..... u shouldn't really lead the poor fellow on as u are married .....also sounds more to me like how u treat him .... u need him to boost your confidence, its normal to want to feel attractive to other men, even if u are in a relationship .... sometimes marriage and kids make u feel dowdy .....u know u are in control of this "relationship" ......
2006-11-26 21:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋