Interesting situation with perhaps no solution??

Question

I am attending a group where people discuss "honesty" and being honest. Tlie to their partners about their whereabouts etc yet they say they are honest. I say the being "I am not honest because I am in a situation whereby if I were to be honest I would ruin the situation". I say "Yes, I am dishonest". These people in the group tell me to speak up ...ruin the situation and become honest as honesty is the best policy. Yes , but >>>>>
Honesty does not protect. Reviewing what I know and what is going on makes me nervous . I just walked awayfrom the situation I was dishonest in and left it behaind so i do not have to tell anyone.Should I have faced up to it??? Is it right to tell the group I was dishonest in a situation and I still am ? Do you confront the situation head on and face the consequences??? Can another person make you dishonest and you carry it on for them????
I am puzzled and looking for an answer.

Answer 1

Only if you are being honest to help the other person. If telling the truth would be of some benefit to the other group then go for it. If you are only being honest to make yourself feel better, suck it up.

Answer 2

Usually honesty is the best policy - even if you don't see it right away, you will see it down the road that you did the right thing. Like if you are trying to be honest to protect someone's feelings, don't bother because they will likely find out the truth at some point in time and be even more hurt. I don't get the question about someone else making you dishonest. Are you lying for them? They can't make you do that, it's your choice. It's also your choice not to volunteer information that you have that could catch someone else in a lie. That other person is not your responsibility. Those are my two cents even though I agree with the other answerers that nobody is 100% honest.

Answer 3

You could have faced up to the situation in which you didn't tell the entire truth. Would that action have helped you move forward? Perhaps you are on a path now where you should leave certain situations behind. I believe that in committing dishonesty, we are being told by the universe that it is time for us to move away and move forward. Dishonesty comes from our guts not wanting to acknowledge the truth of a situation because of conflicts within our subconscious or our own discomfort of a situation. Our lives are journeys to situations in which we will live peaceful, happy and honest lives. When we have reached the time in our lives where we can be peaceful, honest and happy, we could tell ourselves that our lives are complete.

I don't know if many people truly reach this realm. Mazlov called this "self actualization". Now you can ask yourself if honesty in your life is possible in the way you now are living. Are there any conflicts and discomforts you are feeling consciously and unconsciously? Are you happy and peaceful?

We are our own barometers of the facet of honesty. No one can truly MAKE you dishonest unless you choose to let them do this. In a nutshell, your life and honesty are what you make of them.

Answer 4

I would say that if you were to go out looking for a single person in the whole world that has ever been 100% honest, you would be hard pressed. How many time have you told someone that they are not fat or unattractive? Every year my husband manages to guess his christmas present even before seeing the box. Do I tell him the truth and ruin his christmas? There is such a thing as protecting a person by telling them a small lie.

Answer 5

I believe in honesty, I was brought up that way and I am really happy for it. I don't know enough details to say whether you should face up to your consequences or not but in most cases that is probably a yes (in my opinion).
Really the key to being honest is not doing things that you'll want to lie about. Even though I was brought up to be honest I have done plenty of things I'd want to lie about and I have, we all do, but most of the time I don't, and it's getting less and less now because each time I do I feel like crap and it effects my relationships.

So I'm all for honesty but I think anyone would agree that it's not easy, so if you do decide to face up to the consequences I wish you good luck!

Answer 6

Honesty is always the best policy. Placing your self in a situation that may test that honesty is not the place to be. Having to aid a person in their lie makes you an accomplice to that lie.
Remember...if you lie you have twice as much to remember than if you don't. You have to remember the truth and you have to remember the lie...FOREVER...and the lie part is going to fill your head with unnecessary BS.
It's all about self respect...to thine own self be true!

Answer 7

I don't think there is any such thing as complete "honesty".

What can be seen as dishonest can be seen by others as honest. It is just part of the human condition over time.

Answer 8

one day I was walking in the woods. I slipped and I fell. A peice of wood got stuck in my leg. I cleaned it out as best as I could but a splinter of wood was still beneith the flesh. I could walk away from the stick, and from the wood, but the wound went with me. I did not want the pain of getting the splinter out. It stung and stung, got swollen and leaked a foul smelling puss. For a moment there I thought letting the leg rot off would be better than getting anywhere near that swolen lump.

I cut the wound open to get out the spinter that was rotting inside of me. It hurt like hell. I lost a lot of blood in it, and I still have the scar. but I am happy the pain is gone and I got to keep the leg.

What do you want more, the splinter or the leg?

Answer 9

If the purpose and aim of the group is honesty, you need to step up and tell all.
Don't blame it on another.
Accept what you did and work harder to move out of the mess that you are in.
Indecision is a sign of weakness. You must be strong!

Answer 10

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