2006-11-26 13:01:53 · 34 answers · asked by ms.thawkins 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My six year old sister went into histerics when my parents got divorced. What kind of person would put a kid through that kind of grief. They should have never had any kids to begin with because they were incapable of nurturing.
2006-11-26 13:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A family going through divorce definitely has an effect on a child, but it doesn't have to be all negative. If the parents are responsible and pay attention to that child's emotional needs, and let them know that they are needed, wanted and loved, things should be fine. Often children become pawns in the parents battle with each other, and if the children, or child is not of age to fully understand the situation, it may cause future issues of self worth, and effect their role in many relationships through out life.
2006-11-26 13:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by b.y.o.b. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it affects all parties to an extent how much it affects the children is up to how much the parents play a role in the divorce.
You and your partner can seperate on good terms and speak to the children togethter to explain things...minimal effect on the kids unless they dont understand why.
Second occasion the divorce is not so nice and there is constant backstabbing and nastyness betweent two parents I don't care what they say no matter how much you try and hide it kids do knwo what is going on!
Totally bitter divorce it is going to affect the kids
If I was you and w as thinking about divorce...get the kids to see a social worker or counsellor so they can deal with their feelings.
2006-11-26 13:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and very lasting effects. THere's a book entitled "The legacy of divorce" which follows case studies for 25 years after the childs divorce and the effect on th child is quite profound in all aspects of their life through childhood to adult years.
2006-11-26 13:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by freaky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it can effect the children, but if you stay married and there is fighting, abuse, addictions going on then that can also effect the children. If divorced, it depends on how the parents handle the divorce. Speaking with the children and supporting them emotionally and financially is better. If parents put their own feeling for the other aside and support and nuture the children emotionally and financially, then being apart can be better all the way around. Good luck, it's not easy but can be better all the way around for everyone involved.
2006-11-26 13:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the age of the kids, the relationship the kids have with the parents, etc. There are many factors. But if the kids are young, then I agree with everyone else. A divorce will have some impact on the children.
2006-11-26 13:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well speaking from someone who's parents divorced at age 11, yes it does. I now hate divorce! I hate what it does to families. But it's not detrimental. If you're considering a divorce think about what's right by you because even if you stay because of the children it may end up worse for them... My mum was hanging on by a string for us kids but couldn't take it anymore and left, if she hadn't maybe something worse could have happened, she could have died because of health problems because she was so un-happy or who knows she may of killed herself.
I don't hate my parents for divorcing, in fact I think it helped me mature faster and I'm greatful for that, so as long as you do your best with you kids in whatever the situation, it will be ok.
2006-11-26 13:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by kittyandcj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
But staying together for the children is not a good option.
They feel the antipathy.
An amicable divorce is better if you can share the children, spare them pain, and get along.
If you try to poison a child against you ex, you are abusing that child.
2006-11-26 13:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how it is handled. My parents divorced & remarried 6 years later. I am 51 yrs old and it still effects me in my thoughts & opinions. I have been married for 33 yrs. It is harder on children than people give credit.
Maybe it is the reason for declining marriage rates?
2006-11-26 13:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, any change in the immediate environment is going to effect children. Even if things are handled maturely and you talk things through with the children, it is definitely going to have an effect on them.
2006-11-26 13:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by darlintxdaisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋