2006-11-26 13:00:46 · 24 answers · asked by ms.thawkins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I do but I also beleive that saying in a bad marriage can Affect the children as well.
2006-11-26 13:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, especially if they are young. Children need to be reminded that the problems in a marriage are not their fault. It really gets on my nerves when I see my daughter-in-law and step-son fight. The first thing she does is pick up the baby. It's nerve wrecking. Though it is also not healthy for children to never see their parents fight, they should never be put in the middle. They begin to think it's their fault and that there is something wrong with them that made the two people they love most in the world break up. When you plan on divorcing, make sure the kids know exactly what is going to happen. You don't necessarily have to break up badly. When there is kids involved, what one person did to the other should be obsolete. The issue should be that the child(ren) make it thought the adjustment comfortably.
2006-11-26 21:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ofie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No It will affect you child if he is living and fake or I can say glass house that breaks easy...And is not stability...Is better sometimes to get the divorce for the benefit of the child...If is too many argues etc fights...Or not love Think about it do you want that child to one day to stay in a marriage even is not happy... So if is for the benefit of the child's mental health so it won't...Truth it have to be a very peaceful divorce and have a good friendship with that ex- for the benefit of the child...Good luck!!!
2006-11-26 21:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes! a divorce can greatly effect a child, having only a mom or dad can change the way a child acts and feels, but then again having a bad marriage is probably worse for a child then having a split up family, i know if my parents were getting a divorce after 25years it would make me devastated, but if they were fighting being apart would be the best thing for them and my family, you got to remember though some point they will think they are the reason and at one point they will probably hate u=(
2006-11-26 21:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES it does...believe me i have 3 children and divorced for 8 years and i will tell you that it affects them every day...i had my sons put in counseling and i will tell you what it still is a very big impact on them socially and mentally..i always reassure them since there father and i both have remarried they are very special because they have 2 moms and 2 dads...it helps alot if the parents can still get along and be part of the kids lives..good luck ...
2006-11-26 21:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by spunky_16407 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. As the child of divorced parents I noticed two reactions.
when my mother gathered all of us kids in the family room one day I knew instantly it was about dad. being the logical person I am my mind flew to the worst case senerio, in order to prepare for it. I was prepared for the words "Dad is dead" so when Mother said that they were getting a divorce my heart leaped that he was alive and well. meanwhile all their hearts fell and my brother basically voiced all their feeling with the words "it feels like part of my heart has been ripped out". while my heart was saying "he's still alive and he's still my dad".
so depending on there reference point the children will take it different ways. the best part of dealing with it is to make sure that the parents get to share equal amounts of time with the kids after the finalization of the divorce.
2006-11-26 21:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kuraimizu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, I'm in one right now and it does affect emotionally and mentally. Their grades had dropped big time.
Your children will go through phases of the divorce. The separation for one, visitation is the other, it will take a toll on them too. No matter the age of anyone's children, it's a big affect.
Good Luck!
2006-11-26 21:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by YKK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every major event has an effect on children. The way they are affected depends a lot on their general coping skills, the way the parents handle the events and their support systems.
2006-11-26 21:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by SlapHappy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course it does. how could it not. what effects the family effects the kids. but does it effect them in a negative way? not always. most of the time its in a positive way.children would rather come a divorced home then a broken home.
2006-11-26 21:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally, I married a man who is divorced with kids. His ex is nuts and now the kids lie to both parents, they are so confused.
I would not get divorced now that I have kids unless it was my very last alternative.
2006-11-26 21:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by 2shrrp4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋