He knows that I dont like porn but I catch him watching it on tv late at night when im asleep or ill find pictures of women on his cell phone bent over and buck *** naked, but there just pics of women sent to him not real women he knows... Is it just me or should I continue to get on to him about the porn subject.... Am I getting upset for no reason?It really hurts to know that he could be getting off on some hot chick and im not getting any cuz im 7 months pregnant...what do I do?
2006-11-26 12:55:34 · 20 answers · asked by happy2BAlive!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make your own porn with him....and take naked pictures of you and put it on his cell phone...why fantasize about fake women's when he can fantasize of his real women which that would be you!!
2006-11-26 19:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by mabel20179 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-16 23:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and not assume that you are not really the hysterical prude that you sound like. Those harpies above who wrote and suggested that you leave him ARE the real hysterical prudes in this discussion but your last comment stating that you're upset that you "aren't getting any" belays the notion that you might be some hatchet faced old bat who's husband ran off screaming in the night long ago.
Consider that he isn't "getting any" either and if you were willing to just meet him half way on this, not talking about anything drastic just watch a @#$% dirty movie with him sometime and try not to look down your nose and seem so disapproving or judgmental of his being completely normal, you might go a long way towards making your home a happier one.
Or you can continue remain on your high horse, make his life miserable, listen to the man hating shrews posted above and slowly poison your marriage. Meet him half way on this and then ask him to meet you half way on something else. Compromise is the very nature of marriage and the key to a healthy relationship. Seriously, good luck to you both.
2006-11-26 14:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by kfc13571 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel horrible If I were you. You know, every man likes porn. All of them like it. You don't like it and that's why he watches it when you're asleep. I know that when a man really respect you he would do things the way you think is right. If you don't like porn then he shouldn't watch it even if he likes it cause that goes agains what you feel, he has got pictures of women, they are not real women he knows but that's not right, he should respect you, now more than ever cause you're pregnant. Why can't he have a picture of you and your beautiful tummy on the cell phone??? I think he's sick and I would be very upset if I were you
2006-11-26 13:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you are feeling I was going through it to when I was pregnant. He was watching porn and It hurt me. When your pregnant its hard to feel sexy and when your man is looking at those kinds of images it hurts it puts alot of thoughts into your head. The only thing i know to tell you is as long as he isnt doing anything with other women then try not to let it bother you he is a man and men get horny. When you have your baby you show him that they might look good but you still got it and you give him some excitement that he will never forget their just pictures your the real deal you won him I hope things get better try not to worry about it to much you dont need anymore stress built up you have to be healthy for that little one you are carrying.
2006-11-26 13:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't take it so hard...It's no big deal really!
This is so normal, especially right now.
Believe me you are in no danger of him shifting his affections.
As a matter of fact..one minute after the film is over or the book
has been thrown back under the bed...he can't even remember if the chick was a blond or a brunette. If he met her on the street he wouldn't even have the nerve to talk to her.
It's fantasy...let him have it....it's better than the flip side....
going out with the guys and cruising the bars.
Think about it. You got him at home...that's where you
want him ...right? Congratulations on the baby!
You'll feel much better after it gets here.
2006-11-26 13:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a VERY hurtful thing for him to do to you, especially when you are carrying his child. I know how bad this probably makes you feel, BUT unforunately, this is a characteristic of most men. Men are turned on by the "visuals"...seeing women, not necessarily touching them...so, he isn't cheating on you. I wouldn't be TOO upset with him for doing this, as it's better for him to be doing this than going out and finding satisfaction elsewhere.
2006-11-26 13:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by missapparition 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. It's easy to say pull up a chair and join, but you need to be careful. Just be safe and get tested for STDs incase it's more than just porn. You have to think about your safety and the safety of your baby.
There's no easy answer to this one. Just how unhappy are you willing to allow this issue to make you? If it's possible, do get over it. Porn is fun, and better if are watching it with your lover.
2006-11-26 13:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by featherives 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are his mate not his mother. It appears that you are very close minded and possibly a poor sexual match for your husband. Watch them with him, don't be such a controlling prude and he won't be likely to stray. Of course you will be somewhat more sensitive in your current state but you can still be intimate with your husband just in a different way for a while.
2006-11-26 13:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by dano 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
at this time in your marrige you need to talk to him and ask him why he is doing this , don`t be mad at him ,but talk nice to find out why .
you also need to see that he is also in need of love as all people are in life and that he is in need of some (personal time ) with you , because you are expecting does not mean you can not make love to your husband and he can also make you feel wanted and loved even more at this time .
porn is not all bad but there is some out there that is nice for both you and him , search you life to find a place with these movies and toys that best fit you both because you can have fun and enjoy life in many ways and it is and can be very fun and good for you marriage.
2006-11-26 13:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by borntocare 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋