Read my last question and you'd understand that my MIL now lives my hubby's ex.
So...I've gotten on and tried to put this pass me...I want to forget and move on,
However my MIL comes to visit my kids (4&5 yrs old). And I just found from them that she discusses my hubby's ex with them.
I told him that I am displeased....but he blew up on me and said that I am the dysfunctional one.
Who do you see as "dysfunctional"
Me...Him...or MIL?
2006-11-26 12:55:04 · 11 answers · asked by cheezeumzzz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Coleen...Thank you for your answer....point well taken, however I wish you would read my last question. That would explain everthing!
2006-11-26 13:02:58 · update #1
There is NO, I repeat NO, NONE, NOT ANY reason for Grandma to be discussing an EX with your children. PERIOD. Your husband had better come to the stark realization that he is no longer married to his EX. Once he figures it out he had better get it through to his mother.Its one thing to become friendly with a spose and maintain some affection after divorce. It is a far different matter to to try to introduce that person to the children of the new spouse.
Put your foot down. Its your house and discussions of the EX will not take place in front of your children . If he cannot deal with that perhaps he should go live with mommy and the ex. Tell him not to forget to send money .
2006-11-26 13:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
regrettably, you could not substitute somebody and cause them to do something which you particularly choose. they'd desire to choose to alter for themselves.. there are some thoughts. you could seek for marriage counseling, you additionally can sit down him down and tell him the way you experience with the "I" words, or you may provide him an ultimatim (final hotel). the situation is which you married him, understanding what you have been stepping into (him having an ex spouse and toddlers).. so there somewhat isn't lots you're able to do different than what I pronounced above. If he wasn't hiding something from you why could he delete the messages? it variety of feels particularly off to me.
2016-10-13 04:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by seabrooks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The MIL is definately wrong..I would not like my mother in law doing that to me
2006-11-26 13:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm.........that would bother me a little bit but it depends on what is being said to them. i think they are a little young to hear about the ex. I would have a talk with the mil and ask her not to tell your kids about her because it has no relevence to them whatsoever. that's really for you to talk about with them. she's crossing the line. talk with her.
2006-11-26 13:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i cannot beleive ur hubby did that to you, why is he defending his ex and mil? u need to set his mil and ex straight. they are your kids. u are not dysfunctional.
2006-11-26 15:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MIL deffinetly
2006-11-26 12:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by M e g a n * 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with your children knowing that their father had another wife before you? Your husband wasn't "hatched" the moment he met you, he had a life before that and I think it is great that the ex wife has been thoughtful enough to allow her EX mother in law to live with her, not many women are that kind or strong. Not all marriages end with both parties hating one another, obviously your husband's first marriage was one of them, get over yourself and learn to accept your husband's or your jealousies might make you his SECOND ex wife.
2006-11-26 12:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try talking to her and tell her that you feel it is inappropriate to discuss ex with kids.
2006-11-26 12:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is so disrespectful. Sit them both down tell them how you feel. Respecfully
2006-11-26 13:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your husband and your MIL
2006-11-26 12:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋