my in-laws and I don't exactly love each other. So I don't see any point in being around them at Christmas to just pretend everything is so great. Then when it's all over, they will treat me like they always do, like I'm dirt under their feet. Would you subject yourself to the misery? My husband refuses to see it.
2006-11-26 12:53:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I'd stay away from them. if they cannot respect me 365 days of the year, don't deal with them. You don't need all that negativity.
2006-11-26 13:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by farharringsingslia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, after many years of tolerating a certain family members negative destructive, mean and rude holiday behavior, we finally said enough is enough!
Now our holidays are happy, and he gets to be alone, well only one other family members chooses to be around him and it works for them, but the rest of us are free to finally enjoy the holidays. My husband tried to get me to do something about this situation for many years before it got to the point where I had no other choice, as I was trying to keep the family together for my parents sake, Took some family members years to get over the change, others welcomed the relief... good luck!
2006-11-26 21:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat you are. My in-laws are a nightmare and treat me like crap. when my husband tried years ago to call them on it it started an argument. they will not change and if my husband tries to stop their behavior he will lose his parents. So I just go ahead and go with him and act all nice and happy because no matter what they say or do you will know that at the end of the day you have their son all to yourself and that you have a happy life.
2006-11-26 20:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by tinymight78 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not an exclusive case sweetie.
Think of it : Christmas is like to get bored ( but ...really bored) a couple of hours before midnight and 5 minutes after... Have a nice drink , see your kids happy, and laugh at the hubby feeling "at home" with mummey and daddey !!!! hey hey !! cheer it up girl...
2006-11-26 21:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try a little? Maybe they see you as difficult too. They are your husband's family and as such, they mean something to him. Sometimes I think too many daughters-in-law are just jealous and possesive of their husbands. I do all I can for my in-laws and my husband loves me for it. So do my in-laws. Try inviting your mother-in-law out to lunch or a movie. You might be surprised. Don't forget! If you have kids you will be the mother-in-law one day. And what goes around, comes around. Don't separate your husband from his family at Christmas.
2006-11-26 21:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never ever waste time on negative things/energy like that. Life is way too short.
p.s. get a tape recorder or better yet a video camera and tape your in-laws interacting with you. Later replay it for your husband.
2006-11-26 21:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by yaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once your husband doesn't treat you like dirt, then you don't have to care a hoot. Once you love yourself, they'll get the message.
2006-11-26 20:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by charmaine f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, you must put a foot down. you cant be controlled! I believe in the husband lovin the wife like christ loved the church and died for it and the wife submitting to the husband as unto God. But submit doesnt mean control! your hubby is being controlled by his parents still and he in turn is controlling u and they are as well. No you need to break free! you need to let him know, "Honey. i love you very much but this marriage isnt about you controlling me because momma and dada wanna control you still! we should be are own people. we should believe what we believe and do what we do because we believe it to be true"! you dont have to be tip toeing around in laws. that aint right u should confront in love and break free
2006-11-26 21:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are like a lot of people - I guess we all just put up with it for 1 day a year.
Smile and know it will all be over very shortly.
2006-11-26 20:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by Aussie Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would pretend for one day out the the year, if nothing else, for your husband and kids if you have them
2006-11-26 20:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋