or will they always be a cheater? Do you know anyone who changed?
2006-11-26 12:48:28 · 42 answers · asked by Sugar 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not asking this for myself. I want to know how many people think like me.My marriage is fine.
2006-11-26 13:06:27 · update #1
Sure, just wait til they get too old to play the field. Altho by that time I'm not sure how completely respectful they'll be to whomever (man/lady) they finally end up with. They may not be able to cheat anymore but they can still be disrespectful in other ways. An example is that cheaters also have to be liars by nature to cover up their ways, etc. They will become habitual liars or were already, too. So even though they can't cheat anymore they may be addicted to being dishonest with their others. By then, practice should've made perfect on knowing how to love/respect the opposite sex/PERSON YOU ARE WITH & it seems like they have a track history of not being able to. You know that honesty, honest communication, sincerity, respect, love, etc are important foundations in a relationship. But there are plenty of relationships (Bill & Hillary Clinton) where that was sorely missed & they are still making the best of it. ~Or should I say Hillary is still making the best of it because she is gonna honor her vows even if her hubby doesn't. She is such an encouraging example of GRACE! Also, remember most wedding vows say: For better OR WORSE, in sickness & health, for richer or poorer, till death do we part. And some people take that to heart & honor their part even if their spouses don't. (Which in my mind is honorable.) Just because others can't do it, it doesn't mean that it should hold you back from greatness. :) Best Wishes!
I am happy to hear that your relationship is fine!
2006-11-26 12:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Nocine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think this really depends upon if the person is what I call a "serial cheater" or has simply made a single mistake...
I think that a "serial cheater" is going to be hard pressed to learn to change thier behavior, because it's something that has become a force of habit. It's just like someone who is an alcoholic or an over-eater...addiction is a sickness that can't really be "cured", rather it can be managed. So...perhaps with a lot of couseling and desire for change, this type of person may be able to stop thier cheating ways...then again, maybe not.
If you're talking about a person who has made one or maybe two stupid mistakes and has realized that these were "mistakes", then there is a good chance that they can change.
2006-11-26 12:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reason they cheated. Some people have cheated because of highly stressful times and it seemed like the only piece of happiness they could have for a moment in a time of darkness. Does it make it right? No. Does it make it understandable? Maybe.
Then there are the people who willfully go out to find a lover to hurt and degrade their wife/husband and family.
The first kind I mentioned can change. The affair was a mistake and they want to be a better person. True, feelings have been hurt but trust can be restored with love and guidance.
The second. No. These are horrible people who care for no one but themselves.
I have seen both of these scenarios. And the answer in short form is: Depends on why and what type of person they are.
2006-11-26 12:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Cheaters Ever Change
2016-09-28 21:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a character flaw. It is something that a person can only change for himself and not for anyone else. It is addictive behavior and along with cheating comes the cover-up and lies. The first person a cheater lies to is often himself.
A cheater never cheats on anyone else. A cheater cheats himself and robs himself of love and trust. A person that trusts a cheater cheats himself as well.
2006-11-26 12:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I really suppose if you mean by cheating, you mean a husband cheating on a wife or visa versa....the answer would be most likely they will never change. The revel in the chase. They like the spouse chasing them, and in turn they love to chase someone else. It is addicting to them.
I wouldn't put a lot of merit in highschool romances being soured by cheating. I think that is still a maturity issue. Most people learn that is not acceptable by the time they are adults.
Adult cheaters can never change. I don't thik they like themselves, so they are in constant search for someone to feed their ego.
2006-11-26 12:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry,as quickly as a cheater continuously a cheater.Ive cheated and have been cheated on. as quickly as I cheated - it substitute right into a fashion for me to alter into unattached-and to lose intimacy to the guy. as quickly as this happens the guy cheating won't be able to truly-particularly be completely intimate returned with their significant different. The bond has been broken and the relationship is in basic terms not the comparable. it somewhat is gloomy for the two human beings-the cheater will experience weird and wonderful and your significant different will %. up on your habit-"you could not conceal those lyin' eyes". My final 3 relationships i did not cheat. It made me experience solid.
2016-10-13 04:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by seabrooks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes People who cheat on there wife's or ex girlfriends can change. How do I know I cheated on every girl I was ever with but when you find that special one to be with the thought of being with someone else will make you sick. I found someone and have been faithful and would never cheat because of how much she means to me. If people cheat there must be something missing in there relationship that they have to go to others to find. Once you find that special one you won't cheat. I would rather die than cheat!
2014-02-28 06:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes people change, I speak from experience, I cheated, I know it was horrible, the worst thing I have ever done.....I not only caused my ex pain, but I caused myself and my whole family a great deal of pain...it takes a "real" person to admit when they have done wrong and to also change from mistakes they have made in the past!! I regret what I did with all of my heart and I will always be sorry..I have changed for the better..I only did it once and I will never do it again! So remember we are all human, some people will never change and some people, like me,make mistakes and learn from them...
2006-11-26 13:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by veronica c 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
They can change although they probably won't. Of course it would depend upon the circumstances behind the cheating. For some the relationship is over long before they begin to cheat. One reason could be that they have a cheating spouse.
2006-11-26 12:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋