my 11 month old son does not want to say with his dad evan when he wake up in the middle of the night what should we do
2006-11-26 12:46:12 · 7 answers · asked by lisa_08 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
well, considering he was with with since conception..and feels he is a part of you..(literally) it is quite normal for a child of that age to prefer to be with mom. A baby sees you as an extension of their selves..like you belong with him 24/7 as you are a part of them. Stay by your baby, but have dad take him. Reassure your baby..It is not easy..and I know it sounds silly..but it's true. Your child is having separation anxiety from you. And yes..even dad can not hep him with that some times.
2006-11-26 14:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by sticky J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each child is different. One of my 4 children was like that - didn't want to be with anyone but me! He was like that until about 2 years old.
Maybe if you & your husband make a special effort to show your son it's not an either/or situation - whenever dad has me, mom is away doing something - then he'll be happier with dad. All 3 of you sit down together and read a book, play games (this little piggy goes to market), play with toy trucks - you know - where you show your son that all 3 of you are together in his world. All 3 of you stand around the tub and play in the water together at bath time. Show him that dad is fun, mom is nurturing, and it takes both of you together to make his world interesting!
2006-11-26 20:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by zemirahjoy33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he just likes to be with you. He might be used to just being with you mostly.
You said he don't like to stay with his dad even when he wakes in the middle of the night. Do you take him to his dad in the middle of the night when he wakes?
2006-11-26 20:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens. Kids are naturally closer to their mother. I experienced this with my two sons (now 15 & 14). To overcome this I spent time with them at home while mom went elsewhere. They simply had to get used to me being the person taking care of them, not just mom.
The baby will cry for a while, dad will get mad and hurt, but mom needs to go out of the house shopping and leave dad to take care of junior for a while by himself. It will work out.
2006-11-26 20:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by jpbofohio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with him, there is nothing wrong with the dad. Your son apparently just feels more comfortable with you, he proabably feels more of a maternal connection. Sometimes babies do this, so hopefully the father doesn't get discouraged and give up! He will probably grow out of it soon! Good luck!
2006-11-26 21:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies get clingy at that age. He has just picked mom to cling to. So did mine.Enjoy it. It won't last forever. Boys will later bond with dad and identify with dad more than mom.
2006-11-26 20:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur 'daddy' 2 stop beating ur kid
2006-11-26 21:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo Names Are Overrated. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋