Is there a way I can keep my estranged husband from entering our marital home whenever HE wants? We have been separated (not legally) for 9 months because he cheated on me and got his girlfriend/lover pregnant. I'd like to reconcile if possible, but because he knows our children & I desire him back, he's in control. He knows we are usually home and he can visit us whenever he desires so this doesn't leave him with the feeling of "missing" us. I'd like to know if there is some way to keep him from seeing & visiting us whenever he wants, without any legal recourse on me.
2006-11-26 12:43:48 · 14 answers · asked by mercedes5girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHY WOULD YOU WANT HIM BACK?
WHY WOULD YOU SIT THERE AND WAIT FOR HIM TO DECIDE WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?
TAKING HIM BACK WOULD TEACH THE WRONG MESSAGE TO YOUR CHILDREN.
IT'S BETTER FOR THEM TO COME FROM A BROKEN HOME THAN TO LIVE IN ONE.
YOUR HUSBAND JUST DOESN'T WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR ALIMONY AND CHILD SUPPORT. BUT IT'S WHAT YOU DESERVE FOR HIS INFIDELITY AND ABANDONMENT.
YOU SHOULD CHANGE THE LOCKS AND GET A TEMPORARY RESTRAINING ORDER. WORK OUT VISITATION DETAILS IN A DIVORCE DECREE.
YOU SHOULD NOT ALLOW YOUR CHILDREN TO SEE HIM ABUSE AND CONTROL OU LIKE THIS, AND THEY SHOULDN'T SEE YOU ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN OR ACCEPT IT WHEN IT DOES.
HE HAS CLEARLY MADE HIS CHOICE AND IT IS NOT YOU OR HIS OWN FAMILY. HE HAS STARTED A NEW ONE AND REPLACED YOU. THERE'S NOTHING THAT CAN EXPAIN, JUSTIFY, OR MAKE THAT ALL RIGHT.
WHY GIVE HIM ANY CONTROL OVER YOU? HE'S NOT WORTH IT.
2006-11-26 12:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cake and eating it too, must be nice, If he got one girl pregnant, what makes you think she the only girl he porking, Sounds to me like he can't keep his d--k in his pants, You've been separated 9 mts, how many times you had sex with him in that time, sounds to me like you enjoy the abuse or don't have any self-esteem, I'm not trying to be cruel, and sometimes it hard to let go of someone we love, but if he loved you he wouldn't have done this to start with, Maybe you should get you a boyfriend, and have him there when you hubby visits, wonder what he would think of that. For God sakes girl change you locks,
2006-11-26 13:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by JntheRev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your saying two things.You want to keep him from coming in when he wants,but you and your children want him back.It's either one or the other.You keep thinking like that he'll come and go as he pleases.What i suggest you do is move out of that house,or change the locks to all doors.That way he can't come in and out because he won't have a key.Then you will have a valid reason to call the police if he tries to get in.You need for it to be legal,or he won't take you serious.
2006-11-26 13:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your attorney is right. You have to give him a notorized letter stating he has 30 days to pick up his belongings. If he doesn't, then you move them to a storage unit and make sure you put his name and your name on it.. (since your both still married wink wink)...and then give him the bill to pay....If the bill isn't paid...the storage unit will keep his items and then auction them off. He will have to go pay the storage fee's to get his stuff back. Make sure you give a copy of the storage papers to your attorney and your ex. That way you can say.. Look.. I was upfront, I gave you time to get them, you didn't, I moved them for you into a storage unit so you didn't have too and now your own your own...
2016-05-23 06:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he can walk into your home as long you can walk in on his!
Just tell gently him you don't feel comfortable with him walking in and that if he continues to do it you will change the locks. because you've been thinking of doing it anyway. If you don't tell him he'll continue to just walk in on you.
Once you change the locks, he may just start realizing that you are taking the first steps to being independent. And it could jolt a realization that he could lose you.
2006-11-26 12:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, changed the lock..... tell him to call first and set a date when he can come over....(and limit his visitation time)... better yet, go meet him in a public place and dress-up nice. Leave the kids with him and pretend you are about to meet someone.....
ps: act like you really dont care about him.... *tough love*
2006-11-26 12:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by Morena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Change the locks and instruct the kids not to let him in without your consent. If he still comes, talk to him from the window and ask him to leave.
2006-11-26 20:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no legal recourse without contacting an attorney, you cant get a restraining order unless you can prove need, meaning violence or threats thereof. if you are not legally seperated, he has right to be in home. its his too. make a decission and go with it. either let him move back in or file.
2006-11-26 12:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by fn_49@hotmail.com 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me that the operative word there is "Our", you are enabling this behavior,get a lawyer, give him a dead line, and stick to it. What ever happens stick to it, and ask yourself are "You" going to be caring for the baby if he comes back? Because it looks as if you will on his visitation days.
2006-11-26 13:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by brp_13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
file for legal separation. if you want him gone let him be gone. if you think he will leave his mistress and baby alone, then have him back. but if you want him to leave you alone, change your locks, file for a legal separation, and file a restraining order. good luck.
2006-11-26 13:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋