See, My best friend has this MAGOR chrush on somebody. See I try to be suportive of her, but the thing is i hate this guy. He treats me like crap, spreads rumors, trips me in the hallways and a lot of stuff like that. and the other thing is, i know that he talks a lot of **** about her. i try to tell her about but she won't beileave me. i don't want to loose her as a friend, but i think that might happen over a guy. she thinks that he likes her and i know he is just using her. i don't want her to have to find out the hard way by just seeing it herself, but i just don't know what to do! please help!!
2006-11-26 12:42:23 · 31 answers · asked by You Are My Sunshine<333 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you definitely not selfish girl...........and congratulations for being her true friend by openly telling her what you know about the guy keep it up!!!!!
if you strongly believe this guy is not right for your friend then continue pumping same sense in her............as the saying goes "the enemy of my enemy, is my best friend"
you will feel very much relieved as some day she will thank you....that's what friends are for!!!!!!!
good luck!!!!!!!
2006-11-26 12:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by babe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was watching "Cheaters" last night: This girl's sister contacted cheaters to get the goods on the other sister's boyfriend. The contacting sister was concerned because this guy was turning the other sister against her family. The contacting sister saw him in a bar a number of times with other women and told her sister but of course she didn't believe her. They got the goods on him and showed the other sister. She was upset and going to leave him. At the end of the show, they said she had changed her mind and they were going to work it out.
So you see, all you can do is voice your opinion. You could even give her proof and it may not change her mind. Say how you feel and let her make her own mistakes. If we as people don't "find out the hard way", we wouldn't be learning from our mistakes would we?
2006-11-26 20:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing what you should do. You are being a good friend to her and trying to tell her to be careful. Next time when you talk to your friend tell her the situation with this guy and you and you want her to know she is your friend and as a friend you are only trying to help her not to make a mistake and also that you have no designs on this guy. Tell her you don't want her to be hurt but that if she continues with this guy she will be hurt. Also tell her you are not going to be around this guy at all and if necessary you will not be around your friend if he is there.
2006-11-26 20:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, "You're a really good friend of mine & I don't want our friendship to end 'cuz of *whatever the guy's name is*. I know you won't believe me, but he's just using you. He starts rumors all the time & he trips me in the hallways. He's not a good person & I care about you. That's why I don't want you to get involved with him. You're my best friend & I just want to protect you." If she gets mad, let her 'cuz she will see sooner or later that you were right & really did just want to help her.
2006-11-26 21:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, friends don't always listen to other friends when it comes to the opposite sex. It's a 50 - 50 shot that she'll listen to what you have to say, otherwise it's going in one ear and out the other. If your best friend doesn't believe you she'll have to find out for herself, unfortunately. I had a friend who married the biggest jerk you could imagine, no one liked this guy but she wouldn't listen. Well about 1-1/2 years into the marriage on New Year's he asked her for a divorce. Apparently he was cheating on her with his first ex-wife. We all tried to tell her but she wouldn't hear of it as she was "in love" and you they always say love is blind.
If this guy truly is talking crap about your friend and you've really tried to tell her what is going on, about all you can really do is be there for her when she finds out the truth about the jerk. Don't give her the "I told you so" speech, just be there to comfort her, to listen and be her friend.
Good luck!
2006-11-26 20:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Me-Just Me♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly from past ... do not meddle with this.. let her learn, because well she isn't going to listen to you. But make sure when she falls, you are there to catch her, and let her know in the end it will be alright.. Be supportive of her because you will lose her if you aren't.. in the end she'll still go for the guy, and she won't have you and she'll get her heart broken.. its only highschool (I assume) she has the rest of her life to avoid getting hurt, now is the time to live and learn.. make the mistakes and see who your real friends are.. the friends that let you live your life, yet manage to catch them just before they hit the floor.
-Elle
2006-11-26 20:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's best to let people find out the truth for themselves. The more we, as their friends, try to keep them away from getting hurt the more determined they are to prove us wrong.
The best thing you can do for your friend is to be there when she discovers the truth about this guy for herself. There really isn't much you can do without, indirectly pushing toward this jerk.
Good luck
2006-11-26 21:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to just support her, no matter how hard/awkward it may be for you knowing what you know. But it's best to let it just play out and find out on her own since she has already ignored your warnings. I'm sorry, I know it must suck but life isn't always perfect or a party. She'll come to her senses soon enough.
2006-11-26 20:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are her best friend she shouldn't put your concerns aside so quickly. Maybe you need to gently remind her of that. Tell her what he does and how to get to where she can see his true self. Maybe stand by in the hallway where he normally trips you up. This guy sounds like a reak jerk. Maybe you should try tripping him to see how he likes it.
2006-11-26 20:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wont listen the best thing is for her to learn a lesson just be there to help her out if he hurts her, if you think he might hurt her physically and hits her make sure she gets out of that relationship asap, you might not beable to change her mind but you could be there to help her, you sound like a caring friend and thats what your friend would need right now, no your not being selfish
2006-11-26 20:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let your friend find out the hard way guys come and go be a real friend and tell her even if she dont wanna hear it and that is a great idea get a small digital voice recorder and tape his a** talking crap and then she will hear for her self. but DO NOT let him use her think about it would she do it for you if you were the one being used and stuff tell her as soon as possible.
good luck
2006-11-26 20:47:56 · answer #11 · answered by angel b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋