Hi there. I have mental and physical health problems as well as Seasonal Affective Disorder, and after a "leaving the nest" attempt that went sour, I returned to the family home. The problem is, a friend of my younger sister and her boyfriend and the friend's two kids from previous relationships are staying with us until they find a new home. Its not that they are here that is a problem, its that the friend and her boyfriend are always in cranky moods and whining, bickering and shouting at each other. This isn't helping my Seasonal Affective Disorder. So how do I deal with them? Its bad enough my sister has a daughter that screams at the top of her lungs when she can't have her own way, my sister and her soon-to-be ex are always fighting, and we have noisy kids coming and going without the friend and her boyfriend always at each others throats. I'm trying to be cheerful despite my SAD, but its very hard with everyone else in the house acting like they have permanent PMS. What can I do?
2006-11-26 12:13:43 · 9 answers · asked by cherrycharmca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Note: With a literal snow blizzard happening where I live, I really can't go anywhere, and retreating to my room doesn't help, because I can hear all the screaming, shouting and bickering through the floor. The house is like a zoo lately, and the "whine-fests" only seem to stop when everyone is asleep. The rest of the time, its a nut-house here. I've even considered asking my Aunt Kathy, who is a mental health nurse, if I can come stay with her to get away from this insanity for a few days.
2006-11-26 12:22:21 · update #1
Write down your house rules with consequences and have a serious sit down family meeting. This is your house YOUR haven. Set the rules, make your room your quiet space. They have got to take their spats and immature behavior outside your home.
2006-11-26 12:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is not your house and you can't make up the house rules. I would think that your parents would get sick of the insanity, too, and it is their place to make up the rules and make people stick to them.
Even without SAD, a scenario like that would drive me whacko.
Get out as much as you can and if you could get away for a few days to your Aunt's, that would be grand.
Earplugs, or headphones to listen to music, is a temporary option. They also have special light fixtures available to help with SAD. Sometimes you can find full spectrum light bulbs and those help a LOT. They are expensive, but I have them in most of the areas of our house where I spend much time.
2006-11-26 16:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard one, why dont you try moving to a friend's for a few days or other nearby relatives?
shut, so blizard.... hey how about have a closed door talk with your parents and ask them to cut the crap because they should know you are not doing very well with the SAD so, choose, outside whining kids, or their daughter, you.
i don't know what culture you come from, but in mine, the house is also my house as long as i am not married, once married i am outsider, so you are still living there, you have more rights over the property. And seems you have parents like mine, who first care for other people, that's why you are going to have to be a little aggresive.
2006-11-26 12:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 14:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you just get out of the house for a little while take a walk when all this seems to much to bear take a deep breath or go for a walk . It might get a little more bearable if you do that . good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-11-26 12:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for walks all day long, get a computer and play Sims or some other game or write all day long. Do something that keeps you away from them and uplifts you too since you can't fix their situation but can fix yours.
2006-11-26 12:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to shut up or get out. I would it may not be your house but damn if i would sit there and listen to that BS all day and then tell them to get a grip on their kids or you will.
2006-11-26 12:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by mcshankel04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to live on your own and get out. You might want to talk to your doctor. Sounds like nothing will make you happy.
2006-11-26 12:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hose them down...they'll shape up, you'll feel better...
2006-11-26 12:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋