she died 13 1/2 yrs ago and I never removed it yet , am i wrong for keeping it on?
2006-11-26 12:05:37 · 32 answers · asked by expat0171 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are not wrong for still wearing it. It seems sweet to me. You should only remove it when/if you want to.
2006-11-26 12:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would call it wrong. Things that are special take a long time before we heal enough to continue our lives. I had the same feeling when I lost my dad at 17. I was devastated. I cried once a week or more for 15 years. Finally I asked God to stop this hurt. I would do anything to have him back but I can't. Since then I have done better. You may need help to get on with your life. I hope you find the strength you need to let her go. You don't have to forget her, you never will, but you shouldn't deny yourself a another relationship. Let her go, it's the right thing to do. Remember, don't forget her, just let her go. Your next relationship is not taking the place of the relationship you lost, it's a different relationship. You may not even want another relationship, ether way it's OK.
2006-11-26 13:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ricky: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about the loss of your partner.
Personally I don't think there is a right or wrong time to remove your wedding band. Wear it for as long as you like. If you want to change fingers then do so.
I guess I only see a problem if a new partner is pressuring you to take it off and then you need to think about it. If you remarry and exchange rings it may be in good taste to wear the ring in another form of jewelry.
2006-11-26 12:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a personal decision but 13 1/2 years is a long time. If it is your way of holding on to her than you need to let go. Don't live in the past, you can honor her memory in other ways besides stopping your life, would she really want that?
2006-11-26 12:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by AMC615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a personal decision you have to make. I would say it has been plenty long enough. Question is how do you feel about it? You should allow yourself to live again. I hope you haven't put your entire life around you deceased spouse. Life is too short and you should try to enjoy the time you have. This is not to take away from the time you had with your deceased wife. Life goes on.
2006-11-26 12:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking the ring off is a sign that you have move on, and dealt with your grief. It shows that you are back on the market to date again too. There is no set time limit, nor do you ever have to take it off. Some take it off and put it on the right hand as a remembrance.
Do what you feel is right for you and the memory of your deceased wife.
2006-11-26 12:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not uncommon or wrong. Personally, I don't think I could take a wedding band off ever if I was in your situation. You obviously still love your wife and she was the one for you, so unless you are planning to date again, I think it is GREAT that you keep your wedding band on.
2006-11-26 12:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by kmputman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, your not wrong unless of course you are involved with someone else.
Obviously, this was the love of your life!
If your not dating, or even thinking of dating then your heart still belongs to your wife, and the ring is a symbol of your continued love.
You will know in your heart if you reach the point of taking the ring off, and moving on.
2006-11-26 12:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh. You leave that ring on as long as you feel it necessary. I know a gentleman, in his 50's, who lost his wife 15 years ago. He still has his ring on, and says that he has no urge to even look for another woman. He said, "I loved that woman. I still love her despite the fact that she is dead." He has refused to date, everything. He feels like he would betray himself, and that if he ever did marry another woman, he's sure that she would feel like she has to compete with his dead wife because he always talks about her. He said it wouldn't be fair to the new wife, so therefore, he's content in being single. He still enjoys life with the rest of us, visits with his kids and grandkids, has a good job, takes care of his home, goes to church. He's a neat man. It's comforting to know there are some really true gentlemen left in the world.
2006-11-26 12:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 year.
2006-11-26 12:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My grandpa never did take his ring off. She was his sole mate. They met when she was just 13 and he was 18. He courted her for 2 years. Right after her 15th birthday, grandpa asked her daddy for her hand in marriage, of course her dad said it was ok. They got married and had 13 kids. After grandma passed away, grandpa was heart broken at first for awhile of course. He lived for several years before he passed away. He never took his ring off for anything. He died with the ring on his finger and was buried with it still on. The ring was the symbol of their love for one another. So you wear that wedding ring as long as you like, as that is the symbol of your love for your late wife. God bless you!
2006-11-26 13:53:16 · answer #11 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋