I'm just gonna come out and say this without sugar coating anything. I caught my five year old cousin in a compromising position with her five year old friend (both females) today... twice! I'm shocked and don't know what to do or say. I spoke to the both of them and they both admit that they were touching each other... I told one of their parents, but the other one I promised I wouldn't get mad or say anything so I haven't told her parent yet. I'm not sure what to do... You can almost say that I'm a little traumatize by this. It's shocking to me. What should I do?
2006-11-26 11:54:15 · 10 answers · asked by Seenit 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
depends. you have to use your best judgement about what was happening before you walked in.
kids "explore" the human body. it's one way that they figure out what we are...and the differences between people.
if all that was going on was "i'm trying to figure out what this is" - no big deal. if there's more...it might be time to find out how/why she knows this type of thing.
2006-11-26 12:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by mikesheppard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's kinda normal for kids to experiment with that kind of stuff, but should probably be addressed.
Either they have seen that behaviour somewhere and are mimcking it, or they are just playing and have absolutely no idea.
You shouldn't have let the other little girl con you into telling what you can or cannot do. The parents should be notified of what happened. That's definately a situtation that you should pass the buck along to the parents, that way the parents can handle the situation with their values and morals.
If you are still weirded out later, try seeing a counselor.
2006-11-26 20:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by It's me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal curiosity for children under 8 to explore each other. It starts at age three or four if there is opportunity and if there isn't then it is carried to about 8 or so. I wouldn't worry about it. I did daycare for ten years and after the second shock I read up on it.
2006-11-26 23:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best case, they are just curious.
Worst case, they have been shown this action by an older individual and this action is acting out a behavior that is confusing.
Don't get too intense in your interrogation, but pay attention to mood swings and other actions that may seem to mimic behavior shown by others.
Unfortunately if they can turn on a TV and they have access to cable or a computer, it could have come from that.
2006-11-26 20:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may come as another surprise but, all children are curious. they're five years old! what kind of nasty thoughts are you having, anyway? you never played doctor? i think you're reading someting into this that just is not there, and your level of shock speaks volumes about your own upbringing.
what should you do? nothing. stay out of it. their parents should teach them about the human body. that's it. no big deal, takes a few minutes and some ice cream.
2006-11-26 20:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the parents you told speak to the other parents. This is very unhealthy for the 5 year olds involved. They need to be kept apart or only allowed to see each other when supervised. This is very serious! You should not have told the one that you would not tell her parents. Since you did work it the way I told you to do. One good thing is she does have a conscience so asking you not to tell means that she knows it is wrong!
2006-11-26 20:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The child that conned you into not advising her parents is the one I would worry about. This child clearly knows she does not want them to find out...big red flag.
I would first tell the child you made a wrong choice and that you need to advise her parents and then tell them. Keep your judgemental personal aversion out of it and simply tell them you caught the girls playing doctor. Pay attention to their reaction.
2006-11-26 21:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the other parent. Keep an eye on them.
2006-11-26 20:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by scott p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should still like keep an eye on both of them to see if they still do it again.
2006-11-26 19:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are kids they are just experimenting , no big deal relax.
2006-11-26 20:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋