ok so my best friend just went shopping and spent 600 dollars at 1 store.shes is a little richer than me and brags about her new clothes every day. i get sick of it and it is anoying. I love her though in a friend way but i dont know what to do . should i yell at her? should i just talk to her? should i just ignor her what should i do i want to be a good friend and make the right dession.
2006-11-26 11:38:12 · 14 answers · asked by Danielle M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Its not about money, its what you have inside...It is not a cliche. Your friend needs to brag because there is something missing in her life and thats the only way she feels important. Maybe you are better looking than she is and she needs to be as "good" as you are and thats why she brags about the money thing. Feel for her, dont get angry with her, the only thing she sees herself as money and what it can buy. Just keep on being friends with her and in time she will learn that money does not define who we are. Just be yourself, maybe make a joke of it when she brags and say something like....."you are beautiful, you dont need to buy all that stuff" Build her insides up...make her feel good about herself and show her that money isnt everything. You are a good friend and it seems you are quite "together" because although it makes you angry, you dont hate her because of it. Sounds to me like she needs a friend like you. Just keep on being her friend and she will eventually learn from you. She will learn that she doesnt need to brag about money for you to like her, and she will eventually not feel the need to brag.
2006-11-26 11:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making yourself feel miserable.
When someone brags a lot for attention, it does get annoying. Rather than yell at her you might tell her how you feel " I fell so tired of hearing about how much money you spent and what you got. Do yo have something else to talk about? "
You can also stop responding to what she says and avoid asking questions about what she did or bought.
Ask yourself whether or not you feel envious of her. That may be another thing that is causing you to feel uncomfortable: comparing yourself to her. You may need to adjust your attitude and way of thinking to let go of comparisons that make you feel "less than."
If you cannot stand being around her, then limit the time you spend with her or stop seeing her altogether. There is no right or wrong about this. Knowing that you cannot change her behavior, are you willing to ask her to change and what will you do if she doesn't? It's up to you.
2006-11-26 19:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Yelling will just make her mad & ignoring her will make her upset. If you want to be a good friend, then just talk to her. Tell her that you are really good friends with her, but you feel like she's bragging all the time. Yes, she'll get mad, but if she's doing this around other friends, they will notice it later & tell her as well. It's better for her to get a considerate friend (like you) that cares about her feelings & how she's making herself look around people - snooty. Tell her that you don't want people to think she's a bad person 'cuz of her bragging 'cuz she's a very sweet person & you just care about how people will see her. Good luck.
2006-11-26 20:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that is exactly like yours except that I'm richer than her and she still had everything she wants. She brags about it so I tell her to shut up. Just talk to your friend and tell her that its annoying that she brags all the time. If she really is your best friend she'll stop acting like a prissy little *****.
2006-11-26 19:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by Moore's Babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she says something, dont yell at her. But talk to her, definately talk to her. Just tell her you dont have as much money as she does and it seems like shes bragging about it. Try to stay calm so she wont get mad at you.
2006-11-26 19:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly*Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling gets you nowhere. Just talk to her--tell her you are happy for her and that you love being her friend--it is just hard for you to see her buying all this stuff and letting you know about it as you are somewhat less unfortunate with you funds as she.
2006-11-26 19:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i know how it feels bcoz i got frenz hu are exactly lyke dat. well wat i did, and in a wierd way it sort of helped da the whole situation, was that i talked to her. i told her if ur really my friend you'd listen to wat i have to say and wat i feel, i noe i dont have all these nice things lyke you do and my family isnt as rich as yours, and to tell you the truth many are lyke me, their families arent rich and money gifted. then i told her sometyms wen u go around bragging and showing off it hurts me, bcoz i noe that you have something better than me and others around us. and if ur a real frend you'd be considerate of the others around you hu dont have all those nice things bcoz it feels gud wen wat u think u have is so valueable rather than you thinking that thing is valueable in the first place but then u see someone else's thing and its better, u begin to envy. so maybe talking to her wud be da best thing to do as a frend.
2006-11-26 19:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by pnaiigurl21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I had for many years a best friend who was like that. as long as he does not throw his money to your face, it is Ok. just show her that you are not impressed because it is precisely what she tries to do. she probably thinks you are superior to her and she has to find that way to raise herself in her self esteem
2006-11-26 19:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money and clothes shouldn't count in a true friendship. Money can't buy love.
2006-11-26 19:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her your feelings i had the same problem and i told her and she understood now she comes over all the time and has not bragged unless she got if for me for 1.00
2006-11-26 19:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by Special Peep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋