i need some serious advice plz?

Question

last week my boyfriend came to USA from australia on a visitor visa. but now he wants to get permanent here and get greencard so tht he can get a decent job and work legally. his uncle suggested him to get marry with someone who has citizenship so tht he can get his greencard. i cannot marry him becoz i feel we r too young to get marry ( he is 23 and im 21) i m still in nursing school also my family thinks this is not a good idea coz we r not settled yet we dont have good job to run house. therefore he asked me if he can marry with someone else for 6 monthsto get greencard after 6 months whn he will get his greencard he will divorce her. so he asked me to marry him after he gets divorce. wht should i say plz help

Answer 1

TELL HIM NO F*****G WAY!!!!!!!! if he wants a green card then he needs to go about it the way every other person from another country does ....he needs to see if he can get an extension on his visa.....until he can get permanent residency

Answer 2

Big red flag…. I would deftly not jump to marriage in your particular case. Now I say this as someone that has married someone that is a foreigner. Then I had to apply for her fiancé visa and eventually marry. We've been married for eight years

But we talked over the Internet for over a year. We met each other in her country for over a month. She came here on a fiancé visa for three months before we made the decision to marry. We took time and nothing rushed us.

To marry someone this way with the intent of just getting divorced is actually illegal. Also in his assumption that in six months he can do so without repercussions may be very incorrect. Two years after my wife and I were married we got a letter from INS which we had to send them proving we were still married. They are deftly checking up on people to cutdown on scams.

Now in your scenario he wants to marry someone else… well that's novel. So in one way you're off the hook, if he does come here you can get to know him better without the pressure of marrying him. So you're in a position to observe, take time and see how this works. Of course you have to understand that while he is married to this other person EC also going to have a relationship with her? Okay you say no to just getting married is not doing anything else with her. Then he may have a huge problem with the interviews with the INS. as a couple that with both have to come in the separated and speak to an interviewer. The interviewer asked also its questions like show me some pictures of you to at you wedding, vacation, being together. Then they'll ask you a really weird question like was the color of the curtains on the wall in the living room where you both live? Always a tough one….. so he's not living with her every day you gotta be answer what would be a simple question for anyone that's truly marry. The questions asked will be completely random and impossible to predict. They may ask the guy what Dr. does your wife going to, what is her middle name, was her parent’s names, …. if he starts tripping up on these then they may suspect this is fraud.

If he has the ability to get a visitor visa and he can be doing too bad. If he has a particular skill why not find a company that can sponsor him and get a work visa?

I would stay in school and finish your nursing. If this guy does come here,by marrying the other girl, wait for that situation to get finished and clear. Keep in mind the girl does have a secret over him and if she were ever get mad she might at him could use what she knows against him. If this guy is truly meant to be your future husband and your love can work through all this then that's a great thing.

Mark

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Answer 3

Sounds like all he wants is a green card. Dont bother with him anymore. Hes just a user. He can go marry someone else in the USA if he wants, but little does he know, he has to be together with that person for a minimum of 2 years! US Immigration is not what they used to be 10 years ago. If they find out all he wanted was the green card, they kick his *** back to Australia and he wont be able to ever get a green card again. Your still young. Finish your schooling, find out what it is you want in life, then go on from there. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

Don't be an IDIOT (as Napoleon Dynamite would say)... he needs to get a job and move towards applying for permanent residency that way. Not by getting married! Besides the immigration folks are wise to this old game now too. Stay single, stay in school, graduate, get a nursing job and then see how you feel.

Answer 5

If you do not want to get into a marriage, then don't do it. Marriage just isn't something to take lightly. Tell him it's supposed to last for the rest of your life, not just something you can throw away after six months. What happens if he falls in love with this girl? He can still get citizenship by not marrying someone, it just takes longer. Tell him that if he truely loved and wanted to marry you, he would find another way to gain citizenship.

Answer 6

To get a greencard through marriage, the marriage has to last 2 years. It doesn't sound like he loves you, he's looking for anyone who can get him permanent status. Nursing school is stressful enough without trying to go through that mess.

Answer 7

Tell him NO.. he either does it the legal way or no way.... because if he gets caught doing that he could be deported or even put in jail and if they find out you had a part in it you could be punished as well.... If he no more respect for you then that walk the other way get your degree and have a great life with a man that will do the right things and keep your life easier and simpler.. Good Luck

Answer 8

Get out of this situation NOW, before you get in any deeper. There's a load of trouble down the road if you agree to do this for this aussie. It does indeed sound like he's planning on just using both you AND another woman to gain US citizenship. Do not cooperate. You might also seriously think about turning him in.

Answer 9

If getting married isn't the right thing for YOU to do - then don't. Sounds as if he is using you to get his green card. He must be putting his green card above honesty - marry someone for 6 months and get a divorce?? what if he fathers a child? No way.

Answer 10

It takes alot more than 6 months. You boyfriend does not know the whole process.

As for citizenship...do you honestly think the government lets people in that easy?

Find another guy when the time is right...he is trying to use you.

Answer 11

That's a very difficult place to be. Hummmm...I would definetly keep my marital status out of it. His dilema is not yours. I could be wrong, but I believe that you have to be married for at least two years to be declared legal to remain in the U.S. I would look into it more. Ask questions and be sure before anything else is done. Good luck.