2006-11-26 11:20:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I think abortion is harder because just knowing that it never was able to be born in bought into this world. It would hurt a bit to put it up for adoption but at least you know it would be with a nice family that you could choose. I wouldn't do either but if I had to pick definately adoption. I'm against both. Good Luck with everything!
2006-11-26 11:23:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sammielynn 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the person, I couldn't live with myself if I had an abortion. In my opinon, the choice shouldn't be weather or not to have the baby, it is wether or not to pull down your pants to make the baby in the first place! Of course, there are circumstances where women get pregnant without a choice (rape), but most of the time it is just people being irresponsible. At least if you give your baby up for adoption you can choose to have an open adoption, you can still see your baby/child at some point, and know that you did what was best for your child. If I had to decide between the two, I'd go for adoption. I could never kill my child!
2006-11-26 11:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Renee B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How sure are you that you are financially unable to care for this baby? If you're absolutely positive that you wouldn't be able to, then maybe it is best. However, you seem like a literate person, and the way you talk, it sounds like you really care about this baby, and giving him/her up for adoption may be one of those mistakes that you continue to regret through-out your whole life. If your mom has disowned you, that's her own decision, don't let that affect you at all. It's just whether or not you think you can handle the financial and emotional strain of caring for a child. If you and your boyfriend really love each other, as it sounds like you do, I think that you should try to keep the baby. Maybe get a job while you're pregnant and save up some money? Just realize, if you do give up this baby for adoption, I doubt the relationship with your boyfriend would ever be the same. I hope this helps!
2016-05-23 06:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it is just a matter of opinion, unless somebody has done both, then they can't really tell you! Even then, it really is up to you. i would think that abortion would be harder for YOU to live with because you would know that that child never got a chance at life. Atleast with adoption, the child may have a chance to have a good life. Although, on the other hand, for the child, it could go either way. because you don't know weather he will have a good life or not with his adoptive parents. I think the thing i would probally do is have the child, then look into a place where you can give the child up for adoption, but you can meet the parents and possibly even stay in touch with the child. that way you know that the child will have good life. that is what i would do, but in the end it is really up to you!! Good Luck♥♥♥!!
2006-11-26 11:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by You Are My Sunshine<333 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being honest with you, I feel adoption would be easier. I was thinking about abortion when I first found out I was pregnant and it was because of her father and I didnt want to be connected to him like that and financial reasons, but when I got my first sonogram she was moving around in there at a few weeks old and I cried cause that was my baby! When I look at her and think that abortion ever crossed my mind I cry. Whatever your situation is you can make it through, but if you have to choose one or the other, please give your baby up for adoption. Someone will be able to take care of the baby.Please dont have an abortion. You and your baby will be in my prayers.
2006-11-26 11:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately say aborting the baby. Giving the baby up for adoption is the best gift you can give them if your aren't able to keep them. You can choose open adoption if you prefer or you might someday be able to re unite and know your child in adulthood. You can explain why you made the choices you did. And perhaps develop a relationship through understanding.
Abortion kills the baby. There is no chance to explain or redeem yourself. It's a selfish decision. It's murder. Maybe they won't have to anser for it in this life but they WILL in the next.
There are so many families who have to go oversees to adopt since there aren't as many babies to adopt here in the US.
2006-11-26 11:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Guinness Guy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your inner value system. If you give the baby up for adoption, you may see that "baby" again when it is grown. I know as my adopted son found his birth mother at age forty-one and we two "mothers" have a wonderful relationship a year later after we worked out some regulations about the situation. I adore my adopted son and his biological mother never had another child and adores having a grown son in her life now. If she had had an abortion, we both would have lost out on the joy this young man brings to our lives.
2006-11-26 11:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by maggie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well...this is a tough one emotionally. of course everyone will say that adoption would be easier but that is because...abortion is looked at as immoral. although abortion is the worse action of the two..i think adoption is harder to live with because you actually carry this baby for 9mths...feeling the baby kick and watching your stomach grow...you actually labor with this baby and go through delivering this child...and then right at your most vulnerable,emotional time...your baby is taken and given to someone else to care for and leaving you wondering, worrying, and questioning for the rest of your life if you did the right thing and if the baby is taken care of or being mistreated. personally...i wouldnt encourage anyone to do either...i would suggest you pray about the situation and ask God to give you a clear understanding of what is to be done...one thing is for sure...God will not lead you to do anything wrong...so if you pray to Him...be prepared for the answer
2006-11-26 12:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I couldn't say either way as I have neve done those things. I would think it would be harder to have an abortion. I have a friend who had an abortion in July of last year and she has never been able to forgive herself even though she knows God has forgiven her. Please if you are pregnant, chose adoption. At least if you have an open adoption you won't spend the rest of your life wondering what if? If you want someone to talk to about what you are going through, you can instant message or email me. I talk to a lot of girls who are in the same situation. God Bless
2006-11-26 11:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by Patty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aborting the baby would be harder at least when you give the baby up for adoption they are getting a chance at life which everyone deserves, I don't see how anyone could abort their child/baby/embryo what every you call it it is wrong.
2006-11-26 13:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by deshea207 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋