I'm a 31 year old guy who moved back home 2 years ago to finish school. I'm a junior..and i still have 2 years left..and possibly law school or getting my masters and teaching. All my friends are married..and albeit..one of them is unhappy, and the other divorced already. One lives on his own still. Does it matter so much that you live on your own? I mean..i have had dates in which..go so far until the reality that i am at home...disturbes them so much that they are no longer interested. And i find that even dating is a challenge because i am not on my own, but living at home. Is this nornal? And if so, does this help confirm societal change of becoming more and more about "what one has, and what one can offer" rather than who the person is..rather than who he is not? Serious answers please. I would love to hear intelligently from as many of you as possible!
2006-11-26 11:15:30 · 5 answers · asked by trapper 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It does sound strange when a man of your age says I live at home with my mom and dad.
If I were single and ran into a man who said this to me I would think Oh great another mucher.....If I new you were in school and bettering yourself this does mean something, however I would feel you do not have time for a realationship....
Since you are gay (or you are in the gay forum) why does it matter what women think?
2006-11-26 11:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question! I think they really might be too concerned with status symbols. I mean if somebody likes you they will simpy like you for you, but many people are worried about that since that kind of love is actually very rare so people instead usually have to use their career and independence to progress themselves because what else is there?
Also many women are sadly like that, my sister is turning into that person and she doesn't seem very happy. A lot of women nowadays were grown up with the belief that being 110% independent is strong and powerful and any men who still lives with their parents regardless of the circumstance just HAS to be a loser that can't offer them anything right?
Most people want to go straight in and find somebody they're not very compatible with because they're afraid, so they build their lives around illusions and it's really annoying, I always clash with people like that. Who cares about somebody's 'job', treating somebody respectfully has more value in the end.
Just try hard, do what you love to do and don't let other ppl bring you down.
2006-11-26 11:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem might be that many people are getting alot more serious about dating when they hit the big 3-0, in the line of thinking that most people do want to get married. Part of showing that you are ready is being able to support yourself.
The tradition from so long ago is that the guy is the provider and is independent. By living with your parents this is not what you are showing if people dont know the whole story.
BUT
I think it is great that your parents are supporting you in this way and you are furthering your education.
Love strikes when you least suspect.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-26 11:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Gail B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really have no idea as I personally do not find that offensive. How would the place where one lives impact on a relationship if both parties were sure of one another, respected one another, and trusted one another to know what is best in a situation condusive to that particular relationsip? Too bad for anyone that would pass up a good relationship for such a insignificant reason...
2006-11-26 11:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by silhouette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing for most people is what one has to offer. Sure you will see wealthy people find it easier to get dates then average people. But you also see that those relationships are many times short lived. You need someone that is going to like you for you and what you have to offer. In reading your question, I see someone who is focused on his education and someone who has their priorities in order. You WILL meet someone who likes you for you. If something as small as living at home is going to break the relationship, you don't need that person with that kind of thought process. There are shallow people out there. Several soldiers who come from Iraq after being severly burned or losing a limb, get divorced from their spouses because they can't stand to look at them. You need someone what knows what love is. You will find them.
2006-11-26 11:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by gc27858 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋