MY COUSIN HAS TWO KIDS AND HER BOYFRIEND LEFT HER ....HE LIVES SOME WHERE IN MEXICO ....HE LEFT HER PREGNANT..SHE CAN HARDLY CARE FOR THE KIDS SHE HAS NOW .SHE AGREED TO LET ME HAVE THE BABY INSTED OF ABORTING IT ,,,,,NOW MY QUESTION IS HOW DOES THAT WORK DO I NEED A LAWYER OR SINCE ITS FAMILY CAN SHE JUST SIGN THE BABY OVER TO ME AT BIRTH PLEASE HELP ...I REALLY DONT WANT HER TO ABORT THIS BABY AND I WOULD LOVE TO RAISE IT AS MY OWN BUT I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO GO ABOUT DOING SO ,,,,THANK YOU ........
2006-11-26 11:08:39 · 14 answers · asked by mari 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The laws vary from state to state. You will have to contact a lawyer to have her sign over her parental rights. You will also have to make a reasonable attempt to notify the father, a lawyer will help you do this. The process should go a bit smoother because it is an open adoption.
Do be careful and take the time to do your research. Dot your i's and cross your t's because if you don't your cousin could take the baby back, or the loser boyfriend could pop up and get the baby.
You could contact you state attorney generals office and they should be able to direct as to whom you need to talk to.
Good luck to you and your cousin.
2006-11-26 11:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is willing to give the baby up to you, it shouldn't be too hard. You may find some info on the web if you do a search w/ your county and state (or the county and state the baby will be born in). I don't think you will need a lawyer, but I'm not sure. Good for you for stepping up! Best of luck to you!!!
2006-11-26 11:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot afford adoption, all you need is a paper signed by her stating you have the right to seek medical treatment for the baby and she can give you the birth certificate and you can save for the money to adopt. To adopt, yes you need an attorney. It isn't very expensive in Texas. Don't know about anywhere else. Good luck and God bless you for saving this baby's life! My husband and I are adopting soon also! Instant message me if you wanna chat!
2006-11-26 11:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Patty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer. I took my niece in for 6 years. To avoid any heart break dont just ler he sign gaurdianship over, if she truly does not want this baby and you do then ADOPT the baby. My sister took my niece back after 6 years (we were in the process of adoption but it wasnt final) and it was heartbreaking, gut wrenching, want to kill yourself bad. I am not sure how my husband and I have made it through such pain
2006-11-26 11:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lori R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need a lawyer, especially since it is within the family and she is likely to see the child every once in a while. You need to protect your own interests, in case the boyfriend comes back and she decides to take the child back at some point (and then probably dump it again).
2006-11-26 11:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by neniaf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually it would be best to get a lawyer. That way everything is legal. If that is too expensive then you can have her sign over temporary custody and petition the courts to allow for you to adopt the baby while he/she is already in your custody. My sis-in-law signed over temporary custody of her daughter to her paternal grandma. In response the maternal grandmother petitioned the courts and got permanent custody (she wasn't going for adoption). Good luck and you are doing an awesome thing!!!!!
2006-11-26 11:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom did this with her niece you need to call lawyer and find out some more info it was a really long protege it sounds wonderful that you would do this good luck
by the way my little sister is now 15 so it can happen
2006-11-26 11:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by dizzy76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you'd need one, people can pretty much drop a baby off at a hospital or church w/e and they put those babies up for adoption *maybe it's not that simple I don't know for sure* but I'm sure since she's your family there wouldn't be much problem.
2006-11-26 11:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Nickey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call a lawyer or your local legal aide for advice because if you do it wrong she could come back years from now and try to take the child back. Make sure all T's are crossed and your I's are dotted for your sake.
2006-11-26 11:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by missee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
contact a lawyer. you will need special paper work to get the right things rolling. They will often give you a free consult over the phone to get things started. Also you can call your local court house and get info their also. good luck
2006-11-26 11:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋