I don't understand we would hug and kiss each other all the time before she got pregnant now she the only time i have even kissed her is the 2 times we've had sex since she's been pregnant she's 7 months now, I feel like she doesn't care about me anymore sometimes and I'm not even the type of guy that wants that stuff all the time, I see her if not everyday every other day and sometimes there is no contact at all, whats up wit this I thought hormones only made you feel like that for the first couple of months, I'm not trying to be selfish but why is she treating me like this?
2006-11-26 11:08:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know how that is I dont like to be touched much as it is but now that Iam 30 weeks pregnant he just better not touch me if Iam not in the mood hormones at the last month of pregnancy are just as high as when we first get pregnant. But she could make an effort to not be so b!tchy all the time. I at least try to be understanding when he feels the urge to cuddle and I dont.
2006-11-26 11:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by raechelblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that a lot of pregnant women feel like this. First time I was pregnant I only had sex 3 or 4 times but ONLY because I felt bad that he was going without. There was no sex again until the baby was 6 months old ( I was breastfeeding ). Each pregnancy I didn't want anything to do with sex AT ALL. It's all about hormones that a woman absolutely cannot control. It can affect the way she feels about HER body, how she thinks you perceive here body and even sometimes affects that emotional connection she has with the father. Just let her be, don't try to force her into anything and as hard as it sounds try not to take it personally that she might not want to have any sexual contact. Pregnancy affects women in strange ways a man could never comprehend.
2006-11-26 11:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by october g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww! You're so cute lol. I'm 38 weeks pregnant and I'm going to tell you this.. Some women feel really gross the first couple of months, all the throwing up and peeing all the time + you're really tired. Then there's the weight gain, sometimes stretch marks, the constipation, and some women at the end of their pregnancy have all sorts of heart burn. It dosen't mean she's not attracted to you or that she dosen't love you, she just maybe dosen't feel like she wants to have sex with all that going on. Hug her and tell her she's beautiful! It might be what she wants to hear. Btw hormones do play a big role in it too, and it's not just the first couple of months, it can go on through the whole pregnancy.
2006-11-26 11:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Nickey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, it's her. Right about now she is feeling anything but attractive. It's an uncomfortable feeling , sometimes even embarassing. It is all about the hormones, they screw with your head and make you feel things you never knew were possible. Just give her sometime and she will come back around. It's hard for a women to be intimate when you feel the baby moving around because the only thing you start to think is that the baby can feel it or that your being a bad mom. Just think two months to go and you will have the love of your life! Hope it helped. Good luck!
2006-11-26 11:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by alisha b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not being selfish by wanting physical contact. All women are different. Some don't want any physical contact all the way thru the pregnancy plus afterward. Just let her know you really care about her, and try not to stress too much about you being a good guy, and the type she wants. I'm sure things will come around eventually. It just takes some time.
2006-11-26 12:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone once said to a prospective father, "You realize that she is going to be crazy for the next nine months, don't you?" And its true. Hormones do crazy things to a pregnant woman's body, and they are affected for the whole nine months and then after, as the hormones go back to normal. Every woman, every pregnancy is different. Some women want a lot more sex, some do not want any, esp. if they are nauseous constantly. Your sweetheart also might not want to be affectionate because she doesnt want SEX, thinking that it might lead you to believe that she does. you have to sit her down and let her know how you feel, and ask her to please be more affectionate, you wont 'take it the wrong way".
Hang in there. You do know that she's going to be crazy for the next X months, dont you?" Just kidding.
2006-11-26 11:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by veracitygrrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me say that there are women out there that might be like that they're whole pregnancy and others that are only like that some of the pregnancy.. When the baby's born things should go back to normal.. Just remember that its not you and that shes still attracted to you its just the hormones trust me!! Everything will be okay i promise!!!
2006-11-26 11:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by JessJess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say I know how you feel but I know how she feels because I'm 4 1/2 months and since day one I haven't wanted sex. To me it hurts and thats why I don't crave it. It has been said that the later the months the more withdrawn you become to sex. Its not that she is mistreating you its that she has to have the craving in order to enjoy it. Just be patient and when your baby comes it may get better for you guys good luck!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-26 11:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by blaqie2284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely it could be a body issue thing. She might think she looks fat and doesn't want you to see her. You need to reassure her and make her comfortable in her body. Start by a slow gentle massage or body rub and work around to the tummy and tell her that she looks beautiful. Reassure her that you find her attractive still.
It could also be because she thinks it might harm the baby, in which case you may need to reassure her that gentle lovemaking is okay, ask the doctor to reassure her.
Hormones are a hell of thing in women when they aren't pregnant, and when they are then watch out!
2006-11-26 11:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Katie G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from my experience.....the first 4 or 5 months into the pregnancy..i did not want to be touched by my husband
and i was not normally like that
but for some reason after the baby started moving around alot
i couldn't get enough ..it was strange..but if she is already 7 mos...i don't know
is she afraid it is going to harm the baby?
if so it will not..unless the doc says no more sex til after the baby then 6 weeks after that!!.
2006-11-26 11:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by Bren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋