WE both commit adultery,We talk about why it happen.I told her i'm willing to forgive. I told her i had a 1 month affair, she told me she had 10 month affair.She tell me she love this guy. She pack her stuff and not the kids stuff and move with her mother. I told her are you choosing this guy over our kids. She still see the kids everyday but the kids stay with me. She pays me child support
She takes the kids with her to see him. She tell the kids they're friends but don't tell your father.
The kids go to school where i live.What are her chances of getting the child support reverse. What esle can i get from her and out this marriage. I try my best to reason with her and her parents before this got outta hand. I believe she took my kindness for a
weakness.Now I'm piss off
2006-11-26 10:30:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't have to tell you that adultery is so devastatingly destructive and not everyone can overcome it, you are experiencing it firsthand. I'm sorry for both of you but mainly for the children, always first and foremost. Your wife can't help her feelings for this other man, just like you can't undo the past with what you did by sleeping with another woman. But you both should be thinking of how to handle this in the best possible way for your children you share together. I know, easier said then done. You can't force her back into a relationship with you though by using the children and please don't fool yourself into thinking that would be best. Give it time, I know it's tough but what's done is done. I would say her chances of getting the child support reversed are about 50/50. She is their mother afterall. Unless she's got a very bad police or drug record she will probably get joint/shared custody no doubt. I wish I could help. Sorry!
2006-11-26 10:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting a divorce, the lawyers will help you hammer out all the details concerning who gets what and vice versa. If you do not object to having custody of the children, then Domestic Relations will probably get involved in setting the amount of the child support payments. And if she doesn't pay up, then she will be faced with jail time like any deadbeat father who doesn't pay child support. As for your wife taking your children along to visit with her friend, then that's how it is and you shouldn't let that bother you.They'll probably meet him sooner or later. Kids aren't stupid. They know more than we adults give them credit. You both went outside your marriage and took up with other people, so the breakup of your marriage is on both of you--and so why should you get pissed off over what she is doing? If the marriage can't be saved and if she favors the other guy, then that's what it is. I don't think that she mistook your kindness for a weakness. I think she feels you are understanding since you too played a part in the break up. I understand that this is a painful time for you and your children, but try to think with a clear head and not an injured and hateful heart. It'll get you nowhere fast. You two have produced children and however this plays out, you have to have some kind of civil relationship with her for the sake of your kids and for the sake of your own sanity. It is what it is and now you have to move on. Good luck.
2016-03-29 10:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you were both willing to risk the marriage, it just turned out that you wanted to piece it back together. Your wife on the other hand doesn't really care if she ruins her kid's life, just as long as she gets to be with this guy. I think you should divorce her if someone hasn't filed it already, and fight for your kids. She'll want them of course, but maybe she'll decide that being free with her boyfriend is better. Don't try to get back together with her, either. She doesn't deserve a second chance, obviously.
2006-11-26 10:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rawr_Kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you, have the kids shes going to pay, and you may can get almony from her because she left the marriage, hit her for insurance for the kids. go through dss they will help you make her pay insurance for the kids there is no chance she can reverse it unless you are a bad father and i dont think you are.be the best father you can be but don,t let her take your kids around this man she still your wife she has to respect that by her doing that it can confuse the kids.good luck i hope things work out.
2006-11-26 10:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I to pay childsupport to my ex husband. I made the same mistake cause i wasnt happy. i didnt know how to be happy. Now after 10 years of divorce i realize my mistake and i love my kids and wish i would have never done them this way. Believe you me it will come home to her. There is no chance of her reversing the childsupport as long as you have those kids. keep your chin up your day in the sun will come. god bless you
2006-11-26 10:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
women commit adultery cause they fall in love,not because they are attracted to someone. she was lacking something big on your marriage,otherwise she wont have ever done it. it is weird that she is not staying with the kids,but if i was you, i would just get divorced and move on. if you cheated anyway, that means you werent happy either
2006-11-26 10:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by confuse06 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your wife obviously doesn't realize you love her and that your willing to forgive, so a divorce might be the best solution so you two can date freely. and for the kids, your wife is really thoughtless on the fact that she lets the kids visit her lover and tell them not to tell her.
and i really dont think she loves her lover, its probably just the sex.
2006-11-26 10:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by goodsie06 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
4 and 7 year are critical points in a marriage.
Women can easily be converted via sex. If they give in to that, they are as good as gone.
2006-11-26 10:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
DUDE, first of all i am sorry that you are not good enough for you wife. and 2ed move to the persons house you had affirs with. sorry that is all i have man :(
2006-11-26 10:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by spencer c 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
talk to here
2006-11-26 10:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋