my husband is 52 and does not like my friends,music or fun crazieness, he is a dud and i'm not, he brings me d

Question

he ruins my high and brings me down from having a good time,doesn't like my friends,i'm not living for today, depressed and lonely,he just ruins my fun, if he's not having fun then nobody is,,,,,,help

Answer 1

hey lori
sound like you pick the wrong man to marry and it sound you are not happy in life well there is some thing you can do to change it # 1 divorce him and find some one who wont bring you down and some one you well be happy with for the rest of your life.life to short not to be happy i wish i could be there for you good luck

Answer 2

Perhaps he just doesn't like himself. Misery often enjoys company. Was he always that way? If not, what chain of events do you think brought him to it? Have you tried "talking" to him? Judging by the way you put together your question here, it sounds like you probably talk to him that way too. Blaming him, putting him down, judging him...I've never met anyone who got what they wanted that way.

Perhaps he's having a real problem that he's not comfortable talking to you about because you're too busy bitching at him for ruinning your "fun". Just a though. Try asking and listen without interrupting. If that fails, try counseling. As frustrating as it may seem, it sometimes takes an outside person to see what we can't see. It's impossible to be objective about ourselves and our relationships.

Answer 3

You did not mention your age, but not that it matters. All I can say, is that continue trying to have fun, and if he does not want to join in, then so be it. Is there anything at all that he does that you like, and you can work on that. Have you talked to him, and try and get him to do things with you. And if you do not want a divorce, then put up with it, or find a good friend to do the things you want to do, or get a divorce and be a "free bird". Good luck..

Answer 4

Shouldn't you have caught onto this before you decided to get married?
Really, communication solves almost all problems.
Maybe you're too wild and crazy and he thinks at your age, you shouldn't be. Maybe there's a reason he doesn't like your friends. Maybe they've said or done something that he doesn't aprove of.
Maybe it's just a matter of getting him involved. He's maybe forgotten how to be young and have a good time?
Discuss this with him.

Answer 5

How old are you? How long have you two been together? Is his behavior something new or something that's been ongoing that you are just now getting tired of?

Best way to start is communication. If you don't have that, you're missing a big chunk of your relationship foundation and things aren't going to last long term anyway (or not worth lasting). Talk to him...perhaps there's some middle ground y'all can reach and enjoy.

Answer 6

Sounds like he is not about to change and neither are you. I left my husband of 16 years because I was not living the life I wanted for me. I decided that I deserved a life too so I went and got one and have never been happier.

Answer 7

talk to him about this. you are 52 you have the right to pick your own friends and listen to the music you want. tell him you're gonna have fun, with or without him!

Answer 8

Is he much older than you? That's what happens when you marry an older person. Maybe marriage counseling will help. If not, you will have to decide whether you want to live like this.

Answer 9

If you have an unhappy marriage then get a divorce..
Careful of jumping from frying pan to fire...

Answer 10

Please tell me you aren't in your 20s or 30s, if you are you must have married him by mistake and only for his $$$. most people get along with people that are similar to them and I believe you have nothing in common with your husband.