Why am I attracted to both genders?

Question

I am very happily married, but still find myself just as attracted to women as I am to men. I've been this way for over 20 years (I'm 34 now). Increasingly I'm wanting to do something about it, i.e., experience it with a woman once to get it out of my system, but that would be cheating on my husband. What is wrong with me?

Answer 1

You're bisexual.

Ask your husband if he'd like to try a threesome with another woman. He'll probably jump at the chance.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with you. It is more common than most people realize. I can't say why that is but I do think women are much more likely to be bisexual.

It would be cheating on your husband. After all if he went out and had sex with men wouldn't you feel he had cheated on you?

Talk with him about it perhaps he is open to the idea of you exploring your feelings, if so then I think it's not cheating.

Answer 3

I do believe you'd be bodily fascinated in both genders. As a human, you'll get excitement from both genders sexually and that i imagine many human beings do. I do believe, although, that all of us have one gender we are extra vulnerable to be romantically fascinated in. i'm sensible there are exceptions to the rule of thumb, yet i have continually felt actual charm is one element yet feeling like you could initiate a life with someone is yet another.

Answer 4

There is something to say about making love to us women. I myself am BI but would much rather be with another woman. If you feel the need to love another woman, go for it. Maybe you spouse will be understanding as well. Best of luck :)

Answer 5

Because you're bi? Its like asking why the sun rises. It just does. Acting on those desires could ruin your marriage. Ask yourself which is more important. If it's really causing problems with your relationship, then it's time to come out to your husband. He may be against it, or he may be ok with you seeking same-sex sex outside the marriage.

Answer 6

so why don't you and your husband have a threeway with another girl and then you both can have fun.It won't be easy you'll need to trust each other and set ground rules before hand.but doing it once won't get it out of your system it will only make you want to do it more.

Answer 7

I don't know. Clearly you are not alone in this world.

Ever thought of simply engaging in this sort of activity in plain fantasy form. I mean, there are materials you and your husband might both enjoy.

I do think, if you chose to indulge in actual fact, you should probably not do so behind your husbands back.

Answer 8

You made a choice, to marry your husband and have a committed relationship with him. There is nothing wrong with you, but it's just the same as seeing another man that you are attracted to. It's up to you to hold steady in your relationship. Chances are this fleeting sense of desire will pass and when it does your husband will be there still loving you. Don't act on it. Man, woman, it doesn't matter as long as you love and are loved.

Answer 9

It is not cheating if he knows it is happening and says it's ok. If you really want to try being with a woman, talk to him about it. Maybe you can try a 3some or maybe (preferably!) he will let you try it without him. This is about YOUR desire to explore another side of yourself, not his desire for getting 2 women.

Answer 10

Nothing is wrong with you, this is just your way in life.Your heart controls your body which means you cant stop loving what is truly in your heart.It may seem awkward but this is how it is.It is perfectly fine to be bisexual because that is what is in your heart even if you dont know it is.