I have been married for almost 4 years now and my wife is 7 months pregnant. I will admit that I wrongfully have been cheating with another woman during my wife's pregnancy. It has been found out that I am the father of the other woman's baby and she is 3 months pregnant. I have begged her to get an abortion but she refuses to do so. The ironic thing about this situation is that the pregnant woman is my wife's subordinate at work. I am stressing over this and don't know what to do. My wife doesn't know yet and I want to clear up this problem in a reasonable way. What should I do?
2006-11-26 09:29:10 · 17 answers · asked by Rob 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Can you say CHILD SUPPORT.
2006-11-28 05:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Darcee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one, abortion is ultimately up to the other woman, and if she doesn't want an abortion, well...that's the way it works. You play-you pay. And I don't blame her, abortion may be for some, but not others.
I suggest you come clean with your wife. You've just broadcast to the entire world you are an adulterer, but yet, the innocent parties (wife and unborn child) have no clue. That's just not right. Don't wait, either. The perfect time will never come.
Now, how do you know for sure that this other kid is yours ? Any woman who has an affair with a married man, is desperate for attention of any kind, and knows the relationship is bound to end, therefore usually seeks company "elsewhere".
Come clean ASAP !!
2006-11-26 09:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by Holly B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See the thing is you should for sure come clean and tell your wife but seeing as she is 7 months into her pregnancy the news could set her into early labor from the stress of things, I know even if women aren't pregnant hearing that their husband someone who took vows to love and to cherish just broke them and on top of it got the other women pregnant, and a women that she knows to make things worse!! I think the news could really affect her pregnancy and her health although I do think you should tell her and let her know about this before the other women does. There is no easy way to tell her you just need to lay it out on the table and let her know everything and be honest that is the least you can do after being unfaithful to your wife. I am sorry but I myself don't have any pitty for you for what you have done you knew what you were doing was wrong and the risks and chances of things happening so my best advice to you is let her know but be prepared to lose your wife and your unborn child your little family more than likely is no longer going to be a family.
2006-11-26 09:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are stuck between a rock a hard place. I would do the right thing by telling your wife what you did, you have to pay the consequences. And if the other lady wants to have the baby, you can't tell her not to have b/c you made a mistake. Either way you need to be there no matter what . Please tell your wife , you will hate yourself if you keep something like this away from her.Pray to God that your wife will forgive you. Stay fathiful or you should of never got married.
2006-11-26 09:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by TM 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow - you've screwed up pal. Your wife needs to hear- from YOU, before anyone else - that you've cheated on her. You very well may lose her. I'm pregnant now and if I found out that my husband cheated on me, esp at this point, I'd still love him, but get rid of him. There were vows made and that's that. This other woman obviously knew you were married - shame on her as well - and could still have you pay child support. If you do not tell your wife now, how would you explain the missing money from your paychecks?
I agree - you've made your bed, now sleep in it. Tough situation you've gotten yourself into, my friend, and I do not feel sorry for you one bit.
2006-11-26 09:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Meg S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is quite a problem that you caused for yourself. All you can do is tell your wife and yeah it will kill her, but you have to come clean. That is really going to mess things up, with you, her work, the baby, etc.... You might want to warn the other woman that your going to tell your wife. I dont know what else to say. That is horrible, but Im sure you know that.
2006-11-26 09:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing is first..from now on keep your dick in your pants. You're going to have to tell your wife about it. You can't force the other women to have an abortion either. But I would get prepared to pay for that child. You've made your bed and now you have to lie in it. Maybe next time you won't be so selfish.
2006-11-26 13:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by ktpb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made your bed...lay in it. I'm sorry to sound harsh, but you know the risks when you screw around on your spouse. And you can't force a woman to have an abortion EITHER. Best bet is tell all and risk losing your wife, mistress, and two kids!!
You should have thought about this BEFORE you did this. Sorry, no symapthy for you. Good luck!
2006-11-26 09:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get ready to divide your assets 50/50. There is no reasonable way to clear this up. You broke your wedding vows. Not only that, but you did it during her pregnancy. Shame on you!
2006-11-26 09:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get ready for taking care of two babies " child support" and to lose your wife cause if my husband ever ever did that to me i swear i would never ever forgive him and will file for divorce but i know he loves me cause he only wants me and i know that for a fact we are always together and when he wants to go out he wants to take me no other guy does that not that i know of but i totally trust my man. Good luck you can either lose both of them.
2006-11-26 10:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dude you messed up big time.. and its gonna cost you one way or the other.. pick who you want to be with and tell the other.. end which ever is over.
And do it quickly and as fairly as you can
you brought 2 lives into the world and now want us to bail you out.. well its not going to happen... you need to deal with your mistake and come clean.. too bad kids are involved... dang keep your pants on in future
2006-11-26 09:38:51 · answer #11 · answered by CF_ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋