His a good dad and all but he is not the husband I once married. We've through a lot of ups and downs but now I'm now I realized I'm not happy with him but I'm afraid to leave because I need his help with the kids; just as a someone who would watch my kids while at work. (He is out of work) I tried to kick him out but he would go inside my home like he still leaves here. so I decided to let him stay and I felt bad because he has no where to stay, he has no money for his own place so I let him stay and we fight alot again. can someone please let me know if you were in this crazy situation or know anyone that has ; please advice
2006-11-26 09:20:37 · 9 answers · asked by frances_babie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You both need counsling.
2006-11-26 09:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All marriages go through this down time. What you honestly need to do is go away for a weekend. Not a sex therapy weekend, but a deep talking without distraction one. Chances are he is feeling the same thing you are. If you are open and honest you may find a sloution, an answer, or maybe the man you fell in love with. Chances are your not the same person either.
Don't take advice from perfect strangers on a web site, listen to the father of your kids.
2006-11-26 17:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by cosmiccastaway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bailing out on him would be the easy thing to do. Have you stopped to think that maybe you've changed too? Change and growth are a part of life. There was once something about him that spoke to you. Maybe it's still there, just a little harder to find. I would suggest getting a sitter for a long weekend getaway. Without the constant distractions of the day-to-day with kids, etc., it may be a little easier for the two of you to find each other again. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
2006-11-26 17:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by rtanys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like him not working is the problem. Maybe you would respect him more if he was more than someone who ' watches the kids while you're working' and was bringing in some mulla. You tried to kick him out but you knew that he wouldn't go, and he can't. You fight. All signs of your fustration with his unemployment.
2006-11-26 17:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find time to sit down and calmly talk to him. If you really love you high school sweetheart, then you'll have to make a decision on what you want in your life; even if it means to permanetly kick him out.
2006-11-26 17:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave this Loser on a street corner and Run far and fast in the opposite direction!!
2006-11-26 17:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by kayla0428 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that from the other side. Believe me it will just get worse. If you don't love him it will be better for you and your kids to get out now. His life is not your responsability and your kids will come to see that.
I say get out of the marriage now.
2006-11-26 17:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by duncabby 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get u some professional help. and since ur not happy than get separated and get an divorce. don't use the children for something that would only get worse for ur unhappiness.
2006-11-26 17:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by kimmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i stayed w/ my 1st love for 12 years and finally got rid of him 2 years ago and am in love now for the2nd time...if i can do it anyone can.......oh yeah i stayed w/ the 1st dude when i felt bad for him and ended up having his baby which prolonged the break up, move on quick to what makes you happy.....don't stay to make him happy.
2006-11-26 17:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋