My partner is a victim of rape twice and she wants to have sex with me, thats all good although she does consider herself a virgin...thats fine but what I want is some advice with regards to sex with her, I love her very much she is my soulmate and I DONT want to hurt her in anyway, she wants it me to "shove it in"
I would like to know
: Do I need to use lube?
: If so what should I use?
: How hard to go or not to go hard?
This is a GENUINE question and hence I need some genuine answers, no stupid answers PLEASE.
Mitch
2006-11-26 09:10:51 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I got rape by two guys 4 years ago, it hearts me thinking about it but i am so thankful that i didn't get any STD. after all i didn't feel any pain down there when i had sex with my man b/c he was very sweet thank GOD. but, if you are going to have sex with her show her a lots of love and make her feel she is special, be gentle make it romantic, that will heal her wound. good luck
2006-11-26 09:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would do either one of two things. I would 1. sit down and explain that you don't want to hurt her. Explain that you are concerned and maybe you would just like nature to take it's course... Let things happen as they happen. 2. If you don't want to talk it over then just don't worry about it. Take your time. Be gentle and just go and buy a lube like ky or something. Perhaps if you don't want to talk it over with her then maybe sex should be put on hold. The key is communication. Always try and talk with her.
Good luck.
2006-11-26 09:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by babypink1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say take it slow and show her a lot of love a respect. Be prepared in case she cries or something like that...she's been through alot and may have a slef esteem isssue even though she shouldn't.
2006-11-26 09:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋