It's well known by several folks that my friends husband is consistently unfaithful. I need some advice about it. I haven't said anything to her because I don't want to hurt her but I'm not sure if not saying anything is the right thing to do for her.
2006-11-26 08:49:47 · 23 answers · asked by twinkles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-26 08:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by swissmiss620 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people already know their husbands or wives are cheating and they choose to ignore it for whatever reason. If that's the case, there is nothing you can say or do for her. Just let her do what she wants. On the other hand, some people are the last to know, and believe me, that is the worst feeling in the world. When the truth finally does come out, you feel so stupid because the whole world knew something that you didn't. So, as her friend, you should tell her, I would. That way, if she has no idea,,,,,,,she will thank you for not letting her be the last to know.
2006-11-26 09:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell u something sweetie that a touchy things there because look at it this way.
she will get mad if u knew and didn't say nothing or
she will get mad for u telling her maybe not even believing u.
so have a talk with her some how bring it up in talk u know they say such and such husband or boyfriend is cheating on her and if it was me I would want to know, and If she say me too than tell her if not,
send a letter don't sign it and b there for her.
because some friend will switch on u in a heart beat. Instead of them think that u r helping they will think u jealous and try to take their man, or will b okay with it and always let them cheat so pray and go from there. good luck.
2006-11-26 08:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by msgris2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the hardest question that I have ever wanted to answer but afraid to.I'm going to tell you why and I'm not proud.Years ago I was cheating on my wife and everyone in town knew but her.no one would tell her for fear of hurting her.She found out about 5 years after and that hurt her more,because she thought and rightfully so that all her friends had betrayed her.Still I don't know what you should do but maybe this can give you something to think about.Good luck to you and your friend. She will find out sometime.
2006-11-26 09:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I eliever you have to tell her. No matter how hard it is she needs to know. She may be upset in the begining, but it is only from the shock of what he has done, not that you told her. Believer me, I just found out my husband was having an affair, I found out on my own. After a few weeks i found out that many of my family and friends already knew. I was very upset with all of them for not telling me the truth. Just find a way, Your friendship will be ok... :)
2006-11-26 11:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You best have the evidence when you tell her. If not she will not believe you and it will cause your friendship to go down hill. This is a really hard position to be in and I feel for you. You have to make sure that you can prove what you are saying. But remember that if she finds out that you knew and didn't say anything will cause problems as well. Good luck...
2006-11-26 09:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How good a friend is she? If your husband was cheating on you,would you expect her to tell you? Sometimes it is easier to sit back and say nothing- it is possible she knows too and just closes her eyes to it but what if she doesnt know and finds out that you knew all along and didn't tell her? I would say if you consider her a good friend and if you are positive that it is true,then you need to tell her but then you need to be there for her for support and what entails next..
2006-11-26 08:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by karen_michele_1122 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't the husband the one doing the hurting? It depends on how close you and your friend are. And you have to ask yourself, "Would I want my friend(s) to tell >me< my husband was cheating on me?" Interfering in friends' marriages is sticky ground. It could backfire on you, and you could lose your friend, =or= your friend will be eternally greatful for cluing her in that her husband is a louse. Imagine when she finds out he's cheating, and then finds out you knew about it all along? Yikes... If you do decide to tell her, you better have some evidence to back up your story.
2006-11-26 08:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, tell the spouse. She has a perfect to understand in view that she is the single being damage, lied to, and placed at risk of an STD. Get information first. Use your cellular to take a %of the pig and the whore so that you having something to reveal the spouse might want to she no longer believe it.
2016-11-29 19:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know about it, this puts you in the middle. You are her friend, yet you think it isn't any of your business. I would not tell her because it is her marriage. But you can talk to him and ask him when he is going to tell her, since you and half the town know about it. Just stick by your friend and support her. The truth will eventually come out. And when it does, tell her that she is your friend, yet it wasn't your responsibilty to tell her. Good luck! :)
2006-11-26 08:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋