if people were open with their spouses as far as being attracted to other people and being interested in being friends with another member of the opposite sex? I mean, keep it real! No one can be everything that there spouse needs at any given time. Epspecially, since no one even puts forth the effort because they think they are all there spouse needs. How short sighted and self righteous. To everyone that is married.....You are only one person and on your best day, you can not please your spouse in all areas. Let's not fool ourselves into thinking we can.
2006-11-26 08:44:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are entirely correct in saying that one person cannot be everything to another. And I firmly believe that outside friendships of the opposite sex are essential in maintaining a healthy perspective. The thing is I think this is a topic worth exploring prior to marriage to make sure everyone is on the same page. Marriage and relationships mean different things to different types of people. Some possessive, some insecure. In a perfect world we could be honest about everything, but many times the green eyed monster will rear its head.
Good points. I do agree.
2006-11-26 09:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look at it this way if you were on a deserted island and could only have one other person with you . If you say anyone other than your spouse You married the wrong person my friend. More marriages would last if we waited until we were in or late 20's to early 30's to wed. and really get to know one another.No one is perfect ,but my husband is mighty dam close [just ask him] . I am still head over heels in love with him ,and I'm an old lady of 53 there now you got something to think about. I really hope this fool helped to change your mind ,even just a little.
2006-11-26 17:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by shelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What yore describing here is inmaturity and the unwillingness to make a long lasting committment. Divorce rate would be way down if people had to wait til their late 20s and have had to date each other faithfully for at least 5 yrs. This would get rid of all the game playing involved with younger people getting married at too early an age, and if you can survive the 5 yrs then you know this other person and you stand a pretty good chance of making it go. maturity then sets in, and you know there is no way to always please your partner, but you accept that fact and live with it, that we will always be people. 5yrs. will also show everyones shortcomings and whether youre willing to live with them. If the 5yr thing doesnt work then you split like a regular couple without being a statistic. It all boils down to one thing;when is a person mature enough to handle a real long term committment?
2006-11-26 17:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then unless your spouse agrees to an open marraige and you know in advance then you need outside entertainment, then you probably shouldnt get married. If you are seeking to be married and to be committed to one person for life, then that is marraige in the traditional sense and yes, most marraiges end in divorce due to cheating because not everyone can live up to those obligations but there are a lot of people out there that believe in open relationships and marraiges. Sounds like that would be what you need.
2006-11-26 17:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by karen_michele_1122 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is the # 1 cause for divorce. Let's be real, if you want to think with the little head...........don't get married. Marriage is a partnership and if you can't accept all of your partners flaws........good side.......etc. Then you don't need to be married. You will only end up hurting them and that is not right. Being friends with members of the opposite sex (if they are only your friend and not both your friend) can only lead to something wrong.
2006-11-26 16:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by FireBug 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I smell an adulterer! You can remain true to your spouse if you understand the situations that can case you to stray.
Yes, you must be honest with your spouse however, using honesty to run the streets is simply horrid. Tell them what you are thinking and let her or him decide if it's best for your marriage. I'll bet Ninety nine percent of the time the answer will be HELL NAW!
2006-11-26 16:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never thought that marriage was a realistic institution. Way too many "romantic" myths...very little reality involved. So I honestly don't think it's a viable way for people to live. If you aren't ready to make compromises that probably will make you miserable...just don't get married.
2006-11-26 17:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by twinkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree!! My husband has friends of the opposite sex and that is fine with me, but when he has found out in the past that I have a guys number in my cell phone, look out......Whats wrong with being friends?? Whats wrong with being human??
2006-11-26 16:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never been married have you? most spouses dont take it well when you tell them your are attracted to some one else. lmao.....
2006-11-26 16:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage break ups are usually because of lack of comunications, and yes you can please each other if you let God lead your lives, and do things God's way.....take care
2006-11-26 16:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋